Who's the one that pays when you and your SO go out to eat?

[Anonymous]

I am curious about the case when both are earning?
In my case it's me, my wife's a homemaker and a great mom

[Rhizomorph]

When I was in a relationship, usually we’d take turns paying.
If he paid for the food last time then I pay for the food the next time. Vice versa
Although: if one of us was struggling w/ money during the week then one of us would cover the other and would never request to be paid back.

[Oliverlogan263]

When my girlfriend and I go out to eat, I usually try to pay since I have a part-time job and she's focusing on her studies. But she'll often insist on splitting the bill since we're both students.

I think it depends on the situation - like if one person earns more or if it's a special occasion. My parents' rule growing up was that whoever did the inviting should pay. But things are more equal nowadays.

Since your wife is staying home with your kids, it makes sense you'd pay most of the time. Taking care of a home and family is a big job too! But she might still want to treat you sometimes to be nice.

You could also go dutch every now and then so she doesn't feel like a financial burden. Communication is key - just talk about what works best for your situation and make sure she doesn't feel taken for granted. A little Teamwork makes the meal!

[Asker]

Nice but hey we're doing super fine lol

[Asker]

I know you want MHO but you don't have to always give advices when it was not asked so

[JackCarter]

In our case we both are working and instead of spliting we take turns
The decision to take turns was taken to avoid the confusion when the bill comes LoL

[LazerBean]

All of our paychecks go to the same account that all of our credit cards are linked to. So it doesn't matter whose name is on the card, it all comes from the same place.

[shiran_]

My girlfriend comes from a wealthy family so whenever we go out to some place she always pays.
Its not that I don't want to but I could probably only afford to do that once a month and she just doesn't want to burden me

[Sonjita]

We never split (we don't really do that here) so either him or I pay for the whole thing.

[fantasticass]

He does, unless you have discussed it before you get to the restaurant.

[IslaTheWitch]

As in a relationship we had a shared bank account, and our salaries were coming there it didn't really matter :D

[DeeDeeDeVour]

He's the one who usually pulls out a debit card to pay the bills but the account the funds are debited from belong to both of us.

[HaveNoName]

I am the provider of the family. My wife earns but I let it be HER money. If she wants to treat us, fine; but i am the one responsible.

[siseñor]

Lol would be nice to be a sugar baby but we take turns, ABAB system

[Guido]

It really doesn't matter since out credit cards are linked and it's the same bank account that pays it from bithbof our paychecks. We do not keep any separate finances and never have so it makes no difference.

[Miristheiss]

I'm married. It is coming from the same place.

[JustinTheGreat]

We take turns. There are times I pay, there are times he pays, sometimes we split.

[Fireguy17]

maybe 70% me, 30% her or a bit lower for me and more for her.
I never kept track.

[MrOracle]

I always pay. She cooks at home and buys plenty of that food, and I also cook and pay for that food, but when we go out, I pay.

[Drumlin2001]

Usually me. Though now we have 2 kids we don't get out much

[OfDeath]

Me like every single time. I also pay when it’s a group thing.

[fantasticass]

That is very generous of you. Respect 🤙✌️🇨🇦

[TacosRAwesome]

It's about 75 him 25 me. But we split larger expenses

[Ironic_Method]

My wife always pays because she gets points. Though they always give me the check.

[Juum_]

Guy always has to pay. Even if she makes more money than you do.

[jamesgoldman]

Back when I dated she paid and I tipped because legally I couldn't pay

[BoopBoopBeep]

Whoever invited the other.

[rosemilk]

we have the same money so

[Gezbelle]

When I had a boyfriend it was split

[Yannae]

We split.