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Omg I am going through this exact same situation!!! Weve only been together 4 years but holy cow I miss the excitement... we live together now so no more cute texts and I miss yous or anything like that... I haven't figured out how to handle it honestly so I'm in the same boat-_- just know you aren't alone.
I’ve been with my partner for six years now and I don’t feel like that but I don’t think it’s unusual to feel that way. After so long, things can change and from what I understand, many feel like they’ve lost some excitement. I don’t necessarily think a counsellor is needed but maybe take time out to do new things and spend time focused on each other
I totally get what you mean. I sometimes miss the excitement of crushes and flirting and all that. I don't think it means you need therapy or that you should call it quits. A good way to get excitement back is to try an activity that gets you both out of you comfort zone. It sounds cheesy, but try something like playing truth or dare, and don't hold back on the truths or the dares.
It is actually completely normal ☺️ my parents always told me this 🙂 I have never believed it, but now I do.. every burning love for the other person will eventually wear out 🙂 but that doesn't mean anything ☺️ you can still love your partner the same and even more 😋 it's simply less emotional 🙂
The whole being in love thing never lasts
If you give up on your relationship to chase after it you will just run into the same situation later on
That you have not developed s deep emotional bond in this time though... but many hold back from it not unusual just sad
Give more of yourself it is rewarding if returned in kind
We have a deep emotional bond, I just miss the excitement. 🤷🏼♀️
Well that is good to hear
But something old will never have the excitement of something new but everything new turns old in time
The emotional bond is what replaces it or supposed to at least
In any case it really is fairly normal
Think of it though what do you love the most that new shirt you just got or that one you have had for ages and is not even fit for wearing outside anymore but it is just so comfy?
You can add more excitement to your lives just try doing some different things it is all about adding new things new experiences and if you share them they become memories you have together that will last forever... or at least till someone gets Alzheimer's
Take up a hobby together or go on vacation or something
Some people don't have this problem, but most do.
Try to roleplay two strangers meeting for the first time in public setting.
Also you have more control over your feelings than you think. Your loss of "excitement" might just start with a thought, and can be fixed with a thought. Like I know some guys can literally have erectile dysfunction just by reading on the internet that he might have erectile dysfunction 😂
Monika in Friends felt the same way. I guess it's normal, honestly I feel like I'll miss it at one point of my relationship too, but for now I'm always excited to see my boyfriend and don't. It's normal and it will pass like any other feelings I guess.
I don't know what people expect from a purely mind based connection. The ego is never satisfied so eventually it wants something more, or something different.
You don't need therapy, you need to understand the difference between an egoic mind based relationship, and one based on the timeless depth within all of us that never dies.
I suggest you take a look at some of Ekhart Tolle's talks on relationships and ego, on youtube and see if any of it makes sense.
I’ll take a look at it. Thank you.
Yes. There is a girl who loves me and I love her too. We used to flirt and hit on each other regularly but lately we are not having a good time. We just decided to be only friends and nothing more. I am sorry to know about your sinking romance in relationship.
I would say it's a common feeling after being in a long relationship missing all the things when it was all exciting and new but you gotta be sure to think about your partner and their feelings too and know that they're worth it and you love them that's why you've been together for so long , I would say you should try new things with your parents some kinky ones 😂 but if you're like done with them don't love them anymore then you should just leave
Absolutely! I don't think I'm anti monogamy, but def. have a had the same experiences of falling in love, losing the passion, and craving a new romance and the feeling of new love. It's not just you. And my wife is the same amazing person, I think it's just natural this way, nobodys at fault.
I would call it open before calling it quits
Girl you have to liven things up I don't know what you got to do you got to take it back to where it was I'm an older dominant Southern gentleman my submissive was killed in 2011 we was in a car accident we was together for 7 years for that 7 years we did not live together now 200 apart maybe that was the difference but we saw each other every week and spent like 4 days each week together but it was like a damn honeymoon every year it never stopped so I don't know
Well first, when is the last time you guys made a really nice romantic date/weekend for just the two of you? Like treating it just like in the beginning where you guys forget the world around you and just focused on each other?
Go on vacation together and communicate with each other more
You might be living in stressful environment
Travel and do adventurous things like hiking together , skydiving , scuba diving and parachuting etc
If this didn't help you 🧐
then massage us again 🤔
I have been married for 10 years and been with my husband for 13 years. About 3 years ago I was starting to feel the same way. I talked to my husband about this and he told me he felt the same way. We still loved eachother. We noticed we needed to get our spark back. Yes this is very normal. Hang in their
You should be in love. As for the rest, I miss the excitement too. Also sexually it can become a bit boring, my ex after a while had developed a fixed pattern and every time I tried to suggest we try out something new, he used to say he didn’t feel the need to do that because what we did felt good. I really think you have to work On it to keep it interesting
Yeah but the whole flirting is fun but temporary. Sooo i think you should be appreciative and try to flirt with him as if he was someone new in your life. Like roleplay
Yes that is one of the hardest things about being in A long term relationship. I just got out of my relationship because I wanted the excitement again I tried to get it back work her but was not working. so I left I want to be in love not love someone with no desire.
Unfortunately im my dad's son so flirting comes so naturally to me I don't even really know im doing it... But I also flirt with everyone regardless of sex. I guess my point is I never stop so I can't miss it. Second if you you him but not in love why stay around you're just stringing him along
I think something is wrong. I've been with my SO for 5 years and he still gives me butterflies.