If my boyfriend is good friends with all his exes, should I be worried?

[deola]

every woman he has had something to do with are all his friends. some even know each other, they are all on his Facebook. should I have a problem with that. he makes them more important than me, our relationship. he even said one time that he wouldn't ruin his relationship with them, his exes because of me. is that a clear sign for me to move on.

[caili]

There is a fine line between being a mature adult and preserving important friendships from the past and being insensitive to your current partners needs.

I am freinds with some of my exes - in one case very good friends and I would be very concerned if a new boyfreind came onto the scene and demanded I stop talking or seeing any of my friends - ex or not.

However once dating has turned into a relationship I do think that its important to consider your partners feelings - after all thsi is meant to be your Primary relationship and therefore your partner should take first place for most things.

You don't say how long you have been seeing this guy or in what context he said he that he wouldn't ruin his freindships for you. You also don't say exaclty how he behaves with these women - is it just their existance that bothers you or the way they interact with your boyfriend?

I think you should talk to him about how you feel - if he is not willing to consider your feelings or try to reassure you ( providing you are being reasonable) then maybe you should move on - but if this is just a touch of the green eyed monster ( and we all get insecure - especially at the start of a new relationship) maybe you need to remind yourself that he chose you - he doesn't have to be with you and allow yourself to make friends with these ladies - if nothing else it will help you get to know your guy better :)

[AnonymouslyKnown]

I'd say that says good things about him rather than anything you should be worried about. If he's able to keep a cordial relationship with his past girlfriends, that most likely means that he and his former partners are just sensible people. There's no reason that you can't be friends with someone just because the relationship has ended.

Also, I'd take it as a good sign that he isn't willing to compromise his friendships due to a current partner (you), it means he doesn't consider his friends expendable. Quite frankly (and maybe I'm the bad guy here, could just be our perspectives differ), I wonder why you would want him to stop being friends with people from his past, regardless of them formerly dating or not. He obviously values you more than these women, otherwise why would he be with you instead of one of them?

[AkilJoseph]

I think that if a guy can remain friend with his exes that's a very good thing,it shows that all his relationships have had a base of friendship under all the sex,loving,and other things that came.What does this mean to you?its simple you guy have the same foundation.but this thing about him saying"I won't ruin my friendship with them for you is crazy specially that he is saying that to your face, but unless you are being insecure and not realizing that he is with you now and he has a choice of remaining friends with exes if he wants and it has no effect on what he has with you then I think you should stay.

[Anonymous]

Nope he's only hooking up with them, and then you will do the same when he breaks up with you..