I would be paying... we are in a relationship we do things with and for each other cos we love each other... it's not going to work if it's one sided and in any situation that's just selfishness... having said that if we had only $250 among us then we shouldn't be going out. A quick easy meal at home and that's it. i personally can't stand this attitude a lot of girls have that they're entitled and a guy has to pay and shower her with everything she wants to prove how much he loves her blah blah uuuugh
Your man has $50 and you have $200. you want to eat out and the bill comes out to be $46.38, who pays the bill?
Or, we go out regardless, even going to a particularly expensive venue, enjoy our experience meals (lobster for me, I'd pick a big juicy one, wanna try lobster!) and when it's time to pay we simply get up, and we bail, blatantly run off. Who's going to stop us, a waitress? We'd successfully evade payment and laugh as we did it! Partners in culinary crime! We'd make a habit of it, targeting restaurants with the best food and most accessible exits. We'd keep on doing it and we wouldn't stop. Hopefully, hopefully we'd become the talk of the region's restaurants, mentioned on online blogs, feared by restaurant owners! We'd be known as 'the pair of bastards' and we''d fucking buzz of it. We'd keep on doing it not because we're unable to pay for nice nights out, but because we're a pair of jokers with tasteful humour, and because we can! Nights in cooking together would be thoroughly enjoyed too, I love cooking! But I also love the rush of adrenaline you get when you do risky shit, under pressure, love it!
No, I'm not joking, and no, you mustn't judge me, it's just the way it is!
My solution to this problem has always been that you offer to take someone out then you pay for it. Instead of saying something neutral like "would you like to get a meal", say something more deliberate like "I'd like to take you out for a meal" then the payment is implicit in the offer.
If you want equality, then feel free to reciprocate that offer back and forth.
Plus, it's nice to do things for other people, if its understood from the start that you're offering, it releases the stress of working out who will pay and leaves you to purely enjoy the experience - which is really the point of it.
Is this all the money we have to our name, or just what we have on us at the moment in cash?
We pretty much always split the bill so we'd probably just go ahead and still do that. But if he only has $50 to his name, I'll cover the bill. (That said if all we have is $250 together, we shouldn't be dining out at all.)
We always cooked at home before we got married. We'd get stoned ( we use to smoke) and have a few beers and cook at home together. We rarely ate out. With our partying we couldn't afford to eat at restaurants. We had so much fun staying home, our friends came over every weekend and we all cooked supper and partied.
We rarely eat out, but we usually just take it in turns to pay. Its not a taboo issue with us, but maybe thats because we've been together for so long.
However, on all the dates I've ever been on, I've never let a man pay for everything.
In that situation, either I'd pay the whole thing or we'd pay like £23 each. In all likelihood though, I'd pay the whole bill and then he'd just pay next time we go out.
I actually give my girl all my money already. I get paid direct deposit and the next day I withdraw almost all of it and drop it in her account. So when we go out it's always her paying. But it's also me. It works out. My money is OUR money. So is hers. If you can't work up that level of trust, it's not much of a relationship to begin with.
Depending how far gone relationship I'd ether say split the bill if its still early into the relationship. Or if we have solidified were a couple I'd be willing to pay for all of it. Unless I get of course shamed out of paying XD.
(Which has happened to me before as my SO is all like your a college student. And I have a job so she just steals the bill right from under me XD.)
If I had $50 and my girlfriend had $200, the only thing I can say for certain is that I would not be shouldering the bill. Typically I believe that each person should simply pay for what they ate, so I would always be prepared to do so. However, if she offered to pay for my meal, I'd be ok with it, but I certainly wouldn't expect it of her. Likewise, if I were the one with the $200, I would at least offer to cover the bill.
If by 'you have this much and he has this much' you mean you have that much money to spend frivolously, then I'd pay... Since I have 4 times what he has...
Your a team, it's not just a regular date and it's about spending time together. So as the guy, I'd pay and have her cover the tip. Then we both are still doing good. Both have money and hopefully had fun going out.
My girl would be saying lemme pay but I will pay myself and I ll tell her let us finish my money first and then we shall start using your money my love❤❤❤❤ my Jan❤❤❤❤!
I would say it's lot cheaper to make a meal at home than to go out to eat. I suggest if one decides to go out to eat to split the bill but the price of eating a meal out is going up.
Does it really matter if you guys are an item and not just dating?
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Lol last week my friend was so pissed at me because I asked him to pay. He was furious until I told him I had to pee so bad I couldn't wait. I paid for it, I was asking for him to take the money to the front. Lol. If looks could kill I'd be dead.
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