My girlfriend thinks I'm getting bored of her 😑 how do I convince her I'm not?

[Dylank1234]

every now and then my girlfriend will say that she's worried that I'm going to break up with her ecause I'm bored of her... every time she asks me tho, I reassure her that I'm not gonna ever get bored with her and that I really do love her. I'm on her phone right now and looked at her search history and there was a quiz called "how to find out if your boyfriend is getting bored with you" and that really sparked up my concern that she's seriously thinking this. I feel like I'm a good, caring partner, some examples are that I get her flowers every now and then, her favorIte candy whenever I'm at the store, and give her as much attention as I can. Another thing that could be worrying her is the fact that she wants to wait to have sex (which I told her that I'm completely fine with) and she is thinking I'm going to leave her to find someone who's "more willing to put out" that hasn't even crossed my mind and I tell her that but she still worries. We have pretty good communication and don't argue/fight very much and I've never made any advance to physically harm her. Is there any advice that someone could give to convince her that I'm perfectly happy in our relationship and not getting bored? Or is this just a subject that most women worry about automatically? PS- 5month relationship

[LesterJester]

Jeez, that would eventually get annoying to the point I might consider breaking up with her, but that's just me.

she needs to get some self confidence, that's her problem. you do all these things for her and she seems to think she is either not worth your effort or that she isn't doing enough to "pay you back" for your kindness to her. Holding off sex when most other girls don't these days could also be pressuring her and stressing her out.

How you help her get out of this pessimistic frame of mind, I don't know. all you can do is reassure her... but in reality, she needs to understand that if she keeps bugging you about you possibly breaking up with her can often push someone into doing just that.

many girls often would dump a guy who was so low on their self esteem like she is being now. She needs to get some confidence in herself. As you're noted as being in your 30's, I would assume she is in the same age bracket... yet she is still acting like this?

I would expect this from someone in their late teens or early 20's, but not in their 30's. Perhaps you should try and dig a little deeper into her past, as I would be thinking something pretty bad happened to make her feel so worthless about herself.

Alternatively maybe you should eventually show her this post so she can see that her being like this is concerning you enough that you're willing to seek help from strangers and that it really is all in her head. maybe if she sees you care this much about her that she'll start to relax a bit.

but I still think there is something going on from her past that is messing her up, whether it be from past guys treating her like crap or a bad childhood, I would delve deeper into her past. Understanding more of her past will help you better understand where she is coming from and perhaps help fix the problem.

[hamzam]

OK listen... Those fucking magazines she reads are meant to keep women down.. How old is she? She's co dependent and she will eventually bring you down to a point where you will become so engulfed in her needs that you will wither away and die. You need to eat, hit the gym, watch some cartoons, like fuck have some beer and go camping... You need to take five days away from her... Leave the phone at home... The reason being because one, you need it, and she needs to be able to be with out you... If she can do that then your life is hell.. My girlfriend used to be so obsessed with me she wouldn't let me buy smokes or she'd lock me out and leave me homeless... Or if I tried to get out she'd start beating me.. Finally I fucking laced her one shot.. She hit me for half hr straight and I'd just take it.. You need to leave or that will be you.