That depends on how much he means to you and how much you need sex. (I assume you mean that you want sex more than he does, or vice versa.)
Put it this way, if he treated you miserably and expected you to clean up after him, but gave you all the sex you ever wanted or needed when you wanted or needed it, would you stick with him? If he is good and kind and loving, but gives you less sex than you want, is sex then the pearl of great price for which you give up everything else to buy it?
There is probably no definitive answer to that question, but positing it as an either/or is self-defeating. If you care about each other, you will compromise. If that sometimes means having sex when you really don't want to, well, then, isn't sex supposed to be an expression of love? Is not love about, in part, sometimes doing things for the other person we would rather not do?
My girlfriend and I are very sexually compatible so it has never really been an issue. However, there have been times. Yet, my girlfriend believes - and she has told me this - that a man has needs and that a woman should make her body available to the man she cares about to satisfy those needs.
For my part, because I love her, I try not to take advantage of that. I try to be sensitive to her moods and how she is feeling. That said, I won't lie, there are times when I have just expected that she will submit to me and that her body is there for my use.
So, in your own mind, how does that all add up? What are you asking of your boyfriend - and yourself? Is it a good reason to break up? It depends on what you are willing to give up for sex? Weigh what you will gain as against what you will lose. In that connection, is compromise between two people who presumably love each other that hard to work out - or has that line already been crossed?
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It depends on many factors. For example if you have been with someone for a long time and for whatever reason they can no longer perform to your satisfaction, should you break up? I don't think so, that would be mean and insensitive. It would make more sense to find out what the problem is and work on it.
My boyfriend has a high sex drive. I have a low sex drive. 2 years in and we're fine. I'm sure he probably masturbates but I'd rather he do that instead of trying to convince or guilt me into having sex.
Sounds like you don’t want to be in the relationship or you wouldn’t be looking for an out. If you really wanted to stay you’d buy a vibrator.
Yes. One or both of you will be miserable...
So obviously - yes. Unless you're willing to agree to cheat.
If sexual compatibility is what's important to you, then yes.
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Depends. If it is caused by some stress in life and temporary, then I wouldn't say so. Otherwise, could be a big issue.
You'll get a bunch of ninnies on here that don't think so, but sex is too crucial to a relationship to force one person to be unhappy due to sexual incompatibility.Well it can be valid if one is craving sex and one is not means you could be incompatible. But you may at least sit down and talk to your partner about it
Yes it is if there's no way for you to be mutually satisfied. You don't want to spend the next 30 years sexually frustrated.
Id says so. If it was just a little mismatched then maybe not but if it was vastly mismatched then yes, definitely
Sex is essential and lack of it leads to betrayal eventually
I think so. I would screen for things like that early on.
Of course it is. If you're not sexually satisfied, then you're going to feel resentful and neglected in the long run
If there's no way to get on the same level I think there's going to be an underlying disappointment that can lead to problems
Sex is a major factor but depends on how you feel about it
Who's sexually dissatisfied here? You, him, or both
Yes definitely. You can't work that out. It will drag you down forever.
I'd say yes. If you're mismatched there, chance are you are on other things also
Yes. There needs to be sexual compatibility.
Yes I would break up.
If everything else works it's not a good reason
Yes possibly
It is a silly reason
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