Does this has to do with men nature, biology or what?
Most women under the same category think differently than men. I dont know if it has to do with the norm that women are to reproduce and start a family and we are more picky to find good partners for our future so we have to settle with the right ones who can support us and take care of us as in part we may depend on them and we need a man worthy of us.
So if there is a single women who are between 40 and 47yrs still single, no kids and has no boyfriend or even dating, people question their motives cause at her age most humans has a family at least or at least just married and if that women does not have any of that they could as Whats up with her? or they comment, "You are running late to conceive children IF you want to have kids still of course.
But if there is a man also between 40 and 47 who are still single, and ain't dating and does not have kids still, society applaud him wow good for him, " he knows what he wants" or do not question their motives of being still single, no kids no married although some do question that a guy who is not married yet and no kids, and still single and enjoying his freedom are irresponsible because they are just to ave fun with ladies they are acting immature and they won't never settle with any lady they are not worth partner material to any woman.
I also heard this from my aunt who is 65 years old one day. "You have to know that most guy who are still single and have no kids yet and they are between 40 and lets say 47, they are not men who lets say would like to date like teenager date, dont expect that from them, , guys at that age know what they want and it is normal that they want to have sex often even in your first date, as they are not kids anymore" Is it because the sex drive at that age is higher?
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Hey, I read your posts three times. I agree with you that childbearing is not a realistic option at your state in life. Not only is it biologically risky, it's energy draining and encumbering in terms your personal freedom, something which you value (and should).
You make it clear that for many reasons you miss the emotional support and companionship that comes from a relationship. I would encourage you to consider dating from your age, and up to older men up to 60 or so. Many of them are sexually potent, good lovers, and will be more attentive and sensitive to your needs. That opens an age range of nearly 15 years of eligible suitors. There are many many men that don't want to die alone and lonely.
Don't forget you have many things going for you. From you avatar photo you appear to be lovely. You've had a successful career, and are financially stable. And, your body has not suffered the ravages of child bearing. Frankly, there are a lot 55yo guys that would consider you a prize. Don't underestimate it.
It's a very good thing that your "needs and desires" are now surfacing, and you should get working on that NOW. You are entitled to sexual satisfaction. It is a core and very primal element of our existence. Developing relationships is a learning exercise. Trial and error. Date as many men as you can. As you progress in these relationships, take some sexual satisfaction from those suitors you really like. You only have one life.
Now a couple of questions for you. In another post, you told me some guy has propositioned you 2 or 3 times, and you have turned him down each time. So what was so wrong with that guy that you turned him down? Especially since you imply you haven't been laid in 30. How about that stud in your Avatar photo? Are you currently in Costa Rica? I've spent time there myself, and there are a lot of well sharp well educated guys down there. Avoid being too picky.
Good luck and Carpe Diem!!
Answering your questions here it goes.
1., Yes there is this particular guy who had indeed had propositioned me to have sex an yes I had turned him down twice and this thing just recently happened last year.
This is lets say the first and only guy who has propositioned me that, because inmy past no other guy had done that. This guy is 44 years old and single but no kids, we are in the same situation (single no married and no kids) he does not want kids I dont want kids, he is reluctant to a serious or steady relationship as he enjoys being single and the freedom that comes with it.
The guy in my Avatar photo iis a relative and he is only 15 years old but he looks older of course. He is the son of my first malel cousin, which makes this boy my second cousin.