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My guy told me that I'm "pretty but not the prettiest girl I've ever seen". Should I just end things? (Page 2)
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I think I got what you meant. I have the opposite problem. My boyfriend swears I am the prettiest (real life) girl he ever laid eyes on and I don't like that because I think that's not true. So either way, there will be a problem trust me.
Unlike my boyfriend who loves to flatter me and say untrue things to please me, yours just seems very down to earth and chose to answer spontaneously and truthfully. I don't think his point was hurting you. I think he was just being honest. I wouldn't have been bothered at all if my boyfriend told me that I am pretty but that there's prettier than me out there because that's a true fact. I can't expect to be the prettiest woman to his eyes because that only happens in movies. I myself find some other men more appealing than my boyfriend. It doesn't mean I don't love him nor that I want to be with any of those other men.
You're viewing "prettiest" as "best" when they're not synanomous. Saying that if he thinks there is better out there he should be getting that instead is saying that the only thing of value you have is your beauty, which is lower than others he has seen.
Just because there are prettier girls doesn't mean there are better matches for him, or that those kind of girls embody traits and qualities he finds attractive in a partner. Him saying others are pretty does not negate your sexual attraction, unless he refuses to have sex with you because you're hideous which obviously isn't happening.
Really, I think you're placing far too much importance on one word rather than clarifying beauty vs quality girlfriend in his opinion if it really matters that much to you.
You're a beautiful girl but your bad attitude towards people giving their opinion is childish and lowers your appeal a great deal. If you don't want honest opinions then you shouldn't ask for them
This question is stupid.
You are very beautiful.
But you will never be the prettiest girl - because that girl does not exist.
Why? Standards of beauty change all over the world.
Yes there will always be women more beautiful than you, as you get older that will become more and more true.
It's okay to admire someone who is beautiful.
Your boyfriend is just being honest and you should respect it.
Beauty is not only looks. It can be actions, the way someone speaks, the way someone walks, their charisma.
look he's just being honest. It's not a bad thing. If my wife has a new outfit or hairstyle that looks terrible I will tell her straight up. She might be momentarily upset but the good thing is that when I tell her she looks good she knows I'm not just lying or saying it. In your case your are obviously a very very attractive girl and I'm sure your use to people telling you that you are. That being said he could just be trying to bring you down a notch. Besides honestly it doesn't matter. Regardless of how attractive your Significant Other is you will eventually get bored with them and having sex with them and want someone else - even if they're. not nearly as attractive. iIts happened to every guy I know whose been marrried for more than a few years. Doesn't mean they are going to act in those feelings though lol. that's why there's porn lol.
Why did he say that? Did you ask him if you are pretty or the prettiest girl he have ever seen/ been with? If he just said this to you without you having asked his opinion, then he's mean af. If you asked for his opinion, well... yeah, it was unnecessary, but he was being sincere. He could have just said you're pretty or that you're one of the prettiest girl he have ever seen/ been with (the latter being a lie if he was not just kidding)... Wasn't he just kidding? If i were you, i'd talk about this with him. Beauty is not all that matters, though, so just because he can be with girls that look better it doesn't mean he wants it. So, not a reason to dump him.
I kind of asked him. It was a conversation we were having. He did say I'm the prettiest he's BEEN WITH just not the prettiest he's SEEN
Did you actually ask him "Am I the prettiest girl you've seen?" or did he just randomly tell this? Because if it's the latter I say he's a jerk (and a bit mental) and you should dump him. However if you asked him... Sounds like you wanted him to lie to you. But of course you probably also want a guy who's honest. So what do you want? Oh that's right.. you want to be the prettiest girl. Sorry if the answer he gave wasn't the one you were expecting. That's life. Just because he's seen girls he finds prettier than you doesn't mean he wants to date them. There has to be something there other than JUST looks. You sound very insecure.
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You probably should not dump him JUST for that.. but he should not go out of his way to say those things.. If it came up i conversation whatever.. Guys will always have unrealistic expectations of beauty due to media etc but his reality is YOU and your very pretty. BUT if he is always putting you down or there are other things in the relationship that seem off I would think about talking to him about what has been bothering you and you both could make a decision whether the relationship should continue... you can't be with someone you constantly tells you other girls are prettier than you.. it will just hurt your self esteem and he is not worth it..
I just read the update lol.. You need to think of your relationship as a whole.. Does he seem in love still, his he bringing this up often, has he been acted strange.. You need to probably talk tohim about everything your feeling in a calm manner and go from there.. I do see where your coming from with all of this but just look at the big picture of things..
ignore everyone "throwing you shade".
you should be the prettiest girl in the world to any guy you date. he shouldn't say things like this.
there will always be prettier girls. the "prettiest girl in the world" does NOT exist despite what media tries to tell us. but you should be the prettiest to HIM. get what I mean?
If everyone was honest, probably less than 1% of both men and women would say their partner is the best looking man or woman they've ever seen. That doesn't mean he is not passionately attracted to you sexually and romantically.
But the issue is that this is necessarily the time to be honest. My question to you is how is he as a partner aside from this poor judgement? Is he good to you? Is he good in bed? Is he a descent human being? Do you get along well? Do you enjoy spending time together?
Those are the important things, not whether he is honest with you when you ask him if your jeans make you look fat.
... this *isn't necessarily the time to be honest
you must think very highly of yourself if you think you are the absolute best looking girl he has ever seen.
seriously, just take that in for a second. how many girls has he seen in his life time? and you're number 1?
I agree, he shouldn't have said what he did, he was an idiot to do so, but common sense should tell you you're not the best looking girl he has ever seen.
not to be horrible but you need to get over yourself and he needs to think before he speaks.
If I'm not then he doesn't need to be with me then
then so be it... he has given you his answer. you are not the best looking girl he has ever seen and that leaves you with 2 options... grow up and join the real world, or leave him. its as simple as that.
if you insist on trying to be the most beautiful girl your partner has ever seen, you are either going to end up very lonely or living a lie trying to convince yourself you are something you're not.
once again, im not trying to be horrible here but you obviously think very highly of yourself and arrogance isn't very attractive and he was an idiot to speak so bluntly.
either way i dont see the relationship lasting, you obviously want to be worshipped as some sort of goddess and he can see what he has.
sorry, typo.
edit: either way i dont see the relationship lasting, you obviously want to be worshipped as some sort of goddess and he can't see what he has.
@ OP, I agree with the part that he needs to think before he speaks, however most guys who are truly in love with their girlfriends truly do believe that they are the most beautiful woman in the world even with their flaws or will at least tell their girlfriends that they are. I know I've felt that way about all of the guys I fell in love with because that's just how the mind works when you're in love.
I don't mean to sound like a bitch, but if a guy openly tells you that you're not the most beautiful woman in the world or that some other girl looks better than you do , then he's a dumbass and an asshole.
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Thank you. Agreed :)
@babylips14 yes i agree. I already said he was an idiot for being so blunt but the asker is totally fixated on her physical appearance and that level of arrogance is unattractive.
"And I've done modeling, so I know I'm not ugly - to those throwing shade"
yeah great... you may look physically appealing but i can tell you're full of yourself and that princess syndrome is ugly AF.
No, I'm not full of myself but when I'm being verbally attacked, I clap back. When a woman expresses confidence in herself she's labled as arrogant. If I was feeling bad about myself, everyone would be telling me to "get some confidence". Either way I lose
im sorry, but there is a line that needs to be drawn between confidence and arrogance. and it doesn't matter what gender you are, so lets not go down that route ok... men are just as capable of thinking too much of themselves.
also, I've not verbally attacked you, I've told you the truth. you are not the most attractive woman in the world and the sooner you realise that the better.
I have said all over this post that I don't think I am the most attractive woman in the world. Beauty is subjective so that title doesn't exist. I wasn't referring to you verbally attacking me but others have
First off, your guy needs to learn about being humble and what NOT to say to his lady. What's next on the criticism list?
Second he needs to get his eyes or brain checked because you are very pretty (wow).
Third, if he is like that, then go find a guy who will adore you as you are. I know I would.
Don't listen to the haters.
I say he is having issues. Best to cut the cord early on and move on. You should find a guy that has his shit together and will appreciate you. Good luck.
There will always be someone more physically attractive, what keeps the relationship strong is the emotional connection and attraction not the physical one , that being said, you shouldn't ever say that to your one and only, they should feel like the most beautiful woman or guy in their bf/gf's eyes!
Some guys actually think they need to say things like that so that you don't get an ego... or, he's just an ass! lol. You are beautiful and you need to feel desired, if he's not making you feel that, then yes maybe he's not right for you. In a way, it's kind of verbal abuse what he's doing.
You're being overly dramatic. There will ALWAYS be someone prettier, smarter or even more athletic than you. It's just fact. Be happy you are with the guy now. He COULD be with those other prettier girls but who's he with now? You. Be grateful for that, because you are about to let your insecurities break up your relationship.
You won't ever be the prettiest girl in your BF's eyes (anyone who says other wise, is a freakin liar), but he loves and admire you for you; flaws and all.
Lol some valid points but I will never be thankful that he's with me. I have other options. If he finds them to be better, I'd rather he be with them. Why should I be happy that he's settling for me?
There you go with that overly dramatic stuff again. Why are you in a relationship with him anyways if you're not gonna fight for it? There are always gonna be prettier people than you! Why are you so quick to give up? To just throw your relationship away. That stupid and weak. Grow a backbone and love him. Who said he was settling? Maybe you have something those other girls don't. Focus on your qualities and stop worrying about other girls...
Lol he's obviously the one "worrying about other girls". It's not stupid or weak to know when it's time to give up. It's not dramatic either - how would you like being put 2nd?
He's obviously not worrying about it too much if YOU'RE the one questioning if you should break up or not. You apparently want someone to pat you up and tell you you are right, you don't want to hear the hard truth. How has he put you 2ND? Is he taking other girls home? Buying other girls gifts? Is he sleeping with other girls? The million dollar question is... Why are you letting other women ruin your relationship?
Honestly, from these discussions, I have come to the conclusion that you are immature and overly dramatic as hell. Maybe it would be better if you two break up. You need to find some confidence in yourself and stop worrying about every little unnecessary factor. You obviously are insecure. Find and embrace your best qualities.
Wow this is so sad you're the prettiest to me. You're a 10 out of 10 and I don't give that out easily. Sorry I'm just a straight girl but I think men are greedy. I'd dump him tbh. You're going to get old before you know it and you're going to hate he didn't appreciate you when you were young. This is y girls are hoes. My boyfriend thinks im the prettiest girl, I also think he's the cutest guy or I wouldn't date him. I'm 29 and been with him since 26. Men are going to hell and they all deserve fat ugly old nagging wives and pretty girls shouldn't give them the time of day. They are porn watching pigs who confuse fantasy with reality
you are lovely,,, he shouldn't be making any comparisons without considering your feelings.
Not sure if you should dump him, but if there is no emotional connection the relationship will have a hard time surviving.
If says other things that are verbally abusive or says mean things (yells or force feeds his will on you) then that will effect your self worth. You are beautiful and you know it.
You'll know if you should dump him.
Even though it was an objective truth, it wasn't the nicest and most considerate thing to say. I would say that you should base your decision on whether his words had any malice in then or not. If it was said in passing, then I don't think you have to dump him. But if he keeps bringing that up then sure.
He's a huge moron to say that. But I also notice that women will put men on the spot with insecure questions and men are expected to just "white lie" over and over. For example "do I look fat?"? Is a classic one.
When it comes to vice versa I've had some women say extremely disrespectful things on dates (I'm not being "alpha", too nerdy looking, too skinny, etc). But since I'm a man my self esteem is supposed to be bullet proof so it's "okay"...
I would blow him off for a while. When he reaches out to you tell him the truth. See how he reacts.
by the way. How often do you see guys asking women "am I good looking"? I've asked this probably once or twice in my life until I realized it probably the most beta question a man can ask...
You sound shallow... here's the deal. You are never going to be "the prettiest girl in the world", if you want him to lie to you to feed your ego, you need help. Just because he is being honest with you so you don't get a big head, doesn't mean he wants to leave you or look for someone better.
The pic you posted is a web pic, so you are likely a troll, so stop trying to pretend you are the girl in the pic.
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I think you should appreciate his honesty. I mean he's with you for a reason right? Even if you are not the prettiest girl you are the one he loves I'm assuming? Even if he was to say you're the most ebuatiful girl I've ever seen it's probably a BS answer anyways the most important thing is that you are his most favorite girl