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Okay, I read your post and I'm guessing he was a good provider which is why you picked to marry him. Second, be honest. You got pregnant on purpose. Women have the final decision to have a baby or not plus there is how many different forms of birth control to go along with that so you could have protected yourself. The way you stated you got married to do the right thing for your child. I believe you knew what you were doing. Third, the reason why you married him is that he is a good provider as I stated above. Meaning you love him not in love with him says it all. You thought over a period of time you'd find some attraction but him not trusting you is making you lose attraction for him. The truth is you married this guy because you were looking for a long-term prospect. Now I'm betting he isn't the type of men you were with before you married him. My advice is not to cheat on him but get a divorce. Then when you do don't look to get everything he has. Child support yes he is obligated to pay that but alimony if you are working is ridiculous. Unless you want to add to the number of men out there reading this story and then going MGTOW and not getting married then go right ahead. If you can support yourself, do that then. Far too many women out there who take advantage of the system and then give women a bad name and then guys like me who have never been married say screw this. It's something to think about but my advice is if you are not happy to leave.
The stories I hear about the consequences of sleeping around.
I would point out to you that you talked plenty about your own troubles, but said nothing about how your children are doing with all this going on. I don't mean that as an attack, just something worrying to me.
Tough love incoming: I don't care about what would make you happy. You made your bed. I care about what is best for the children.
Statistically, children are far, far better off with a father than without. If the man is a remotely decent father to his kids, doesn't abuse them, etc. than it might be best for them if you suck it up and stay. Go to couple's counseling, do whatever you have to.
If you do decide to leave him, please make QUADRUPLY sure that they continue to have male role models in their lives. It is vital to their development.
But don't cheat. You made a vow. Make the best of the shitty situation you put yourself in.
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It is intense your husband lacks self confidence and is highly insecure. Try marriage counseling in gradual steps. Ok here choose a counselor who is definitely of high review rating , as it comes down to this. You want someone who will view it as a subject and not chastise either of you. Discuss carefully though not all the issues in one sitting.
To answer your question, do not cheat on your husband. It would only make worse.
You need to file for a divorce immediately! He is emotionally and mentally abusing you by constantly checking your computer and phone and by keeping you away from your friends, especially saying he would kill himself if you left him and won't accept the fact you also need to have a life outside of your marriage. This is manipulation since he is isolating you and you need to leave him immediately.
You need to drop him and enjoy life to the fullest. Divorce him before the abuse turns into domestic abuse and seek a therapist for your depression to better your life.