I feel so bad that I cheated on my husband. should I tell him?

[Anonymous]

we have been married for 3 years now and I have a son with him. he is an amazing father and husband, he provides us a great life and loves his son more than anything. I know it may sound selfish but I did it because our sexual life hasn't been as good as it was in the beginning, everything just feels so boring and repetitive now, it's not the same anymore.

last week while he went to spend a night at the hospital with our son who had pneumonia, I called a friend of mine to our house and we had sex. it felt so good at the moment but now I can't even look at him without feeling bad for him.

Should I tell him about it or should I just try to forget it? i know him very well and I'm sure if I tell him he will file for divorce right away and we will fight a judicial battle for our son, but I know the courts tend to favor mothers so I'm less worried about that.

[jennyPuss]

i would be more concerned with the fact that you are going to burn for all eternity if i were you. is his son even really his? should he get a paternity test? what a slag. he deserves to know and you should file for divorce even if he won't. you should not have custody of your son. he doesn't need a slag for a mother. he needs his dad to find a new wife who will be faithful. you should insist that he gets full custody. don't be selfish. the fact that you're asking a group of strangers for their opinion shows that you already know what is right. do what's best for your son. you obviously don't care about your son or else you would have been in the hospital with him instead of fucking someone other than his father. do the right thing and just get out of both of their lives.

[Izumiblu]

you should tell him...

just to put in context what kind of person you are:

1) Husband goes to hospital to spend night with child who has pneumonia
2) You call a FRIEND over to have sex
3) You have sex and enjoy it
4) You say you feel guilty... but I honestly doubt it
5) Why do I doubt it? because you already have it in your head that because you are a woman you can win a custody battle...

no fucks given to husband or child that didn't fuck up...

[montey]

here's what you should do:

you either tell him, and explain why he should even be staying with you, and why you did it and your feelings towards that man/woman if any at all. good, bad, ugly.

or... you can choose not to. HOWEVER, you must NEVER cheat again, and you must be able to live with that and NOT make that MISTAKE EVER AGAIN.
You must cut all ties with that fling of yours and move onward.

[Anonymous]

Damn. Did you call the friend over expecting sex? If so, you are a grade C bitch. If you didn't, it might be forgivable, but it's still heartless. The fact that you are guessing he will divorce you but you aren't worried about custody proves to me you are a piece of shit person.

You have two options. Confess, grovel for forgiveness, and hope for forgiveness. If granted, you better communicate with him and make twice the effort you expect him to put in. You must also beg for forgiveness and never cheat again.

The other option is to not tell him and basically do everything else. Communicate with him and put forth twice the effort you want him to. Hope he never finds out, and let your conscience eat you alive.

Good luck with whichever you decide.

[SadDude37]

So he was at the hospital with your sick kid overnight... and you immediately thought to cheat on him? That's damn low. We are talking major impact on your karma.

He deserves to know, and he has every right to be angry about it. I hope in your case that he does get custody, as his actions that night show a stable dad who cares about his son, not a mom who went home and fùcked a friend.

[Cryostatic]

So if everything is boring and repetitive now, do something to change that? I mean, there are literally hundreds of things you could do to spice up your sex life without calling someone over to fuck you while your kid is in the hospital.

As to whether or not you should tell him, that depends. Is your relationship otherwise good? Healthy? Is it worth destroying that relationship to assuage your guilt? Questions you need to ask yourself.

Also, courts might generally favor mothers, but they might not favor mothers who call dudes over to fuck them while their kids are in the hospital being tended by their fathers.

[dogbert444]

What a callous bitch! Cheating while he was looking out for your son? Yes, you should tell him, but I suspect you are telling us just to get approval for your actions. I doubt very much that you will tell him. I think you are too scared to admit you did the worst thing at the worst time.

I dare say the truth will catch up with you if you don't tell him. It has a nasty habit of doing just that.

[Anonymous]

what you should do is grab the closest sharp object and kill yourself you stupid cheating hoe. You are the exact reason I don't fucking date anymore. what the hell is the point of being with somone if they are with other people. I rarely say this unironically but kill yourself.

[AynonOMouse]

You should tell him, and give full custody of your son to him. You are a very shitty person.
Your son had pneumonia and was in the hospital and all you could think of was to get fucked by someone else?

See, this right here is why men should NEVER get married. She even mentions the court favoring her for custody when she is a no good POS.

Anybody that defends her is the same too.

[Anonymous]

"last week while he went to spend a night at the hospital with our son who had pneumonia, I called a friend of mine to our house and we had sex"

Either you're a terrible human or you're trolling. The last line indicates this might be a guy posting this question.

[wittymilf]

Not just the last line, the whole story sounds like a guys reasoning for cheating.

[Opinion Owner]

@wittymilf It honestly does.

[TheUglyMonk]

"but I know the courts tend to favor mothers so I'm less worried about that." Now that's called abusing power.

[wittymilf]

Yup, another more manly attribute

[madhatters4]

you should tell him. you broke your marriage vows... rather than add lying to that list of infractions you should be honest

your husband deserves the truth adn the ability to decide how he wants things to be going forward

[UncleRayRay]

Get tested and make sure you aren't going to give him an STD. As for what you should do relationship-wise, you don't have a conscience so does it really matter at this point?

[JunkIntr0vert]

Too late. You should have talked to him about your sexual life instead of cheating on him. Shame... I think you do have to tell him.. But, at the same time, I'm like: What would happen with your son then?
You are in a huge dilemma.

[Anonymous]

You should tell him and not to sound mean but it sounds like instead of seeking advice from strangers online you should see a marriage councilor who can really help you deal with serious issues like this

[Anonymous]

Congratulations, you managed to fuck up a situation that you would have been able to fix with a tiny bit of communication beyond repair.

[azzntittiz]

Sounds like a man posing as a woman to scare women from cheating. Won't work because I plan to be a cheater when I get married, nice try.

[SadDude37]

Huh? You plan on being a cheater? Why not just have an open relationship so no one gets fùcked?

[azzntittiz]

@SadDude37 Exactly, I just want his sperm and company just in case faint or something.

[SadDude37]

Wow, that's damn low too. Some fùcked people out there

[azzntittiz]

@SadDude37 Love doesn't exist, raise productive humans with manners and self esteem, do not hold your partner to commitment and drama. Humans are not monogamous. Buy a house so your kids have a place to stay no matter what, die and build an empire for future generations.

[SadDude37]

If you want to be open that's one thing, but cheating is completely different. What you are suggesting is using people for your own ends, and who cares about what they feel. That's like grade A sociopathic thought process. Shape your world the way you want it to be, but don't let it screw with mine

[haboss]

why would you marry someone then?

[MiraPeace]

@SadDude37 seriously sad

[MiraPeace]

Before doing this, take the journey into yourself first please.

[azzntittiz]

Everybody needs to calm the hell down, the roof is not on fire.

[SadDude37]

What's sad? That I don't think that people should be used and taken advantage of through deceit? Hate if ya want for that, but don't hurt me any

[MiraPeace]

@SadDude37 her idea of LOVE

[SadDude37]

Ohhh ok. I thought you were telling me off 😂

[MiraPeace]

@SadDude37 I agree with what you said about open relationship so no one gets fucked. :)

[SadDude37]

Yeah no need to hide it, nothing wrong with polygamy as long as all parties agree with it

[TheUglyMonk]

Cheating isn't murder, get over yourselves, it's not as big as people pose it to be unless you're married.

[SadDude37]

You are right, cheating isn't murder, but it ain't right either. Defending infidelity makes no sense to me, but if that's the mountain you want your horse to die on...

[TheUglyMonk]

@SadDude37 Don't get me wrong I'm not trying to defend it but, cheating is simply overrated in my opinion, it's a person you trusted who couldn't keep his or her promise, it's just that everyone treats it like someone killed your kids or family.

Breaking your promise is bad and depending on the reasons it can sometimes be forgiven although 99% of the time you can't go back to how you used to be, there are only a few people in the world whom you can trust 100% in every single aspect, some might cheat on you, still love you and are willing to die for you, not every cheater in my opinion is a bad guy like portrayed.

[SadDude37]

Being a cheater shows where your moral compass points too. I can't find a rationale excuse to cheat on someone that is supposed to be the closest person to you in life. If you are willing to lie to the one person you should support through thick and thin, how low of regard is the rest of the world held?

I understand you point Monk, but for me, there is no lowering my standards of acceptance when it comes to cheating. Other people may be more forgiving.

[azzntittiz]

@SadDude37 You're full of it, come talk to me in 5 years.

[SadDude37]

Full of what? And why talk in 5 years? I've been married 10

[MiraPeace]

@SadDude37 true

[TheMostCharming]

Don't tell him what he doesn't know won't hurt him you just wanna tell him because your guilty conscience you just hurt him more and put your kid through divorce

[RationalMale]

Tell him. He deserves to know. He went to the hospital... To spend time with your son... So you invited someone over to fuck. He needs to file divorce.

[jacquesvol]

No need to destroy a good relationship for one dumb mistake.
Bury your secret deep in you and keep it there for eternity. Make sure the other guy shuts up about it too. (Is he married?)

[dogbert444]

Cheating is never a mistake. It is always a deliberate act, and in this case planned in advance!

[jacquesvol]

@dogbert444 Asker doesn't say she planned to have more than just company.

[dogbert444]

I bet there was some intent there. Why the fuck call a guy to her house? Why wasn't she at the hospital too? A mother that can even think of sex at a time like that? Come off it! This was no mistake. I may be young, but I'm not that naive!

[jacquesvol]

@dogbert444 Mistakes happen: the flesh can be weaker than expected.

[dogbert444]

Well, I guess her hubby doesn't deserve her.

[jacquesvol]

@dogbert444 Your guess

[Anonymous]

Well you need to tell him. As you can't even look at him so he'll guess and it's better coming from you

[Anpu23]

Do you want to leave him? If so then leave, no need for the drama. If not then keep your mouth shut.

[Naydyonov]

"Slut"

Exactly why I'll never trust women.
"Sex life isn't as good..."

🖕🖕🖕🖕🖕🖕🖕🖕🖕

[Blitzkrieger]

You are a disgusting human being. I dont give a fuck if this gets deleted.

[Anonymous]

He's a beta male, if he leaves you he'll never find another girl. Chances are he won't leave you because he knows that. You can literally fuck all the alpha's you want and he pays for the kids you have with them. How's that for female empowerment?

[haboss]

even if you dont care about your husband , dont you even respect your child? shame on you!