He never said you're ugly... He was just being truthful and objective in saying that you're not the prettiest girl in the world - and he's right.
I don't see the problem here... Did he say he's not sexually or physically attracted to you? Nope. So you're fine.
If you want some ideal boyfriend who'll think you're the best of everything then find a player - he'll tell you those things until he sleeps with you and then he'll dump you...
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Two problems here. 1. Never said I was the prettiest ever. Are you though? lol 2. I don't put out like that so I won't be used
If you're happy playing 2nd to other women in your mans life then that's on you. I'll wait for better
*That's not called 'playing second' it's called being realistic. Everyone has some shortcoming - and no women or man is perfect... The fact you're so focused on what he thinks of your outside appearance is typical for a teenager... and I understand that, but you'll grow out of it.
The thing you should remember is: he never said you aren't pretty and he never said he isn't attracted to you. + remember than actions speak louder than words.
99 percent of girls are not pretty at all. Flesh is flesh. What makes you pretty is what on the inside of you and that it shine through your body. Makeup is fake, scam. Those who use makeup are not real. People who gossip, slander are not pretty. It makes them ugly. Those who are self-center, self-worship are not pretty. They are ugly. What makes you pretty is when you act like a lady, good health habits, good manners, self-worth, self-esteem, values and morals, positive attitude, true love, caring, honesty, faithful what make you pretty.
@Machiavelli I do not support homosexuality. It a sin against God. Females in general call males homosexuality is to cover up what they are to protect their self.
@Asker don't let these people make you feel like what you're hoping for is too much. I am with someone who treats me like I'm gold and puts me on a pedestal like a queen. You deserve that too.
@fueledbythc just cus not everyone can get a partner like that, doesn't mean they should stick around and get their feelings hurt. If her guy thinks there's others better and points them out to her, then he's not very considerate or deeply in love with her. That's just common sense.
Im a firm believer that feelings need to get hurt in order to grow stronger. When things are perfect, there's something wrong.
Balance is key to life and thats why im still friends with my childhood friends. We have our ups and downs but thats what life is all about. Appreciate imperfections instead of trying to fix them. Maybe its just how weird of a life I've lived that made me grow up faster than others.
"Mirror Mirror on the wall - who is the fairest one of all" ? asked the queen . "you are, as always!" said the boyfriend... oops i meant the mirror. few months/years (depends on the mirror's patience. Mirrors from china last longer, so i heard.) later, the mirror had enough! "snow white is prettier!, and snow black too! just stop harassing me anymore". the queen shattered the mirror. THE END
Since you find your looks to be the most important thing is your relationship, you should do the guy a favor and dump him. You want him to tell you a lie so you can feel good. You'd be beast with a guy that thinks he is Gods gift to women like you think you are to men. Get over your ego. It's very unbecoming. Join the real world.
love him cz he loves u for not what god gave u instead for what u have made ur self... he loves the true u... n thats what true love is.. n moreover he said u the truth even if u didn't liked it... wow u r lucky to have such a guy.. i bet he will never lie to u ... be happy sis u r a lucky girl.. n ofc u r pretty but not the prettiest n u urself know that (srry).. but i m sure u have made ur soul the prettiest one... dont fuckingly comment on the appearance that god gave u cz u did almost nothing to gain these looks but yes u can say that ur personality is ur own n u created that
You probably are very pretty and he knows that. I'm sure if you were single you'd have to beat guys away with a stick. Heck, they're probably waiting in line right now waiting for you to turn single. But, I think most people know that there are better looking people out there than them. And I think they acknowledge that their s/o will find others attractive. That says nothing about you though. He likes you for your personality as well as your looks. He's with you for a reason, because you tick both boxes. I don't think it's something you should stress about tbh.
You are too sensitive. I'm sure you have seen men who look better than him too. Always saying that your partner is the most beautiful person ever would be lying 99.9% of the time. Would you want a liar? Probably not. And beauty is not everything. Would you want a huaband who has all the looks you want, but is a complete ass? or an average-looking guy who can make you laugh, has the brains to do things, and makes you feel special when with him?
I don't want to be mean, but do you want people to be nice to you or honest?
What I want to tell you is that the more insecure you seem on this matter, the less he will like you. You could just tell him that he's mean, and you don't like that. But I would appreciate his hones th, even if it hurts.
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Honestly, I no longer care how I "seem" to him. I'm done...
Ok, then he wasn't your type. This was a sign that you shouldn't waste time on him, because things wouldn't work out. But there are so many types of men. You have a lot of choices in the future.
I've met woman like you that have nothing else to offer besides your "looks" you're going to grow old one day and then what? Yes I know you're thinking plastic surgery or I'm sure you've already gotten something done if not already. Just love yourself enough so that you won't feel down on yourself when your man doesn't think you're the prettiest. Good luck in life, you'll need it.
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Completely untrue. I have many things to offer. Positive personality traits aside. I have a full & part time job. I'm a student. I cook & clean. I volunteer to various causes. I can have an intelligent conversation. I'm not just my looks. Thanks :)
I wasn't referring to having a job. Anyone can get a job can cook and have somewhat of a personality. What you're lacking is self esteem and self worth that's why you need others to validate. That's why you mentioned the whole modeling thing. Post a pic of yourself with no makeup and without anything in your hair.
It was not necessary for you to post a pic of yourself with this question. It's obvious you need attention. He's probably just tired of your bull and you wanting to hear how beautiful you are every second of the day. Try challenging his mind imstead of his eyes.
Look, every woman understands the need to feel wanted and desired and if he doesn't think you're the prettiest it doesn't mean that he doesn't want or desire you sexually. You should really just think about what you really want. If he's honest and loves you and is faithful don't understand why anything else matters.
Even if I asked him, which I did, he shouldn't feel that way. Yes, he gets credit for his honesty but still... What girl wants to be told about other prettier girls? Not even girls on tv or anything but actual girls he's encountered. If that's how he feels he really should just go do "better"...
Dumb. Who cares whether you're the prettiest girl he's ever seen? All that matters is he finds you attractive and enjoys spending time with you and wants a relationship with you. All of the insecurity and 'waaaaah, but I wanna be the one he finds hottest :( :( :( ' is bullshit and pathetic.
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Whatever, who would be willing to play 2nd to other bitches? Not me!!
Wasn't trying to be. You're saying that I should be content with being "just good enough" - that's not good enough for me. If you're ok with that, good for you then
do you think you are honestly the prettiest girl in the world?
his response was crass and shouldn't have been said but if you think that your boyfriend should think you are the prettiest girl in the world then you are kind of being naive
if you want to break up with him for showing bad form. for being crass. ok. but you shouldn't break up with him because he doesn't think you are the prettiest girl in the world
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I've said I don't think I'm the prettiest necessarily. There is always someone better but I'm not going to put another female above me either. All I said is TO HIM I should be the prettiest
if you don't think you are the prettiest how should he think you are the prettiest? in all honesty?
if he said you are the prettiest girl in the world it would be a lie right? would you prefer he lie?
i'm not trying to be rude just trying to be realistic. we can ask people to lie to us and we can't possibly expect them to think that in a world of 6 billion we are the superlative of almost anything. if i asked my wife if i'm the smartest person in the world and she said yes i'd know it a was an unabashed lie
simply saying you aren't the prettiest girl in the world doesn't mean he is putting other girls before you. it just means he is being honest.
No, but you can't base a whole relationship on personality. You might as well just be friends. There has to be physical /sexual attraction. I don't want to be with a man physically if he's not attracted to me & thinks that there's better
no you can't base a whole relationship on personality and he clearly isn't since he said he think you are pretty. clearly he is sexually attracted to you if he has sex with you. clearly he think you pretty.
and you think that you are just available and convenient for a year?
you are allowing your insecurities to get the best of you. it is causing you to think really irrationally and draw illogical conclusions. if you want to destroy this relationship keep down this path. if you like this guy, who clearly likes you, then you need to step back and try to gain perspective. heed the advice that a lot of people are saying rather than just looking for an opinion to validate how you feel.
he shouldn't have said that someone is prettier than you most likely but for you to think that he thinks you are the prettiest girl in the world is really naive.
pretty is a compliment for most people. look in the "how do i look" section to see all the girls who love to be called pretty. know that any guy who says you are the prettiest girl in the world is lying 99.9% of the time
"I want a relationship filled with sexual attraction &to feel desired" nothing about him not thinking you are the prettiest girl in the world means you are not desired or he isn't sexually attracted to you. it simply means that you are not the prettiest girl in the world
operative presumably. you are presuming you don't know what girls he is talking about, where they are or if he is even talking about any specifically. you assume far too much
depends on how objective and honest he usually is. I mean, I don't know what you look like, but it's very unlikely that you actually are the prettiest girl he has ever seen, simply considering the fact that there are a lot of pretty girls to be seen in the world. If it's normal for him to be 'too' honest, I'd just take it as a compliment for your personality. You could also just ask him what he means by it.
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He's very honest always. I don't want my personality complimented, I think physical attraction is also very important. But that's just me...
I understand that. It could just be part of who he is. I have a friend who is quite often a little too honest. For the rest she's really sweet and funny so I'm able to see past that. You need to determine that for yourself.
@thatguywithakeyboard unless this guy is a complete tactless idiot, I can imagine an emotionally abusive guy saying something like this to plant the seeds to destroy her self-esteem and control her.
So you build a speculation based on her bashing him for being honest? You know honesty goes a long way. To be frank I rather have the honest response then to be pampered with all PC terminology and social etiquette norms.
Relationship should be much more then based on looks. My ex was pretty hot Asian, I didn't date her for the looks or her 36DD's I actually date her as a whole. Not just because she got a vagina and boobs. And I was brutally honest with her, yeah she did not like some things I said but in the end she knew I was honest and she knew I cared for her, because I did buy her flowers randomly and took her out on nice dinners. All in all my ex costed me $2k a month to maintain.
Ok. Let's break this down. "pretty but not the prettiest girl I've ever seen". So he clearly indicated there are much more attractive woman out there, which isn't a myth but a FACT. Yet even truth he could have dated this other hotter girls he decided to date OP. So he seen something in her outside of her looks. We all get old and look like shit, so look should not really play role in dating (sadly they play a major role, that's why I wear a helmet :D ).
I can understand his point from the way he fraise it. OP on the other hand took this as a insult because she clearly is a freaking Unicorn and the "prettiest of them all".
OP reminds me of my ex. My ex made similar remark "I know what I'm worth and I will never settle for less." this stuck with me and we broke up 2 years ago, yet this words still stick with me. Even in my relationship my ex understood she could have better. But you know I did not get butt hurt as OP did.
And I been in abusive relationships, this is far off.
Just because there's prettier girls out there doesn't mean realistically he could date them. They get a choice too lol. He did say I'm the prettiest he's BEEN WITH (I know this to be true, I've seen his exes) but not the prettiest he's SEEN
Okay. We guys look at other woman, yet still are married or have girlfriends. Woman do the same. I still don't see what's this entire Drama is over. If you know he is with you why are you so self centered about his remark. You do understand his remark is valid and correct.
Again, I never said that I am the absolute prettiest but I respect myself & I'm not going to put myself down. If he thinks there's better, he shouldn't be wasting time on me
I would bereak up cuz da woman you love should be the most beautiful girl you've ever seen cuz she should have the best personality ever and if she has the best personality ever it makes her like seem more beautiful on the outside too and you deserve waaaaaaaaay better if he thinks that
what you said is so immature and unrealistic. Its very typical of women to look for better. from her logic she would leave him if she found someone who is better looking. I had a girlfriend she was the best to me, she was a 10 to me but I knew there were better 10s, but she made all the PRETTIER GIRLS look boring to me.
Well he is being honest instead of smart. So if you want a guy that will always be up front with you, then why leave him. You made a comment in one post "What do you mean he's honest? He should think I'm the prettiest. Why should I settle for not being #1?" that just shows what a vain person you are. While I am not ugly I know that I am not the best looking guy in the world. What your saying is that your the prettiest woman in the entire world... sorry, your just not. I think my girlfriend is very beautiful, but she is not even close the the most beautiful woman I have ever seen. However, I would never tell her that unless she straight up asked me that question because I am not stupid. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder so someone is always going to think someone else is more beautiful. I think the guy would be better off leaving you, not you leaving him.
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I never said I was the most beautiful. I said in HIS EYES I should be. Maybe your girlfriend is happy being 2nd rate, I am not
Your contradicting yourself now. Why don't you just say "he should just lie to me". yes, if he was smart he would make you feel better by just lying to you and telling you what you want to hear. Obviously you have either low self esteem or are just a snob and feel better then everyone else. The fact is that the women I have dated, and esp my ex wife, were very beautiful to me. But I could not honestly say they were the most beautiful women I have ever seen, nor would they ever believe it if I told them. That is just kinda pathetic to want someone to even say that to you. People keep telling you your not on the right side of this argument and you just wanted everyone to side with you. If he really wanted to just make you happy he would have lied to you. As a young guy, he will eventually learn. But what your asking is not realistic for any man.
I have to say that this whole "be happy he's being honest" thing is getting out of hand.
If he believes that he can do better, he could have just kept it to himself unless he's purposely trying to kill her self-esteem. Why do you think that people openly give compliments way more frequently than critiques. You would probably approach some hot girl at a bar to tell her how attractive she is, but you wouldn't start telling her how there are other girls hotter than she is unless you're trying to get some sort of reaction, would you?
I believed that the last guy I dated was the hottest guy in the world at the time. So yes, it's possible for someone to think that their so is the prettiest chick they've ever seen.
@babylips14 Why is him thinking she is beautiful not enough? WTF is wrong with you women? Can't she be everything he is looking for even if she is not the most beautiful women "in the world"? I don't think you women realize how ignorant this whole post is. your out of your minds.
That is the definition of settling. I don't want to be settled for. Just the fact that he said this to me, shows that he doesn't feel the way he should about me. It's not even about objectively stating the truth, it's about his heart clearly isn't in the right place
I don't think telling you you're not the prettiest girl he's seen is a reason for a break up, except if you need somebody else to boost your ego. That you're together or he's in love with you or whatever, doesn't mean he can't find another girl more beautiful than you. Love isn't that blind. Also there are other things that make a person more beautiful in the eyes of another and he's talking about physical appearance only.
You know any guy who treats his girlfriend that way is no man in my book. I would start talking to other guys , he shouldn't be saying hurtful things like that to you.
Sorry, but you seem pretty conceited. You should be happy he's being honest with you and that he values you for more than your looks. Are you really going to let him not thinking you're the prettiest girl EVER destroy your whole relationship? If that's all it's founded on I don't really feel like that's love. Things like this bother me because it perpetuates that stereotype about the manipulative, histrionic girlfriend who can't hear the truth without flipping out. So the guy is always lying to the girl and secretly thinking she (and all women) are crazy, image-obsessed idiots. I just hate double standards. Would everyone think it was so bad if it was the other way around? So, for the sake of fairness and true equality, quit whining and grow a pair.
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He never said you're ugly... He was just being truthful and objective in saying that you're not the prettiest girl in the world - and he's right.
I don't see the problem here... Did he say he's not sexually or physically attracted to you?
Nope.
So you're fine.
If you want some ideal boyfriend who'll think you're the best of everything then find a player - he'll tell you those things until he sleeps with you and then he'll dump you...
Two problems here.
1. Never said I was the prettiest ever. Are you though? lol
2. I don't put out like that so I won't be used
If you're happy playing 2nd to other women in your mans life then that's on you. I'll wait for better
*That's not called 'playing second' it's called being realistic. Everyone has some shortcoming - and no women or man is perfect...
The fact you're so focused on what he thinks of your outside appearance is typical for a teenager... and I understand that, but you'll grow out of it.
The thing you should remember is: he never said you aren't pretty and he never said he isn't attracted to you. + remember than actions speak louder than words.
Just dump him and move on with your life then...
99 percent of girls are not pretty at all. Flesh is flesh. What makes you pretty is what on the inside of you and that it shine through your body. Makeup is fake, scam. Those who use makeup are not real. People who gossip, slander are not pretty. It makes them ugly. Those who are self-center, self-worship are not pretty. They are ugly. What makes you pretty is when you act like a lady, good health habits, good manners, self-worth, self-esteem, values and morals, positive attitude, true love, caring, honesty, faithful what make you pretty.
Very homosexual
@Machiavelli
I do not support homosexuality. It a sin against God. Females in general call males homosexuality is to cover up what they are to protect their self.
Lmao what a weirdo human being, how did you get internet?
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You are sick. I am praying for you. I know there is hope for you.
Lmao yeah you should. If he don't think you're God's gift to the universe then boy bye.
Wtf? He's sucha jerk seriously dump his ass
Lol girls like you will be the desperate ones in their 30s.
@fueledbythc I'm taken nice try tho
@Asker don't let these people make you feel like what you're hoping for is too much. I am with someone who treats me like I'm gold and puts me on a pedestal like a queen. You deserve that too.
It definitely is way too much. Not everyone can get a partner like that. Id much rather be alone though.
I've had partners like that before. I would rather be alone than lower my standards
@fueledbythc just cus not everyone can get a partner like that, doesn't mean they should stick around and get their feelings hurt. If her guy thinks there's others better and points them out to her, then he's not very considerate or deeply in love with her. That's just common sense.
Im a firm believer that feelings need to get hurt in order to grow stronger. When things are perfect, there's something wrong.
Balance is key to life and thats why im still friends with my childhood friends. We have our ups and downs but thats what life is all about. Appreciate imperfections instead of trying to fix them. Maybe its just how weird of a life I've lived that made me grow up faster than others.
"Mirror Mirror on the wall - who is the fairest one of all" ? asked the queen . "you are, as always!" said the boyfriend... oops i meant the mirror. few months/years (depends on the mirror's patience. Mirrors from china last longer, so i heard.) later, the mirror had enough! "snow white is prettier!, and snow black too! just stop harassing me anymore". the queen shattered the mirror. THE END
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Since you find your looks to be the most important thing is your relationship, you should do the guy a favor and dump him. You want him to tell you a lie so you can feel good. You'd be beast with a guy that thinks he is Gods gift to women like you think you are to men. Get over your ego. It's very unbecoming. Join the real world.
love him cz he loves u for not what god gave u instead for what u have made ur self... he loves the true u... n thats what true love is.. n moreover he said u the truth even if u didn't liked it... wow u r lucky to have such a guy.. i bet he will never lie to u ... be happy sis u r a lucky girl.. n ofc u r pretty but not the prettiest n u urself know that (srry).. but i m sure u have made ur soul the prettiest one... dont fuckingly comment on the appearance that god gave u cz u did almost nothing to gain these looks but yes u can say that ur personality is ur own n u created that
You probably are very pretty and he knows that. I'm sure if you were single you'd have to beat guys away with a stick. Heck, they're probably waiting in line right now waiting for you to turn single. But, I think most people know that there are better looking people out there than them. And I think they acknowledge that their s/o will find others attractive. That says nothing about you though. He likes you for your personality as well as your looks. He's with you for a reason, because you tick both boxes. I don't think it's something you should stress about tbh.
You are too sensitive. I'm sure you have seen men who look better than him too. Always saying that your partner is the most beautiful person ever would be lying 99.9% of the time. Would you want a liar? Probably not. And beauty is not everything. Would you want a huaband who has all the looks you want, but is a complete ass? or an average-looking guy who can make you laugh, has the brains to do things, and makes you feel special when with him?
I don't want to be mean, but do you want people to be nice to you or honest?
What I want to tell you is that the more insecure you seem on this matter, the less he will like you. You could just tell him that he's mean, and you don't like that. But I would appreciate his hones th, even if it hurts.
Honestly, I no longer care how I "seem" to him. I'm done...
Ok, then he wasn't your type. This was a sign that you shouldn't waste time on him, because things wouldn't work out. But there are so many types of men. You have a lot of choices in the future.
You're gorgeous. Nobody is objectively the prettiest girl anybody's seen. At a certain point, it comes down to opinion.
I've met woman like you that have nothing else to offer besides your "looks" you're going to grow old one day and then what? Yes I know you're thinking plastic surgery or I'm sure you've already gotten something done if not already. Just love yourself enough so that you won't feel down on yourself when your man doesn't think you're the prettiest. Good luck in life, you'll need it.
Completely untrue. I have many things to offer. Positive personality traits aside. I have a full & part time job. I'm a student. I cook & clean. I volunteer to various causes. I can have an intelligent conversation. I'm not just my looks. Thanks :)
I wasn't referring to having a job. Anyone can get a job can cook and have somewhat of a personality. What you're lacking is self esteem and self worth that's why you need others to validate. That's why you mentioned the whole modeling thing. Post a pic of yourself with no makeup and without anything in your hair.
No I have plenty of self esteem, that's why I'm leaving him because my self worth won't allow me to stay being considered 2nd rate
It was not necessary for you to post a pic of yourself with this question. It's obvious you need attention. He's probably just tired of your bull and you wanting to hear how beautiful you are every second of the day. Try challenging his mind imstead of his eyes.
You assume a lot
Look, every woman understands the need to feel wanted and desired and if he doesn't think you're the prettiest it doesn't mean that he doesn't want or desire you sexually. You should really just think about what you really want. If he's honest and loves you and is faithful don't understand why anything else matters.
If you asked him and he told you how he really felt then ok. If he just decided to share that with you for no reason then he's a jerk.
Even if I asked him, which I did, he shouldn't feel that way. Yes, he gets credit for his honesty but still... What girl wants to be told about other prettier girls? Not even girls on tv or anything but actual girls he's encountered. If that's how he feels he really should just go do "better"...
Dumb. Who cares whether you're the prettiest girl he's ever seen? All that matters is he finds you attractive and enjoys spending time with you and wants a relationship with you. All of the insecurity and 'waaaaah, but I wanna be the one he finds hottest :( :( :( ' is bullshit and pathetic.
Whatever, who would be willing to play 2nd to other bitches? Not me!!
Eloquent.
Wasn't trying to be. You're saying that I should be content with being "just good enough" - that's not good enough for me. If you're ok with that, good for you then
do you think you are honestly the prettiest girl in the world?
his response was crass and shouldn't have been said but if you think that your boyfriend should think you are the prettiest girl in the world then you are kind of being naive
if you want to break up with him for showing bad form. for being crass. ok. but you shouldn't break up with him because he doesn't think you are the prettiest girl in the world
I've said I don't think I'm the prettiest necessarily. There is always someone better but I'm not going to put another female above me either. All I said is TO HIM I should be the prettiest
if you don't think you are the prettiest how should he think you are the prettiest? in all honesty?
if he said you are the prettiest girl in the world it would be a lie right? would you prefer he lie?
i'm not trying to be rude just trying to be realistic. we can ask people to lie to us and we can't possibly expect them to think that in a world of 6 billion we are the superlative of almost anything. if i asked my wife if i'm the smartest person in the world and she said yes i'd know it a was an unabashed lie
simply saying you aren't the prettiest girl in the world doesn't mean he is putting other girls before you. it just means he is being honest.
Maybe, it also means he should go be with them then. If there's better, do better
i don't think there is a lot of logic there. that would suggest that you and any girl's worth is only in their looks.
No, but you can't base a whole relationship on personality. You might as well just be friends. There has to be physical /sexual attraction. I don't want to be with a man physically if he's not attracted to me & thinks that there's better
no you can't base a whole relationship on personality and he clearly isn't since he said he think you are pretty. clearly he is sexually attracted to you if he has sex with you. clearly he think you pretty.
Men do also have sex based on availability & convenience
And "pretty" is barely a compliment
and you think that you are just available and convenient for a year?
you are allowing your insecurities to get the best of you. it is causing you to think really irrationally and draw illogical conclusions. if you want to destroy this relationship keep down this path. if you like this guy, who clearly likes you, then you need to step back and try to gain perspective. heed the advice that a lot of people are saying rather than just looking for an opinion to validate how you feel.
he shouldn't have said that someone is prettier than you most likely but for you to think that he thinks you are the prettiest girl in the world is really naive.
pretty is a compliment for most people. look in the "how do i look" section to see all the girls who love to be called pretty. know that any guy who says you are the prettiest girl in the world is lying 99.9% of the time
"I want a relationship filled with sexual attraction &to feel desired"
nothing about him not thinking you are the prettiest girl in the world means you are not desired or he isn't sexually attracted to you. it simply means that you are not the prettiest girl in the world
Yeah so if those other girls, presumably in our own city, are more attractive - that's where he needs to be!!
operative presumably. you are presuming you don't know what girls he is talking about, where they are or if he is even talking about any specifically. you assume far too much
Did you read my update? I do know what girls he's talking about. I asked
nevermind. live your life. you'll be far happier if you can get past this but something tells me you won't
Why would I want to get past this? This is a relationship ending kind of thing. Thanks anyway...
Why would I want to get past this?
because you are upset about something very trivial and irrational
How is being considered 2nd rate or a consolation prize or "just good enough" trivial?
depends on how objective and honest he usually is. I mean, I don't know what you look like, but it's very unlikely that you actually are the prettiest girl he has ever seen, simply considering the fact that there are a lot of pretty girls to be seen in the world. If it's normal for him to be 'too' honest, I'd just take it as a compliment for your personality. You could also just ask him what he means by it.
He's very honest always. I don't want my personality complimented, I think physical attraction is also very important. But that's just me...
I understand that. It could just be part of who he is. I have a friend who is quite often a little too honest. For the rest she's really sweet and funny so I'm able to see past that. You need to determine that for yourself.
Yes u should end things with him.
This guy is already emotionally abusing you. Things will only get worse with you stay with him.
This is called emotional abuse? Jesus Christ what's next, claiming your woman's cooking is the best when it's a pile of dog shit...
@thatguywithakeyboard unless this guy is a complete tactless idiot, I can imagine an emotionally abusive guy saying something like this to plant the seeds to destroy her self-esteem and control her.
So you build a speculation based on her bashing him for being honest? You know honesty goes a long way. To be frank I rather have the honest response then to be pampered with all PC terminology and social etiquette norms.
Relationship should be much more then based on looks. My ex was pretty hot Asian, I didn't date her for the looks or her 36DD's I actually date her as a whole. Not just because she got a vagina and boobs. And I was brutally honest with her, yeah she did not like some things I said but in the end she knew I was honest and she knew I cared for her, because I did buy her flowers randomly and took her out on nice dinners. All in all my ex costed me $2k a month to maintain.
@thatguywithakeyboard Just because something is true, doesn't mean it has to be said. Common sense goes a long way.
This boyfriend of the OP either lacks tact and common sense, or is emotionally abusive.
Ok. Let's break this down. "pretty but not the prettiest girl I've ever seen". So he clearly indicated there are much more attractive woman out there, which isn't a myth but a FACT. Yet even truth he could have dated this other hotter girls he decided to date OP. So he seen something in her outside of her looks. We all get old and look like shit, so look should not really play role in dating (sadly they play a major role, that's why I wear a helmet :D ).
I can understand his point from the way he fraise it. OP on the other hand took this as a insult because she clearly is a freaking Unicorn and the "prettiest of them all".
OP reminds me of my ex. My ex made similar remark "I know what I'm worth and I will never settle for less." this stuck with me and we broke up 2 years ago, yet this words still stick with me. Even in my relationship my ex understood she could have better. But you know I did not get butt hurt as OP did.
And I been in abusive relationships, this is far off.
Just because there's prettier girls out there doesn't mean realistically he could date them. They get a choice too lol. He did say I'm the prettiest he's BEEN WITH (I know this to be true, I've seen his exes) but not the prettiest he's SEEN
Okay. We guys look at other woman, yet still are married or have girlfriends. Woman do the same. I still don't see what's this entire Drama is over. If you know he is with you why are you so self centered about his remark. You do understand his remark is valid and correct.
Again, I never said that I am the absolute prettiest but I respect myself & I'm not going to put myself down. If he thinks there's better, he shouldn't be wasting time on me
I would bereak up cuz da woman you love should be the most beautiful girl you've ever seen cuz she should have the best personality ever and if she has the best personality ever it makes her like seem more beautiful on the outside too and you deserve waaaaaaaaay better if he thinks that
what you said is so immature and unrealistic. Its very typical of women to look for better. from her logic she would leave him if she found someone who is better looking. I had a girlfriend she was the best to me, she was a 10 to me but I knew there were better 10s, but she made all the PRETTIER GIRLS look boring to me.
Well he is being honest instead of smart. So if you want a guy that will always be up front with you, then why leave him.
You made a comment in one post "What do you mean he's honest? He should think I'm the prettiest. Why should I settle for not being #1?"
that just shows what a vain person you are. While I am not ugly I know that I am not the best looking guy in the world. What your saying is that your the prettiest woman in the entire world... sorry, your just not.
I think my girlfriend is very beautiful, but she is not even close the the most beautiful woman I have ever seen. However, I would never tell her that unless she straight up asked me that question because I am not stupid.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder so someone is always going to think someone else is more beautiful.
I think the guy would be better off leaving you, not you leaving him.
I never said I was the most beautiful. I said in HIS EYES I should be. Maybe your girlfriend is happy being 2nd rate, I am not
Your contradicting yourself now. Why don't you just say "he should just lie to me". yes, if he was smart he would make you feel better by just lying to you and telling you what you want to hear. Obviously you have either low self esteem or are just a snob and feel better then everyone else.
The fact is that the women I have dated, and esp my ex wife, were very beautiful to me. But I could not honestly say they were the most beautiful women I have ever seen, nor would they ever believe it if I told them. That is just kinda pathetic to want someone to even say that to you. People keep telling you your not on the right side of this argument and you just wanted everyone to side with you. If he really wanted to just make you happy he would have lied to you. As a young guy, he will eventually learn. But what your asking is not realistic for any man.
I have to say that this whole "be happy he's being honest" thing is getting out of hand.
If he believes that he can do better, he could have just kept it to himself unless he's purposely trying to kill her self-esteem. Why do you think that people openly give compliments way more frequently than critiques. You would probably approach some hot girl at a bar to tell her how attractive she is, but you wouldn't start telling her how there are other girls hotter than she is unless you're trying to get some sort of reaction, would you?
I believed that the last guy I dated was the hottest guy in the world at the time. So yes, it's possible for someone to think that their so is the prettiest chick they've ever seen.
@babylips14 Why is him thinking she is beautiful not enough? WTF is wrong with you women? Can't she be everything he is looking for even if she is not the most beautiful women "in the world"? I don't think you women realize how ignorant this whole post is. your out of your minds.
That is the definition of settling. I don't want to be settled for. Just the fact that he said this to me, shows that he doesn't feel the way he should about me. It's not even about objectively stating the truth, it's about his heart clearly isn't in the right place
I don't think telling you you're not the prettiest girl he's seen is a reason for a break up, except if you need somebody else to boost your ego. That you're together or he's in love with you or whatever, doesn't mean he can't find another girl more beautiful than you. Love isn't that blind. Also there are other things that make a person more beautiful in the eyes of another and he's talking about physical appearance only.
You know any guy who treats his girlfriend that way is no man in my book.
I would start talking to other guys , he shouldn't be saying hurtful things like that to you.
Thank you. Finally a REAL man
Thank you :)
Sorry, but you seem pretty conceited. You should be happy he's being honest with you and that he values you for more than your looks. Are you really going to let him not thinking you're the prettiest girl EVER destroy your whole relationship? If that's all it's founded on I don't really feel like that's love. Things like this bother me because it perpetuates that stereotype about the manipulative, histrionic girlfriend who can't hear the truth without flipping out. So the guy is always lying to the girl and secretly thinking she (and all women) are crazy, image-obsessed idiots. I just hate double standards. Would everyone think it was so bad if it was the other way around? So, for the sake of fairness and true equality, quit whining and grow a pair.