It's normal, but it isn't because he sees you as any less beautiful - it's because you are more of a complete person to him. When he looks at you now, he doesn't just see the outside; his perception now includes his emotions for you as a person. It's a deeper connection and he's expressing it in a deeper way.
While I understand wanting and appreciating compliments on your appearance, ultimately you are much better off that you are more than your looks or body to him and that his feelings have matured and deepened. That's what you should really care about because that's what really matters.
Tell him that his deeper feelings for you make you really happy, and you appreciate them, but you wouldn't mind if he gave you the occasional appearance-based compliment like he used to as well. Guys don't always realize that you miss those things, and don't mind being told exactly what you want - because we don't read minds and we don't like to have to guess at what you want. Just tell him, but remember to make sure he knows you appreciate the things he IS ALREADY doing too.
The compliments may not be as romantic for the moment but that doesn't mean he loves you any less! Why not have a special night together? Make it an occasion like a fancy dinner or a drive-in movie. As you're spending time together, thank him for being the loving and caring boyfriend that he is. That every moment you two spend together is memorable. I'm sure with reigniting the flame in him to how important he is in the relationship, he'll come back to you, saying how much you mean to him in his life! If he admits that he's becoming less romantic because of another problem in his life, talk about it and bring comfort to him.
Sometimes, all we men need is a reminder of how special the relationship is and why we are grateful to be in it :)
Don't worry. He does that because when you got together he had yet to know you as a person, and he complimented your looks because it's most appropriate. It's not that he thinks of you any less, it's just that when you were dating the only thing he was able to see is your looks and he's complimenting what he sees. After all, your personality is not written on your face. Everyone has their good and bad qualities, so you can't be ,, perfect". For example, let's say that you're passionate but not patient, and you know it, then your boyfriend decides to say you're patient. He didn't know the real you back then. He didn't completely see your personality, so he complimented what he was seeing.
He probably doesn’t feel the need to compliment you everyday when he tells you he cares about you a lot and he loves you a lot. That’s also like a compliment in itself
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That should be expected to some degree. How long have you been together and how involved are you, do you live together? It matters
Once you start to get comfortable and routines develop, and they call the first 2 years the “moonlighting years” because couples are so passionate and romantic with each other. That’s why so many relationships end after 2 years, when it’s over. Then what happens is less exciting, you learn to make things work together, feels like a plan, like strategy in sports “you go long, I’ll pass you the ball, then do abc” and it’s just less sexy, but necessary step.
He could feel you two are predictsble and not sure where it’s all going, not sure, but sounds like he doesn’t think he has a risk of losing you, or else he wouldn’t be so subdued
Yeah it's pretty typical, guys don't really place much value in compliments in day to day interactions. If you feel you miss him doing those sorts of compliments and its something you require, let him know to be aware and he'll probably put in the effort to remember to do so for you. Communicating your needs is always good for any relationship, and try to avoid the "he should just know/ I shouldn't have to ask/ asking ruins the spontaneous nature of being complimented " route of thinking. No one is a mind reader
On one hand, yes. But that's just relatively.
He's becoming relaxed around you, but while this is a good thing, it's also a sign that he doesn't feel urgency in getting your attention. So i suggest going about your day in a way that drags your attention away from him. Keep busy/distance while your with him, but don't ignore him. If your boyfriend notices this, he will react by picking back up his knack for complimenting you. If not, don't freak out, just confront him calmly about it.
But mostly, don't over-analyze anything, people don't really watch what they do, or understand the effect that their have actions on someone.
It could be a number of things, but to me it sounds like, you two likely passed the "puppy love" phase. Now is the time you two really start to get know each other, and will determine if this will be a long term or short term deal. No more filters, just a raw photo. Some relationships will grow into a strong durable plant during this trial, others will slowly whither away with time. It's as Natual as nature. Regardless of what happens, I wish you to the best.
Well, after saying it so many times and so often, maybe he figures you got the point.
But relationships eventually lead into a comfort zone where things like that start to die down. It's not that you are losing interest in each other, but that your feelings for one another should be well established by that point.
Well that's perhaps how most guys view it anyways.
Additionally, if you say things like that too often, it starts to lose its value and meaning... It starts to become routine.
I'll bet you he does and ways that you're just not aware of. Try looking for them and I think you'll find it a more genuine form of complimenting you. If you forgotten to notice those or just have been blind to them all along you'll find that causes a sadness that can't be consoled. eventually you'll find that you are more distant than you were before you met each other
Well, yeah. I assume that the relationship was relatively new at the time, and that y'all were realtively new to relationships in general. This happens in every relationship, and is a sign that it's built to last. He's still expressing that he loves you, I just think that he thinks you know he already has that stuff in his heart everytime he says that kind of thing to you. Don't worry, it's nothing to do with you. If you like being complimented, tell him so. He can only be the boyfriend to you that he knows you need so let him know what you need.
Pretty much its not a fact we dont think it anymore it just that we are sick if saying it. Like i dont know you but my girlfriend constantly dismisses my compliments and compares her self to others. So it really started to bug me because we dont just say it we mean it and if you dont accept it then we stop. Most of us dont play that game
Yeah, do you do things that you started doing when you first got together... And the right answer is no, because no one does... At least he is still letting you know that he loves and cares for you... But I know women stop doing things that helped keep a guy enthusiastic, and men stop also doing things that attracted you... Because of that... It goes both ways.
Yeah, As you get more comfortable in a relationship and it becomes more long term. Some guys feel like that they don't need to anymore because they've told you enough for you to know that they think you're beautiful. If you want a constant flow of compliments again, I would suggest talking to your boyfriend.
Depends on how long you've been together. If it's early on, then he's probably losing interest. If it's been 8+months than yes it's normal, sometimes you need a break from hearing those things so it feels special again when you finally do hear it. I tell my girlfriend to not say I love you as much to keep the words important.
If you have a suspicion his interest in you might be less than it was, then I would suggest asking him if he still feels the same way about you. But if he's still telling you that he loves and cares for you, then all may still be good.
Oh, how cute is that ❤️
He just reached a point where he only cares about you and want you safe, he's basically demonstrating that he wants to spend the rest of his life with you.
He's on a better stage now, take care of him, he's emotional.
How often do you compliment him? Maybe he feels it isn't bieng recipricated... One sided encouragement can get really old.
I believe this would be normal behavior for a man in this situation. I personally I find it hard to keep making compliments to a girl without being redundant. It could also be that he thinks if he says "you're so amazing" or "beautiful" or similar things too many times that they will loose their meanings and stop getting a reaction. Have a great day!
Saying the same thing over and over gets old especially if you are still doing the same stuff as in the beginning, I went through this, and she started doing random little things, which intrigued me. Dont have expectations just do things to show him he still is the one you want. Cater to his ego, we eat that shit up. Even if we know it's probably not true it makes us feel like well men. if you do all this and he doesn't start showing you, it's probably over
Its normal he feels like he said it all. Maybe compliment him more and
In a teasing way joke about him not complimenting you as much. Say like you miss it in a sweet poutty tone
women are Auditory but men are intuitive, it's so difficult for men to say how much they love things. but they act the love rather than telling I love U or blah blah...
Guys like to do. compliment a different way. it normal for guy not do compliment. It get boring. Why do ask this question you going to know the answer. guys are different to woman.
If you enjoy more words of affirmation tell him I’m sure he’d be happy to make you happy
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