Hi.
I am almost 22 years old and I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half.
I have always been the girl that is one of the guys. My entire life I only had guy best friends. I only have 2 best girl friends. I have never had a problem with hanging out with the family of my guy friends or their friends. But when I am with the family or friends of my boyfriend that just feels awkward and not right. I feel like it's an obligation to be there. I don't have fun, or a good time, nor can I have a normal conversation with them even tho I try. His friends and family are nice, but it just feels awkward when I am with them. I can't be myself. Where on the other hand with the families of my friends I become friends and have fun. I can only have a conversation with my boyfriend's uncle because he is an extrovert.
I often say to my boyfriend that I don't want to spend time at his place and I say stupid things why but really it's just because of his family, and I don't want to go out with his friends because he'll leave me with their girlfriends and I don't know what to talk about with them. They are like the really girly type. Couple of his guy friends are cool and I go out with them and have fun, the rest don't even try to have a good conversation because they have girlfriends. Plus they act like they are 40 years old and not 23-24. On the other hand my friends are always up to have a conversation with anyone and can talk about random things. And he has fun when he is with them. I want to make him happy and be part of his social life but as much as I try, it's just awkward. I love him so much and he is so nice and caring. But we have two different lifestyles...
How do I try to fix that? How do you not feel awkward? What should I do to make him happy?
I am almost 22 years old and I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half.
I have always been the girl that is one of the guys. My entire life I only had guy best friends. I only have 2 best girl friends. I have never had a problem with hanging out with the family of my guy friends or their friends. But when I am with the family or friends of my boyfriend that just feels awkward and not right. I feel like it's an obligation to be there. I don't have fun, or a good time, nor can I have a normal conversation with them even tho I try. His friends and family are nice, but it just feels awkward when I am with them. I can't be myself. Where on the other hand with the families of my friends I become friends and have fun. I can only have a conversation with my boyfriend's uncle because he is an extrovert.
I often say to my boyfriend that I don't want to spend time at his place and I say stupid things why but really it's just because of his family, and I don't want to go out with his friends because he'll leave me with their girlfriends and I don't know what to talk about with them. They are like the really girly type. Couple of his guy friends are cool and I go out with them and have fun, the rest don't even try to have a good conversation because they have girlfriends. Plus they act like they are 40 years old and not 23-24. On the other hand my friends are always up to have a conversation with anyone and can talk about random things. And he has fun when he is with them. I want to make him happy and be part of his social life but as much as I try, it's just awkward. I love him so much and he is so nice and caring. But we have two different lifestyles...
How do I try to fix that? How do you not feel awkward? What should I do to make him happy?
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