You kissed a guy? That's cheating? Don't get me wrong, that's definitely not something you should do in a relationship but I wouldn't consider that cheating as much as a really stupid decision. Now with you dropped your dress and took him to bed that's a whole other story. I once kissed another guy when I was 16 in my first relationship. It was very dumb and I knew it. I decided not to tell my boyfriend because I realized how idiot it was and didn't want to upset him. I knew I'd never do it again and I didn't. I don't consider it cheating but it's definitely a breach of trust and is not okay. Your boyfriend sounds like an ass though. If he's freezing you out than he doesn't want you. Personally I'd drop him like a bad habit and find a man who's going to take you seriously. Love isn't a game it's a commitment.
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Arghh, you did cheat on him and you can't deny that. You also can't prove that he was cheating also.
If I were you, no matter how you feel about the situation, tell him please.
He's probably going to get mad, and he may break up with you he may not. But in all honesty, you just need to tell him why and that you feel really bad. You broke the rules of the relationship, of course it seemed like he was being kind of shitty but that doesn't mean you should cheat on him.
I know this sucks, but it will be for the best. He wasn't giving you what you needed, and you obviously had the capacity to do such a thing to him so maybe the relationship wasn't very strong in general.
But please tell the honest truth, don't carry that guilt with you.
Likening pic doesn’t mean cheating
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Taking the time to do that and not even send his girl a text is fucked up.
He probably don’t have the balls to break it off if he been so distant , so grow a pair yourself and move on. Don’t waste your time on someone who can’t even give you the time of day. Be strong chick. Breakups suck but neglect sucks more.
"I was at a bar last night and kissed a guy. I don’t really know what to do. I don’t want to break up with him."
In the realm of cheating, I'd consider that pretty minor. I mean, I'd be really upset if a boyfriend kissed another girl, but if it was just a kiss at a bar and he honestly regretted it, I think I'd prefer he didn't tell me about it.
If you felt neglected in the relationship, you should have talked with him how you felt ignored in the relationship and have been wanting to feel loved for a while. Nothing good can come out of cheating for anyone! If you feel like this relationship with him isn't going to improve for the better, it would be best to leave and find someone who'll cherish their time with you and give you the attention/love that you're seeking! If you believe this can still work out, have a serious one on one conversation with him about what you're looking for in the relationship and apologize to him for cheating. Don't ever take the cowardly way out by avoiding the problem; you'll only make things worse that way. Be brave and step forward to face the problem head on and decide which course of action to take!
Based on a few of your replies to others on here it doesn't seem as if you really cheated, or if you did, you did so just barely. It seems more like you have guilt over a desire for attention, which you claim your boyfriend isn't giving you, so you fear you subconsciously gave this other man permission to kiss you.
I'm not sure if you should tell your boyfriend or not, I suppose it depends on how solid your relationship with him is outside of there being a lack of affection on his part. Of course you should take responsibility for allowing yourself to be in the situation you've described, but in this case I think you should try and forgive yourself.
PS. I'd update your question to better explain the circumstances of the kiss if i were you.
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You're clearly unhappy. Why don't you do him & yourself a favor and move on. I'm sure there is more to your story but nothing justifies cheating, even when you're revenge cheating (not that you technically are, just generalizing). It's highly immature and just means that you're no better when you stoop to that level.
Telling him will only ruin what you're trying to hold together, be honest with yourself and ask yourself if the love has died in your relationship then find away to get it back.
Or if its a dead end relationship then it maybe time to move on.
But if you do see hope and it's just the spark that has died then know
1, it's never always Gunna be smiles and ow I love you hunni you're the best.
2, you need to work on your life goals together and workout what a successful life means to you guys and work on achieving it.
3, plan and make special moments with each other that builds great memories.
4, most importantly show gratitude towards each other and learn to appreciate each other as that'll bring that spark back (knowing and showing that you guys love each other and it's more than words)
Having a great relationship requires a heck of a lot of work.You've pretty much messed yourself up badly. You were already insecure when it came to assuming he cheated just from him liking girls pics and now you yourself kissed another person so you're going to be thinking how he could do the same. Your best bet is to just tell him. Honestly, he probably will be kissed but I think if you want it to work you'll have to be honest and then try to work on these things somehow
you are not loyal that is my opinion
It is either you are in a relationship or not
And you have to Break him , be first cheating on him and then breaking up with him , and to top it off you want to go out with the guy you cheated with
You heartless, you think that guy don't have heart or feelings?
I hope the guy is okay.You kissed another guy bc you thought he was cheating bc he liked pictures of girls on instagram? Okey. You're clearly immature to be in a relationship
The only thing you can do to clean yourself is to being sincere and tell him what you did. It will not ensure you he will forgive you, but if you really love him or really like him you have to be sincere, you failed him already. Now, you have to give him the right to know, if he loves you and want to keep with you or if he thinks you are not trustworthy
I think you need to have a talk about your problems. It seems like you dont trust him enough and your communication is off. I think a relationship needs good communication to succeed. Once you've had that talk you have to decide whether you tell him about the kiss or not. The truth is not in every situation the best solution.
you cheated because he liked some girls pictures?
anyway tell him what you did and let him decide what he wants to do.You shouldn't cheat on him unless you are going to break up with him, talk to him about it and if he doesn't respond you may as well either wait or end it, and if you don't get what you want after talking to him it probably won't work out any time soon and should just end
Just kissed another guy? If nothing more than that, then yeah - shouldn't have done that, but that is recoverable. But it was an incredibly stupid reason to begin with.
You can't fix it. You've done something extremely moronic and immature, and he deserves someone more trustworthy and respectful than you. I advise breaking up and moving on. Save him the time and effort
Just be honest. Tell him exactly what you think and that you don't think he's treating you as you'd like to be. If you're sorry make him now it- not just by saying sorry but by doing something for him. He'll probably be annoyed or upset but if he loves you he will forgive you, it was only a kiss
Telling him is the right thing to do. Understand his side of the story why communication wasn’t getting through. Maybe you two can see eye to eye and work things out
Horrible. I don't know why you're going out to bars and letting guys buy drinks for you unless you want to cheat.
You deserved neclect you ain't loyal.I think he deserves to know. If he wants to take it as something horrible and be hurt by it, let him. If he wants to forgot about it and say it was nothing, let him. The choice should be his.
Sorry but that's just so stupid. You assume he cheats on you because he likes other girls pics, which results in you cheating on him. In your place i would have talked to him before cheating on him. But now i'd either keep it to myself or talk openly with him about that. If he really loves you he will maybe understand your point of view. And then: Happy end.
An unsolicited peck on the lips isn't really cheating.
Talk to him. A drunk kiss is nothing so just tell him and try to move past it. If he neglects you then talk to him, maybe you two aren't right for eachother, otherwise he will make an effort. Just talk.
Not trying to judge you here, but that was a dick move. You could've at least broke it off with him. I feel bad for your boyfriend.
PS. Liking other girls pics doesn't mean he's cheating, he's just admiring other beauty.Hold up so you cheated on him because he liked girls pictures? Girl leave his ass so he can't go be with someone not crazy
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