My girlfriend gets nasty when she gets drunk, what should I do?

[ronalddrojas]

Everything is good when she's sober but when she drinks she changes and blames me for her mistakes.

[NearlyNapping]

I went though that for many many years. She was Jekyll and Hyde. Most people are the same person when they drink, just a drunk version of the same person. She changed into someone else. She'd drink and pick fights over completely imagined things. She did the same thing with other people also, including strangers at the bar.

She always denied that drinking was a problem between us. After several years of this I finally realized the reason she denied it was because she didn't remember a thing. So in her mind it didn't happen.

It was a big mistake waiting for her to change and quit drinking. If you expect her to change, that may be nothing more than wishful thinking. I'm not really bitter about my own experience. But it's a mistake I'll never repeat.

[Bananaman177]

Hey, the way she is when she's drunk is how she really is.

The longer you stay with her, the harder it will be for her to keep up the nice girl act and the more her mask will slip. She's fucking nasty, it's not the alcohol doing that to her.

Most girls are not wife material, my man.

[Anonymous]

My husband would get agro when he'd drink too much. One night he completely lost it while I was driving us home after a night out, I was terrified of what would happen when we got home but I was too afraid to drive to the closest police station.
He was heading of to a doctor app a few weeks later so I put our 2 and 3 year old kids in my car and followed him. I arrived just as the Dr was calling his name. I started the conversation about his aggression and drinking. I needed to talk to him in a safe place where I know he couldn't just brush it off as me over reacting. He needed to know that his behavior was not normal and he needed help to work through this.

[Bbbella]

Make it clear to her that you will not be used as an excuse, be put down for something you had no control over. Everyone's life is their own, and what they make it. Its pathetic to blame another person for your personal regrets, when the other person has their life to deal with, its selfish.

[gwail]

You said what I was thinking but in better words 👍

[Random_lil_biscut]

Talk to her and ask her if she'd be able to cut back on her drinking. Be honest about how if affects you. If she can't understand how her drinking bothers you and it something that occurs often, break up with her because this is not a part of a healthy relationship.

[MarkRet]

She's one of those people who just get mean when they get drunk. I hate people like that. I don't think there's much you can do about it, but I think that kind of person is giving you a view of something really ugly inside them that they keep very well hidden. Only the alcohol brings it out. Mel Gibson is like that.

[PropagandaMinister]

she had bad parents and didn't learned respect and stuff like that.
you can teach her to show respect if you want, its not that hard, if you know when you have to react and how.
i wouldn't. i wouldn't want to be her teacher or her daddy. if she doesn't want to change herself i would just leave her. because thats just the beginning. if she realize she can disrespect you whenever she wants she does it 24/7.

[Robin48]

First of all, I do not date people who drink. I do not hang around those who get drunk. You need to find a new girlfriend. When someone as drinking issues and gets drunk. They are dealing with some very serious issues internally. One of the issues can be sexually.

[Nyx_85]

K there are definitely issues she needs to work out. When she is sober. People don't get like that unless there is some underlining cause. Alcohol brings out the truth.

[chrisbigman]

Maybe try to convince her to monitor her own drinking. If necessary, record her while she's drunk and then show it to her when she's sober. Or maybe consider talking to her and find out if there's any sort of underlying issue she has with you. Just in case, probably record her when she's drunk before you talk to her. That way, you have proof to back you up.

[DanielleMarie98]

You might want to get therapy, I study psychology and your girlfriend sounds like an alcoholic. It won't be long before things start to get physical, I suggest you get in contact with a therapist before things get worse.

[LesterJester]

Don't you mean a therapist for her rather than him? She's the one with the problem.

[DanielleMarie98]

@LesterJester Yeah, I'm sorry I worded that wrong. You both should go so you can express your feelings, that was what I was trying to say

[SarahsSummer]

she needs to learn her alcohol limits and possible seek therapy to understand why she lashes out at you for her shortcomings

[SarahsSummer]

@Italian-stallion lol butt hurt much stallion? A toolbag like you could never get within a hundred feet of me. Oh, and its an Audi S4 cabriolet, not a honda. Although I had a honda once and loved it.

[jp612612]

I'd avoid hanging around her when she gets drunk. I've dated a mean drunk before and it was no fun. In addition, she'd get really defensive when I'd accuse her of being a mean drunk. If I were you, I wouldn't budge on this one.

[Anonymous]

hey, I've got that problem too. you know she'll probably spend a night in the drunk tank and change her behavior. worked for me.

[hellionthesagereborn]

Tell her that when she is sober and tell her you will not be used as a punching bag or as a cruch for her. Don't let her being drunk be an excuse to put you down and treat you badly.

[WriterAndPainter]

You know, it's always used as a crutch for behavior. If she can't handle the drinking then she shouldn't drink. If she doesn't it will only worsen. If she doesn't stop or learn to control HERSELF, then I suggest you find someone that doesn't drink.

[Don-pablo]

my ex would turn very aggressive when drunk and would not remember the next day, however, would not stop drinking

[Don-pablo]

until i left her ass

[WriterAndPainter]

@Don-pablo yeah, this is why I don't drink. Sometimes it brings the worst out of people

[Don-pablo]

no, I get very happy and funny when I'm drunk I don't go out there killing people vibes however I decided to no longer drink cause i am working on some things in my life

[WriterAndPainter]

@Don-pablo that's good. Life before pleasure

[madhatters4]

you could talk to her about it. tell her that you feel like she becomes a different person when she drinks. hopefully she'll take it into consideration to change her behavior

[Eddieniceboy]

She sounds like two of my buds when we go drinking... afterwards, we get tacos from the taco truck and they both sober up then it's back to normal or more drinking.. depends on the night.

[vishna]

She needs to lay off the bottle, that's it. What would therapy change? You're not thinking straight when drunk anyway.

[anaspie]

Have you spoken to her about her drinking... it seems that it is now a bit of a problem. If she can stop drinking maybe that will solve your issue.

[Browneye57]

Mine does too. Tell her to not fukkin drink.

I got mine switched from vodka martinis to craft beers. It's a WHOLE lot better. Her sex drive is back too.

:)

[I-am-a-nobody]

Tell her if she drinks, you'll leave her or accept life with a nasty person.

[enigmatikal]

i wouldn't trust her drinking anywhere else without me

[Anonymous]

Ask yourself this question. What would a wise person with high self esteem do?

There is your answer.

[FatherJack]

This is her REAL self coming out... I would strongly suggest you dump her , she may even turn violent with you.