You cheated on your husband, got pregnant with another man's child, and the first thing you do is come on here to ask a bunch of internet strangers for advice? I hope this story is bullshit... otherwise you are a horrible person.
Ladies, please take notes: whenever you ask why men don't want to get married, don't trust women, or have their doubts about the women in their lives, IT IS BECAUSE OF SHIT LIKE THIS.
You should tell your husband immediately that you cheated on him and that you aren't sure the baby is his. Then, assuming he doesn't already know, you should tell the guy you screwed (literally and figuratively) that you are married. Then, you need to take a DNA test (that you should pay for since all of this is your fault), to determine who is the actual father.
Then, this part is important, you need to DEAL WITH THE CONSEQUENCES. If your husband leave you, accept that and respect his wish. If he wants to move past it and chooses to stay with you, then you need to spend the rest of your marriage grateful for the husband that you don't deserve.
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I would donate the baby to science.
It will come out eventually, so come clean and risk the consequences. The longer you deceive your husband, the worse it will be in the end! He WILL find out!
girl you're in deep shit eeeeek, tell them both
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Putting myself in each of these men's shoes, I would want to know ASAP, although I'm not sure whether I would dump you if I were the husband and turned out to be the father.
Depending where you are, your husband may be considered the father regardless if you're still married when the child is born and then he has to jump through hoops to be de-recognized as the father. That would be very unpleasant for both of you, and the guy who cheated with you likely won't be willing to start a long-term relationship with you, either.I think you can make this much much easier on yourself if you tell them both. Keeping this a secret would only work if you could keep it secret for the rest of your life and it's a horrible idea. Telling them both let's them know that even though you did something bad, you're willing to be honest with them, and that's the only way you'd ever give yourself the chance to gain back their trust.
Tell them before they figure it out on their own because it will be better if they hear it from you. That way it looks like you have nothing else to hide and you have given yourself the best chance of being forgiven.You could have an amniocentesis done to check for paternity. The baby's DNA would need to be compared to a sample from your husband which you could probably get without his knowledge. If the baby is his and you hope to die if you ever cheat again then I wouldn't tell him. Telling him would serve to relieve your guilt by making him live in the agony of your betrayal. If your husband's not the father and you're still attracted to this baby daddy then just divorce your husband. He deserves better and your child will grow up knowing its father.
Do you want to stay married? If so, say nothing, as it is likely his child. This is especially so, if you have other children. If you feel you must come clean about the baby's parentage, then have a DNA test. But don't just blow things up, and then find he's the father. You need to consider not just your feelings, but also the welfare of the child.
I actually don't believe you, but hypothetical; tell your husband. Find out who the father really is through dna test when you can. And be prepared for a divorce.
Oh hell no. You are not about to have your husband go through paternity fraud! You tell them both about it!
Tell everyone and let the pieces fall where they may
Cheating is an irreversible mistake and you’re not gonna get away with it. Tell them both.
Cheated once or a dozen times there is no difference. You still cheated fess up & tell him.
First do a dna test on baby, if it belongs to other guy then tell husband everything
God help you. God help all involved. This isn't going to be easy. God help you...
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