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My boyfriend told his friends about how I am in bed and about my kinks, what should I do? (Page 2)
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Sometimes you need a friend to chat with about personal things but it should be done privately where there is no chance of getting over herd. I made the mistake of talking to one of my boyfriend's friends about him being to ruff in bed when he was drinking in the hopes that he would be able to tell me how I could tell him without offending him and it totally backfired he ran back to my now husband and told him and he thought I was running him down to his friend. With time we have gotten past it and we have been married 8years. Give your boyfriend time to cool down and then talk about it together if it is meant to be you will work it out.
I mean you're the one telling others about his dick. All he talked about was your kinks so really he should be the upset one not you
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You were in the wrong at first, but then he stooped to your level and now you guys are equally wrong. He should’ve stayed quiet (in order for it to be completely your fault) but now since both of you have done it, BOTH of you are wrong. But you were wrong first.
Sounds like you went into too much personal detail, so yes you messed up, but he did too since he did the same thing out of spite. Now that you've had the argument you should both just agree to be more private about your sex lives moving forward. I always assumed girls shared every detail anyway though, I'm surprised he took it that harshly
You were wrong to talk about something that personal with your friends. It wasn’t right of him to do it back, but you brought it upon yourself and if you have a problem with him telling people about your sex life you shouldn’t have told anyone about his. What’s done is done though, all you two can do now is use this memory and the embarrassment you both must’ve felt as a reminder not to expose those kind of details in the future.
Clearly you are in the wrong. 100% all your fault. You should have apologized first. You must lack common sense for you to even ask others if you're in the wrong. Even how you used "friendly girl talk" when its private stuff. he's teaching you a good lesson in keeping your trap shut.
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It’s pathetic how some guys have to accuse women of being “feminazis” simply because they disagree with someone.
In this case, the girl was in the wrong at first. Then the boyfriend stooped to her level; now they’re both equally wrong. Both of them couldn’t keep their “trap” shut. First it was her, and then him.
@silverqueen No. Of course I will call them the name they are. Because who is wrong, the one that hurts or the one that get them equal by revenge?
@silverqueen the way she worded her post made it seem like she was being harmless. she's more in the wrong than the guy. Yes, revenge isn't the best solution but the girl evidently lacked empathy and common sense. She started the problem, he finished it. Always worse when you're the initiator.
Yes we boys really don’t like it that much when girls talk about our penis. Also things that u do in bed. U Said u used positive things he does in bed but still. Just imagine u would be famous at Ure Friends for giving good blow jobs. Of course that’s a cool thing. But not cool that everybody knows.
I mean I've heard this is a thing that girls do, as in talk in this much detail. Maybe uncool to discuss it without his permission but you made an unintentional mistake and he intentionally made a mistake. I'd call it even and move on from it but definitely discuss the boundaries of what can and cannot be discussed outside of your relationship
To talk about something that was supposed to private moments between you was a pretty unpleasant thing to do, it probably seemed like a breach of trust. However he responded with some petty childish retaliation so I'd say you're both in the wrong. Question is, haven't you apologised yet when he already has? Do you think you are somehow more correct than him? Hate to break it to you but you're most certainly not in the right.
Pretty stupid, girls talk that's why it's called girl talk. if he doesn't understand that it's his problem. What I find hot is when my girl will come back and tell me about the conversations, what she said and how her friends responded. Makes it even hotter.
Maybe yes you shouldn't have told your friends in the first place but damn, he was so passive agressive and he told his friends about your kinks I'm speechless how can a man say he loves the woman in his life and then tell his male friends about her kinks? Something definetely is very wrong here and honestly you should leave him he doesn't sound like he respects you very much and about love, well I would doubt it
She talked about his dick... and you're offended he talked about kinks?
@kittycat119 who told you I'm offended? Maybe you should read the first sentence of my answer. I said ok maybe she was wrong but being passive agressive and not confronting her about it but instead going this way? by the way I'm not gonna ask for your permission to share my opinion or get offended (while I definetely didn't) love
The way you're attempting to act like he doesn't love or respect her. Seriously? If that's the case she didn't love him when she went blabbing 2 her friends about his dick. If anyone should leave the other like u said she should it should be him leaving her
@kittycat119 that is my opinion and you're not the asker if she wants to defend her boyfriend and say she won't leave him then fine.. I am entitled to my opinion, stop being so negative and please don't comment back. His friends are males and they prolly jerked off to the image the asker's boyfriend pictured for them. And I was saying he should have confronted her first and if he wanted to leave then of course he could! I never said he couldn't! Now I mean it when I say stop commenting. Thank you
Oh and one last thing just to clarify for the answer she can prolly understand what she reads so doesn't need the clarification but I did not attempt to "act like" he doesn't love or respect him. I only said "I think" and "I would doubt" I am emohasizing the "I" pronoun here for the ones who Fail to understand simple English phrases. Thank you and bye!
@kittycat119 i know right, its like they barely read the damn post
Girls probably got off to it too, i dont think its just limited to guys >.> people fantasize
@Saletri @Saletri maybe but I never said they didn't and I still have not changed my mind about the guy's passive agressive behavior and that it is gross.. I mean the asker did not mean to offend her boyfriend maybe she just thought he would not care this much but if he was so hurt he should have communicated first, and not try to hurt his girlfriend the way he was hurt that means the best that he lacks the skill of empathy and the worst is that he is not Really in Love.
@Saletri I don't know who you are talking about, I was the one complaining about the people not reading my post and being so negative.
People stop pretending I say things I don't. I never said girls do not fantasize and I am not going to argue that guys are more visual so I think they probably jerked off more than the girls getting off. Again I am free to say my own opinion so stop trying to argue with every damn word in my post just because you do not argue. That's pretty immature.
Just because you do not agree with what I am saying in my post*
What he did was kind of karma, which you deserved. It would've been better to just talk about it with you though. At least he said sorry, so that helps. Perhaps think about how he would feel about something before you go talking about very personal stuff to your friends?
I had the same with an ex and because she talked about all that stuff when I asked her not to was one of the big reasons I broke up with her.
If one of my friends would start talking about how he does sex with his girlfriend I would tell him to shut up and never pick this topic again. I could not care less what other people do in bed. Not interesting and it's a private matter..
The story teller and listeners where garbage. So there is nothing to solve here.
Why are you talking about your private sex life with your boyfriend to your friends? I’m all down for talking about one night stands but that’s your fucking boyfriend for christ sakes. I would never tell my guy friends about how my girlfriend and I have sex. Shows a lack of class, maturity, and respect for one another.
By yoir boyfriend telling his friend s was a wrong thing to do if he wasn't happy about u talking to your friends about it then he should of confronted u then not go do what u did , 2 wrongs don't make a right
Typical female hypocrisy. You're the type of girlfriend, I bet, that is always full of irrational demands. Is it really a big surprise to you that he talked about it? Why should it be something normal when you do it but when he does it it's not ok? I think the guy deserves someone better.
Yeah. If you call yours friendly girl talk then you should call his that too. Keep what you do in the bedroom between you to. You should apologize and do something nice to make up for it.
May Be say you're sorry too and for not asking permission to chat about your sex life. Instead of seeing it as just yours. See it as both of yours together as one. You both must share it together and be sure you keep boundaries. Just say sorry to him and make it up with good food and sex. It usually works for me.
You did right, you were just talking positive to your friends, it was kinda wrong and immature of him to seek vengeance instead of just comfronting you about it, he talked about your kinks and that sorta too far, i hope it wasn't too humiliating for you, joke is on him tho, now his friends might jerk off to his girls kinks
You shouldn't have told them about this without discussing with him what is okay to tell, private things like these are where communication is very important.