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My guy told me that I'm "pretty but not the prettiest girl I've ever seen". Should I just end things? (Page 3)
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If you asked him and this is what he told you, I don't understand why you'd be mad. If he just randomly told you this, yes, that's a bit annoying. Still not something to break up with him over though.
unless he has repeatedly put you down for your looks, dont split just cause of that. rude of him to say that, tho. sounds like an ass
Unless you believe you're the pretties woman and he's the most handsome man, you really need to rethink things.
What does that mean?
Do you believe that he's the most attractive man that you will ever see?
He's the most attractive I've seen thus far. Otherwise I wouldn't be with him
Just like you found him the most attractive now, it's because you didn't know that you'd find other people more attractive in the past than your boyfriend now. It's really unrealistic to believe that he is the most attractive person you'll ever see, because you experienced yourself that you found someone more attractive (your boyfriend) before you met him. Likewise, it's unrealistic to believe that he should find you the most attractive person he'd ever see, because you aren't, and he isn't. You will always find someone more attractive than you are, but it doesn't mean he doesn't care or love you any less, or finds you any less pretty or whatever. But there is no "prettiest person". It just doesn't make any realistic sense whatsoever.
Just is just wrong..
this is a bit rough.. but maybe he did not mean it in bad way.
I would never have said anything like that without putting a part like "but you the prettiest for me and that is all it counts". but maybe he meant it and was a bit goofy voicing it out?
it is not like all those other "prettier girls" will be willing to go out with him.
So I should just be content being the consolation prize that he's settled for then?
it depends i say you are the best thing that happen to him
i think you are the actual prize.
if if you are not feeling that way this is up to you.
He is just being honest. And it looks like you want to be treated like a queen. You're not a queen so stop being bitchy like that.
Wanting to be put #1 to MY boyfriend is not equal to being treated like a queen. Maybe I'll stop being bitchy when he stops being an asshole :)
How would you feel if your girlfriend said "Your dick is big, but it's not the biggest I've seen"? Wouldn't you prefer if she just left it at "Your dick is big"? He wouldn't have needed to lie to her and say "You're the prettiest girl I've ever seen," but if he wasn't intentionally being a passive-aggressive asshole he would have left it at "You're pretty."
What's wrong with wanting to be treated great, as his number 1? Wouldn't you like for a woman to treat you like the best guy she ever had, like a king?
@Vesuvius87 No, I'm not the best guy on Earth nor a king, so I don't expect to be treated like that. I'm just expecting to be treated with love and respect. I have better things to do than whining "Why don't you treat me like the best? BOOHOO!"
No, looks don't only matter. No girl is perfect looking anyway so saying your the most beautiful would be a lie. Saying you are his favorite girl is something better
Do you think your the prettiest girl he's ever seen. There would always be some one better looking than you, I think you should just bring up the fact that its not cool to say things like that
I'd stay for sure. As long as I am being treated well
Resides, people often tell me I'm dumb and ugly. I barely have any friends... I'd be lucky to have anyone interested in me at all. I'm not even that pretty anyway... :/
I'm sure that's not true. A lot of people are just mean. I'm sorry you feel that way girl :/
Yeah girl you should, he should think you're beautiful and no one else is, but being together for a year that's a long time to then end it you should say why you with me of you don't think I'm that pretty..
You are unique, you are very beautiful in my eyes. He is saying that to control you...
Do you even like him? Why would you consider that? prettiest woman ≠ best woman
Do I even like him? what kind of question is that? Physical attraction is important
I think its a valid comment, he said he has seen prettier women and you consider ending your relationship? Physical attraction is important but has he ever said he is not physically attracted to you?
Don't over analyze a man's words oftentimes he means exactly what he says... nothing less nothing more, not trying to imply something in a cryptic way like women sometimes do.
Sometimes. But we should all have the best. If he thinks there's better, he should go do better
Sure, but I think he will end the relationship if he thinks "he can do better". He is perfectly capable of ending a relationship. You don't have to worry about him not liking you etc etc. If he doesn't think you're the best I'm sure he will end the relationship.
He obviously doesn't think I'm the best. But no worries, I'm ending the relationship
Lol you're just fucking things up for yourself by ending a relationship for him. Tbh seems like you are the one who wants to end the relationship here.
No I don't want a guy that thinks I'm mediocre. I can find someone else too
But does he think you are mediocre? Just to give you some perspective you're going to end a relationship because of one comment.
I didn't think my last girl was the prettiest girl in the world, but I loved her. I think most guys can think of prettier girls than their girl. Sure I'd like to fuck Megan Fox but I don't love her.
If you demand your guy to think of you as the prettiest girl in the world you are a) going to have a hard time with guys b) are really insecure or narcissistic
Well what do you want an honest man or a lying one? If he has seen prettier girls he has doesn't mean he loves them more then you though he loves you even though they're prettier.
Well know your just being shitty about it. He feels bad over what he said even though he was truthful. And yet here you are making him binge drinking and getting him upset what kind of wife are you? Seriously he deserves better and your ignoring his calls like he did something wrong get over yourself girls like you are the type I never want to date and guess what my salary hits 6 figures without a bonus your loss for being a horrible person.
I hope you continue to ignore phone calls so he moves on in life with a wife that actually supports him by his side no feel bad about his actions a decent wife would say "It's ok baby it doesn't matter" even if it did
I don't know where your from but it is not a woman's job to tell you something is ok, when it is not. As a side note, a real woman won't care how much money you make. I sure don't. I make my own money
Doesn't matter where i'm from but clearly we got another racist implying where I live we treat women badly what a lovely human being you are. And like I said it doesn't matter and I never said it was a woman's job I implied that a decent woman would do that for her husband.
And of course they don't they only care about child support details and sure you make your own money but nowhere near as much as most men that's one of the reasons so many women are housewives.
It's not racist. Certain cultures expect their women to be more subservient. I would never be a housewife, I make enough to be comfortable & independent. A decent husband wouldn't tear down a woman's self esteem either, but I guess decency is only for the woman to show
No they don't you just think they do because that's what the media says when in fact it's the opposite that's why it's racist.
Really so why do you want a boyfriend if your so independent?
A decent husband doesn't tear down his wifes self esteem but he tells the truth and fact is the wife shouldn't be asking because if she was not beautiful or good enough why would the husband be with the wife in the first place?
No decency is all men show in life and women don't when is the last time you said your husband was handsome? Or re assured his self esteem?
You're very misogynistic. I don't want a relationship for money. I'm not that kind of girl. I like relationships for the companionship. I complimented him all of the time. And that wasn't what I asked him. I only asked what he thought when he first met me
Course I am I have said nothing sexist but ok funny how you call me misogynistic yet your the one judging treatment to women based on culture.
If you say so.
Did you? Funny how you missed that part out in your question.
I know I was using it as an example since obviously women are expected to be decent but not men
I don't know him but here is my advice: https://vocaroo.com/i/s0OzlbMRIj0i
if you are the girl in the pic, sorry but you are not the prettiest girl i've ever seen either. even though, he should never said that to you, he should have "white lied"
Again NEVER said that I was!!!
u never said but u implied that you were expecting ur boyfriend to think u were
And he should. I didn't choose my face but he chose me
omg... listen... why should he, if u urself knows that it isn't true?
You're not understanding... he chose me, to him I should be the most beautiful. If not, he should choose someone else
Most people from our generation think relationships are based off of looks and physical attractiveness. We're also a generation prone to follow trends, fads and whatever else is popular. With that being said - DUMP the guy. It's over for you. You two don't stand a chance in this new age cultural hell.
You look nice. But there will always be way better. For instance I'm from a ultra rich family, but there will always be families that are richer right.
Looks isn't the only reason people fall in love.
Its a shitty post tbh.
I realize there will always be better. But there shouldn't be better TO HIM. If he feels that way, why not do better?
Because looks aren't a 100%. For instance I could marry a 8/10 girl, but she could grow in my mind to a 10 because she grows on me and I love her, that she becomes perfect to me.
Exactly. After a year almost 2, I should be a 10 in his mind
Like I would say your a 7/10, but I'm happy enough with that. I don't need no celebrity 10/10
If you dump people on this mentality, you will be lonely forever
So you'd essentially be settling for a 7/10 by being just "happy enough". If you know there's better, why not do better?
Don't need better. Looks is everything to you, whereas it's important to me. Like as long as I find them looking nice, that's all I ask for. Then it's about loving them for who they are. It's disappointing that your just trying to find the most good looking guy. That's not what makes you love them
To be blunt, I'm not as shallow as you. Although I am kinda shallow.
I don't think I'm the shallow one. It's not about how he looks, I loved him. He's the shallow one for making the comment he did
No, you the shallow one because you only dated him because he looks the best. Whereas, he accepted you the way you are. That's a good person. And there is nothing wrong with what he said. As long as he treats you well, loves and cares for you then he is very good.
This is just an insecure winge. And most 'models' as you call yourself are insecure like this.
As I call myself? Lol I have modeled. Maybe not Victoria's Secret or anything, but still. I'm actually the more attractive one in the relationship. He even admits I'm better looking, definitely the best he's been with. I've seen his exes lol. He's being shallow here
So why are you insecure if your the more attractive one?
Also, there is a girl in my college who has modelled and I don't think she is attractive at all! Anyone can model. Even anorexic girls.
That wasn't my point. I've seen unattractive models too. I was just making the point that I know I'm not unattractive. I'm the more attractive one, but even with him acknowledging that he still points out that there's better - that's why I'm insecure. I'm an upgrade from his exes - he should just be happy about that
I just read your updates. And if I was him I would dump you. You need a guy to tell you that you are perfect to increase your self-esteem. He does deserve better than this, so end things ❌
You have a weak ego.
Not true
Seriously? You are saying should I dump him because he doesn't see you as the most attractive girl in the world. That makes me want to throw up 🤢
Then throw up. If he felt about me the way he should at this point, that's how he would see me
No he shouldn't have to. That's not the reason why people get married.
Go on, end it. End it. Is that what you want?
Yes it is. The reason why people get married is because they settle. I don't want that
The question is whether you should dump him.
I say END the relationship. what do you say to that? This is an attention seeking question isn't it
No it isn't. I plan on just not talking to him again
So you don't want to break up you just want to cut the conversation?
That's stupid. You want to play shitty mind gamea
It's not shitty mind games. You can break up with someone without talking to them - it's called ghosting. I'm done with him & don't wish to interact with him anymore
He has done nothing wrong by the looks of it. If he cheated and was horrible ghosting would be perfect. Your the bad person.
You need a reality test. Looking at you physically, your nothing special. I've seen girls that look like you.
At least he can move on to better things and find someone worthy of spending Time with. Ghost 👻 him now. Soon, he will realise it was the best thing that happened to him.
don't be surprised if you have to ghost people all your life.
I'm sure you're nothing special either. I can move on & find someone worthy to. Win win situation
I'm a Son of a multi millionaire family, I could try and attract super models with the money my family has. But instead I'm humble and modest and want a good looking, loving sweet girl. You might not, But I think I'm special. With good reason unlike you.
I'm about living the good life, not the superficial life like you.
With good reason? Your money is not good reason. That's your family's money. You didn't even earn it. I'm special for lots of reasons that have to do with who I am. I don't need to be a 10/10 but I do need a guy that will value me like I am. Otherwise I'd prefer to be alone
My families money will be passed on to me who can continue to grow a legacy and one day pass it on to my children. If this is an argument of who is more special, it's me I'm very special, I can take over a big company that has taken 30years to grow 💹
I want to move on to bigger and better things. Like you 'model' looks are a depreciating asset, your only going to look worse as you age. Whereas people money tends to grow with time
Money is money, but looks are subjective. There is no universal agreement on "who looks better than who".
If he has a need to say such things, he doesn't care about you.
"He's just being honest, you're not the prettiest!" Wow some people really don't get it...
Right, because guys should assume that women are too weak to take the truth. Their self-esteem is so fragile they can't take a obvious fact. I'll remember that.
Why not just tell her she's pretty? Not "The prettiest I've ever seen" if that's just too kind thing to say to your own girlfriend lol "Darling, you are handsome, but there are tons of guys way hotter than you! That dude I saw the other day, damn!"
You can leave if you want, if you're not happy you're not happy
I think your guy is crazy! Your one of the prettiest girls I've ever seen. Dump that f@cker
Maybe gay
I agree! I mean this girl is REALLY pretty
honestly I think he's playing mind games
I mean it stings a little, but i prefer he keep it real than constantly tell me things i'll probably never believe
I think the same your prettier but not the prettiest I've seen don't end things he's just being upfront.
Haha you're also not my boyfriend so I don't care if I'm the prettiest to you :)
I'm a guy though
It's called a backhanded compliment. He makes sure you feel insecure to secure that there is competition and you don't let yourself go.
It's your life; do what you want.
i've seen prettier women, you're pretty but prettier women exist
I'm also not dating you so that's not the point. I NEVER CLAIMED TO BE THE PRETTIEST!!!
get over your self, plenty of unattractive models out there that means nothing, with that mentality good luck finding a dude
you really think any guy you ever date will think you are the most beautiful girl in the world? lol get over yourself this is real life not a romantic movie, this shit doesn't exist in real life, very few girls are lucky enough to be so hot no other can match them and you're not one of them, if the guy is attracted to you and is happy being with what else do you want , why do you have to be a bitch about it
Never had a problem...
So, I should be content with him putting other females for me? Yeah right. That's a joke
putting other females for you? okay, that means he cancels with you to go out with them, opens the door for them and lets you open it for yourself, answer their texts and ignores yours, tells you how much he wants them and never does the same for you, basically to him you dont exist he doesn't treat you good at all and he insults you on daily basis.
does he do that?
still waiting
No he doesn't do that but it's about how I feel & that's how I feel
its about how you feel? so i was right and entitled immature girl.
this is the internet and i am not obligated to be be nice, but for once iam gonna be kinda nice, so here's the thing, hotter people exist, No matter how much i like a woman another woman will sometimes be more attractive and that can't be controlled just like other guys are more attractive than me, this is a fact of life no one is the best looking, those genes are simply too rare to have, from the picture i see that you're very beautiful and regardless of what your boyfriend says iam sure he is attracted to you, he acknowledges the fact that another woman is physically more attractive but also he realizes you're pretty hot yourself and there is no reason to leave you when he is 100% attracted to the way you look.
its not about how hot you are compared to everyone, its about how satisfied the person you're with , with your looks, and if he's been with you for over a year, i say he's pretty happy.
maybe it doesn't feel good when someone says someone else is more attractive than you, but as i said nothing can be done about it, literally no guy in the world will say you're the hottest girl ever and mean it, he will be either lying or trying to be nice, because you're not, simply put you can't be the hottest ever because there is always someone better looking, just accept that you have good looks and guys like the way you look and live your life.
No lol he'd be lying if he said you were the prettiest
He wouldn't be lying if he actually believed it, which he should
Lmao so he shouldn't be realistic?
A man should believe that the woman he's with is the most beautiful. To him. Otherwise he should be with someone else. Would you want to be thought of as 2nd rate?
The point of someone loving another person is loving them unconditionally knowing they are full of flaws and knowing they're not perfect. I know I'm not the most beautiful woman in the world lol I'm not even above average but I'm okay with someone loving me for who I am
Settle for that if it makes you happy. I want desire & attraction, not just boring 'love'
okay well good luck with that special snowflake
You don't have to be rude
I'm not being rude but I hope you find that person in your life bye.
Erm.. no? I'm sure he didn't mean it in a bad way. Even the most attractive girl in the world won't be the most attractive girl to everyone.
Appreciate your positivity, but there is NO WAY to not mean that in a bad way!!
Heyy don't feel bad about yourself. My girlfriend told me the same thing too. But she still loves me to death. No one can be or claim to be the most attractive person in the world because beauty lies in the eye of the beholder.
As long as he really loves and cares about you that's what matters. You may not be the most pretty girl but I'm sure you ARE the most beautiful person to HIM because he chose YOU to be his girlfriend.
Cheer up! You are just overthinking it. If you guys love each other you really should hold on to that.
True but a relationship without physical attraction is called friendship
What makes you think there isn't any physical attraction? Has he become distant or something? I mean he did say you are pretty just not the prettiest so he still thinks you are pretty.
No nothing like that but just being "pretty" isn't good enough for me. A man should think better of his girl than that
Well I kinda understand how you feel though. When my girlfriend told me that crap I felt like shit too. I mean she is the prettiest girl to me but I'm not the most handsome guy to her so I was like wtf. But she loves me so I just got over it.
Do you really love him? Does he show you he really loves you as well? I respect your feelings because no matter what people say I'm sure everyone wants to be the best in their partner's eyes. But do you really think it'd be worth it to dump him?
Yeah I do. I have pride. I can't be with someone that thinks I'm 2nd rate. I know I'm better than that. I can do better
Hmm... well if that's the case you should follow your heart and do what you have to do. You deserve to be happy so if you are feeling unhappy in this relationship by all means you should get out of it.
Wish you the best of luck! I'm sure you can find someone better who sees you as the first priority :)
Thanks :)
She shouldn't be finding people. She needs to mature and figure out how relationships really work before attempting to attract men. She needs to be single.
Attempting to attract men? lol I attract plenty. Thank you
Yeah those are the guys for easy sex. Perfect for a child lime you.
Like* fuck my fat fingers.
That's funny cause I don't put out unless well into a relationship, so... your point is invalid :) There's nothing "easy" about this
You just enjoy arguing until you get the last word.
I would keep him, he's being honest. its hard to find honest people nowadays, and you should respect him for being honest even if its not what you wanted to hear.
you are pretty and i understand how you feel. these things are subjective but it's bad that he thinks that way. maybe he doesn't really think that but it came out like that.
Should I just end things?
YES.
Agreed!!
You're an 8/10 so... we've all seen better. No clue why you're surprised about it, at least he was honest and didn't lie.
Firstly, you're an ass. Secondly, I'm not dating you so I don't care how I rate to you. Third, never said I was the prettiest just that I should be TO HIM
Tho, you're not lol
So, do him a favor... leave him and find a guy that's gonna lie to you.
If I'm not, then he should not be with me!! Period.
Cool, find a liar then. If we're talking purely about looks, you're all replaceable anyway.
As are you
I know... I'm not delusional.
No you're replaceable
It's cute that you're trying to insult me with things I already admitted. Keep it up.
A lot of pretty girls out there.
I never said there wasn't. But he should think I'm the prettiest. Otherwise, he should just go be with them...
dude, she is the type of girl who cannot handle the truth, so we must need to hide or lie to her about some real facts
Not true though I don't need to be schooled on "real facts" by a 13 year old!! lol
https://vocaroo.com/i/s0bJZ5ry3Zwg
@KnightCross uh oh lol. Triggered!
But are you the prettiest? If that was the case Natalie Portman and Scarlet Johansen would have 50 million men trying to be with them lol
I'm pretty fucking pretty. Naturally, there will always be someone better but TO him I should be the most beautiful
Maybe you are inside
Yeah, but I don't want that. A relationship without physical attraction is bound to fail
I'm sure he hasn't got the biggest dick you've ever seen either
Girls don't care about that like guys think we do. A big dick isn't necessary for most but attraction is
Guys don't care if your average only that your attractive and not fat
I'm not average. But you can't be attractive & average, they're different things
No there not. Average is what most women are but most over value their worth on the sexual marketplace.
Yes they are. Most women aren't attractive either Trust me I'm not over valuing anything lol 👌
Stating that your hotter than Jennifer Lawrence is overestimating yourself
I didn't state that. But she's not even that hot lol
You're really hung up on celebrities. Being famous doesn't necessarily make someone hot. Some celebrities are average even ugly. I've seen better looking girls than celebrities at the local mall lol
It's hard to mention the pretty girls I know because you wouldn't know them. Anyway your in the early half of your prime attractive years 15-30 don't waste them on the cock riding carousel.
I never have. I'm very selective & tend to keep my legs closed. Not that girl lol
If you have a good man hold on to him, you might never get another
anon dude, me triggered? at least i don't hide as an anon to expose my true opinions, regardless of possible hate incoming, how about u, u pussy?
You just sound shallow and like you're lacking maturity.
he said tht jst to make u feel jelous. its nthing tht much serious so u shud break up
There will always be someone "better looking" out there, what matters is what you feel towards each other. Thinking like that is unrealistic.
hun you look fine
but assuming that is you
THERE WILL ALWAYS BE A BETTER LOOKING GIRL
lets me ask this is your boyfriend the best looking guy in the world
and no one is hotter then him lol?
I think so
Mine doesn't even call me beautiful, not to talk of pretty. Your luck, in my opinion. >:
You're**
That's sad. You should find another one
Ouch, don't do that, dear. Yeah, he said your not the prettiest, but at least you are pretty to him. Don't ignore him, if he is attracted to you. :/
Leave him, Every man always has the most beautiful girlfriend or boyfriend
Honesty is good, so if he's not selfish or anything about it, says so only if he's asked, and most importantly likes you yourself, it should be alright.
Your hair is gorgeous, by the way. lol
Let this be a lesson to you @clampfan101 . It's good to learn from other's mistakes.
As a Christian, this brings up a good ethical question on "bearing false witness".
Should the guy just lie and say, "You're the most beautiful women I've ever seen" until the day she dies (at say age 90)?
Or should he just tell the honest truth and receive her undying wrath?
In a sense, if he tells her the 100% honest truth, she's hearing the lie that he wants someone other than her. So in this case the truth is twisted into a lie by the deceitful mind of a woman.
Better when she asks, "Am I the prettiest girl you've ever seen?", he should just gaze deeply into her eyes and say, "Could anyone look as beautiful as you?"
Notice: He wouldn't technically answer the question, but who cares... she's still (correctly) hearing, "I don't want anyone else" and he won't have to deal with his overactive conscience.
@I-am-a-nobody I guess.
There is ALWAYS someone prettier and better out there. Thinking otherwise is narcissistic, living in a Disney movie little girl mentality. Be happy your man is realistic and honest. Get over your princess complex.
I never said there wasn't someone prettier. I said I should be the most beautiful IN HIS EYES. If he's going to put someone else before me then he should just go be with them
You proved my point. In romantic movies/dramas/books the two people believe they are with the greatest person ever etc. The women, especially, is supposed be the prettiest girl the guy has ever seen. Everyone else knows this is not true. But the two are supposed to buy into the illusion, and some naive people consider that love. That might be romantic love at the very beginning of a relationship. But it doesn't last and it is not honest/realistic. Yes, it is honest to the way the person might feel at the time, but it believes a lie, as it believes an illusion. It sounds like you want that romantic drama in your life.
u sound kinda dramatic, he probably didn't mean anything by it, just forget about it
No. He probably can't get the prettier girls so he had to settle for you
Yeah well I don't have to settle for him lol
Well then break up with him so he can go do better.
Haha he'll never do better 😂 😂
I think he can
I've seen models who aren't very attractive
as guys get older we learn not to be too honest about a whole bunch of subjects.
Do you think your the prettiest girl on earth?
I've said repeatedly that I don't although I'm not going to put another female above me either. That wasn't the point
those are opposing statements. Either you are # 1 or someone is above you. There can only be one winner.
To me I am the most beautiful cause I am me. I love me. Realistically there is always someone "prettier" but I love me :)
And there's not 1 most beautiful. Beauty is subjective
psycho
Yeah ok 👌. That's unnecessary
all I will say is that beautiful and if you want to end things its up to you
Only problem I see is that you're shallow, arrogant, and insecure. Nothing wrong with the boyfriend.
Of course you'd say that!! Lol, how can one be arrogant AND insecure?
Arrogance is often a front that insecure people put on. They act this way to make themselves feel better and to also seek reassurance from others. It is a defense mechanism.
@Nyx_85 thank you
sorry op if that's not the answer that you're looking for, I just call it how I see it. I'm sure you're a wonderful person, everyone has faults, you just have to be honest with yourself and work on them 😊
You're welcome.
Damn if you were my girlfriend I'd dump your ass, so immature and insecure tsk tsk tsk.
there will always be someone better looking, more succesful, etc
#FactOfLife
Right, however that depends on who's point of view you're looking at it from. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
I think that if he is staying with you even if you're not the prettiest he ever seen, it is obviously because he loves you and does not judge only physics but also personality.
For me, that's not good enough. I don't want him to stay with me if he thinks there's better out there. That's called settling. Physical attraction is important in a relationship
I understand what you're thinking but I mean, he didn't say that you were ugly, you are pretty but not the prettiest he ever seen. That is normal, I don't know you but you probably aren't the most beautiful girl on this world since it would be very narcissic to say that.
And I wouldn't actually say that, but in HIS EYES I should be
Well okay, maybe that's what you would like but isn't that would be sort of hypocrisy?
To respond to your update, I think the only reason he is with you not the other girls "prettier" is because he loves you. I don't know you and I don't want to hurt you but as I read your problem, the problem seems to be you and your obsession with being the prettiest girl for him. Therefore, I'm sorry this isn't love, this is narcissism.
Then, indeed, if you're not happy with him being honest, just leave him and go find a guy more hypocrite than him and who love you for your beauty :)
Hmm you clearly got over the top ego going. Do you also have a magical mirror which you make chants too asking if your the prettiest of them all?
Brutal honesty is the best kind of honesty.
My ego is not over the top. I never once said I was the most beautiful, just that he should think I am. If not, he should go be with the "prettier" girls
Did it never hit you that he choose you over the "prettier" girls? Did that little fact register in your mind? People tend to bite into a keyword and go from there. I bite into the whole concept and use common sense and logic to dissect it.
So in part your action shows that he hurt your ego, yet once again you never stopped to think that even truth he "could have" he "did not".
Just because they're "prettier" doesn't mean he could get them. That makes me a consolation prize, what he has settled for
@Asker Not if those prettier girls have a worse personality. I'd much rather be with an average girl who has a great personality than the prettiest girl ever with the worst personality ever. Compromising is also an option.
So you're assuming your a "prize" to him. Interesting. May I ask why did you start dating this guy if you're "pretty" and being a "pretty" woman you have a lot and I mean a lot of guys to choose from. Not all pretty girls are self centered and shallow, keep that in mind. Most Ukranian or Croatian woman are pretty as hell, yet they are just average by their countries standards.
Hmm. I don't know about you, but I write Computer Code and I make hefty $100K a year co-owning a company, so I don't know who's the stupid one here. I'm well aware of what I said. I'm not obligated to use complete definitions where I could use a simplified form of just saying "prize" which can mean many different things depending on content of the conversation.
So if you have options please feel free to use them, because I don't quite understand how a guy can like someone with such over the top ego. Everyone has a right to see themselves as whatever, some see themselves as gods, other see themselves are princess and then there are just normal people.
I'm going to be giving examples for both sides. Hold up.
Me thinks you are leaving a LOT out of this one. Most guys don't say that out of the blue. What was the context of this? What was the conversation about? If he said this out of the blue, then yes, you should dump him. If there was a surrounding conversation, what was it. Be fair. Try to at least show a little bit of his side of things. If you're not, you're just looking for sympathy votes.
Also, what kind of girl asks this question? If we do answer "I've seen prettier girls", then you call us jerks, etc; if we say "no, you're the prettiest girl we've ever seen", you're going to tell us we're lying / come on places like this and ask "is he lying?" I know you're probably just wanting attention from him, but play fair here. Grow up.
And yes, you've done modeling, but that could be a hand model for all we know.
Yes, you want sexual attraction. I'm sure he does as well. He said that you're pretty, I'm sure (I don't know you so I'm just guessing here) you have other qualities besides being just pretty, otherwise he wouldn't be with you for over a year.
Pretty is nothing. That's a compliment for a 10 year old. I don't care about other qualities, people don't have sex with "other qualities" :)
if pretty is nothing, then why make a question about it? Someone needs a pacifier
No jerk. I meant that that is not a legitimate compliment for an adult woman. I used the word 'pretty' cause that's the word he used
End things if you never asked for his opinion and you don't like him anymore.
I did ask for his opinion but he should have a different opinion
is your boyfrnd is the most handsome guy you have ever seen?
be honest. :)
YES!! I wouldn't be with him otherwise
amm i guess this statement is biased as you are in love or sth, but frankly i dont see anywrong what he said. i however feel a tiny amount of ego attached with your reaction. as you said you are together for a year, if its bothering you too much share.
What?
whatever it is, it will be one of the worst reason to breakup. No one can be prettiest or most handsome, there always is someone bttr.
If he thinks there is better, he should go do better. My whole point
what what? 😮
"If it's bothering you too much share"?
then* share with him.
Lol your ego needs a chill feature
Has nothing to do with ego. Never said I was the prettiest ever. I just think I should be #1 to my boyfriend. Not ego
That's ego
No, people don't get into relationships to play 2nd or 3rd or whatever
people don't get in relationships to play a part in someone else's life. they do it out of love for them
You're ridiculous, you're actually saying that I should be content with him putting other females before me? That's stupid
saying they're hotter isn't putting them before you. i grant you that it isn't needed to say that to your girlfriend, but you asked him a question and he answered it honestly. you either wanted him to lie to you or you actually believe you're the prettiest girl there ever was.
and again, putting someone before you would be giving them more attention etc. clearly he's with you so despite you not being as pretty as they are he puts you before them. Make sense?
Everybody says they want full honesty until they get it, now he's taken a chance and going to get screwed because of it...
I appreciate honesty. But if that's honestly how he thinks of me then I'm doing him a favor - I'm giving him the opportunity to go do better
You're being ridiculous
If you just want an opportunity for yourself to find a guy who knows when to tell you what you want to hear, then dump him
That's not what I want. I want a guy that values me instead of putting others above me
Is he with you and not "others"?
Yes but if "others" are better, he should be. I don't want a man that settles for me
Did he say he was "settling" or are you just reading much to far into this?
That's how I interpret it. If he knows there's "prettier" & he's not with her, that is settling
Sooooo... if every woman felt that way, then only one woman (and perhaps only one man) would get married and have kids each generation? Err... unless you factor in different standards of beauty... in which case there might be some dozens of such women (maybe even a few hundreds of women!) that can stand to be in a relationship because they're not being *settled* for... Yet there are over seven billion people on this rock...
I don't think there's one actual "prettiest". Beauty is subjective. So you're saying we all essentially settle then?
I went on to say there may be even a couple hundred "prettiest" women who might be able to stand to be in a relationship...
But you're still saying that pretty much everyone is settling
Life is going to be really hard for you, princess...
Lol why is that? Cause I'm not satisfied with MY man putting other females above me? ok then 👌
If *that* constitutes "putting other females above you", then yes, find a helmet and bedazzle the shit out of it
Alright, at least I won't be 2nd. Sorry I have self respect
You won't even be in the running, just buy a shit-ton of cats and develope a drinking problem
I would actually rather be alone than be "settled" for. Thanks 👍
https://youtu.be/gGHX_jsuRy0
Neat-o, princess...
no. stop being so insecure he is just being rational about it.
I'm not insecure. He shouldn't think that way. If he's with me, I should be the most beautiful in his eyes
he is just being realistic. do you want him to lie to you or be honest with you? respect his honesty and if he doesn't find you the hottest girl out there invest in your looks and make yourself look better!
I do invest in my looks. There's plenty of men that are attracted to me. We can all look better, but I'm doing just fine. Thank you
would you rather have telling you that you are the most beautiful but knowing that he is lying?
I wouldn't know that he was lying. I am beautiful & he should believe that as well
as what i understood e thinks you are beautiful
well if you respond on his honesty like this then you is he better without you
There's ALWAYS going to be someone prettier it's just how life works. I'm sure he didn't mean it in a bad way, I'm sure you're the lady he fancies the best.
This bish just looking for attention & validation
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Very matured of you, her man is asshole for saying that. You will tell your overweight future wife who hates shower she is hot and then go bang girls who look like the one in the pic. This is why I stay away from men. You know you just want to hurt her feelings.
@Machiavelli That's a whole lot of assumptions you just made in one short paragraph.
i'm never cheating on my girl even if she puts on weight, i love her. Sure there are prettier girls on the planet but prettier doesn't outdo love, because when you 70 & got grandchildren, those looks ain't bringing nothing to the table
Yeah looks sure doesn't matter but the others seem to pay more attention to it than the ones who have it.
@Machiavelli
probably, i'm just an average guy with exceptional hair, nothing more, nothing less...
judging by update, he dodged a bullet
you're actually really gorgeous, I know I would feel really lucky to be with someone like you
He must be trying a pick up line on you, But I will never give up a chance on you...
Maybe you could stop asking him about your prettiness and just assume he's with you because he likes you.
That's not what I want though. Physical /sexual attraction is important in a relationship, not just "liking" someone. That's called friendship
Umm does he have sex with you? Are you in a "relationship" with him? if he's not showing his attraction to you without you having to ask if you're pretty then maybe you shouldn't be with him.
whatever happened here, if you're still here on the site
There is always a better specimen. Grow up and get over it. Your guy is not the hottest guy youve seen either. you're either trolling or desperately searching for attention.
I'm doing neither actually. And he is the hottest guy TO ME :)
Keep lying to yourself.
I disagree. All of the guys I fell in love with were guys I considered to be the hottest guys in the world at the time.
@babylips14
Exactly, I know guys brains work differently, but damn...
Just another brat with no self-confidence or life except a boyfriend.
Completely untrue. My life is very full. I have a full & part time job. I'm a student. I volunteer. I have friends & hobbies & interests. This is just one area of my life. You're being ignorant
"We're not an old married couple! I don't want him to just like my personality. "
This shows your maturity level. You do not appreciate the fact that he can see through your model body, he can see your mind and heart. Instead of appreciating, you go out and talk about old married couples like you've ever been old, and ever gotten married. Not only being stupid but also ageism at its best. I dont wanna sound mean, and I dont like it, but this question and what you wrote in update deserves even worse than that.
So what? I want physical attraction. Big deal!! My parents are an old married couple. I know what it looks like. The passion eventually dies down. It shouldn't at this point in my life or my relationship
okay hang around orange county laguna beach etc. you'll find tons of people you are attracted to and the ones who are attracted to you. Go ahead make passionate "love" with them for a night, probably next evening you ask this question "we had a one night stand it was passionate why is he not calling me?"
You're a serious little brat in need of psychological counselling asap, after your update, it is pretty obvious.
Haha, psychological counseling? For having self respect & standards? You're a joke 😂
no for being neurotic and having irrational overreactions. it only shows you have no self-confidence unconsciously you know that but you can't confess it to yourself because you can't handle yourself for "not being physically attractive enough compared to some other girls". I hope that guy goes finds someone else. He is very lucky that you're ignoring his calls. Keep up the good work for not shitting in someone else's life.