Should you tell your brother in law that your sister in law is cheating on him?

[Anonymous]

So obviously this is weighing really heavily on me. I honestly feel horrible because I knew she was cheating on him before they got married, and he got her pregnant. She told her brother that when they got married she would stop, and so far since then I thought she had changed. Well my husband, and his sister got into a really bad fight recently, and afterwards he let it slip to me that she is in fact still cheating on her husband. Then proceeds to tell me how she tells him she’s so happy she can live a double life, and her husband will never find out since she goes out of state for work, and that’s where she meets the guys she cheats on him with. He then starts telling me details about how she’s so proud about how she just started seeing this new guy who is married too, and has a baby, and how no one will ever find out the truth. This whole situation is so sad to me, and with the holidays coming up it’s just going to make things incredibly painful for me to be around them knowing what she is doing to her family. I honestly wish he never said anything to me about it, but now that he has I don’t know how to live with myself knowing this, and not doing anything about it anymore.

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Found out she wasn’t just cheating with random guys but she’s been sleeping with my husband too her own brother. Wow crazy what you can find out when you speak up I got beat for it by my husband but at least he was mad enough to finally tell me the truth about them because he wanted to hurt me for coming after his sister “cough” lover. I feel so bad for our son because I’m going to have to tell him when he is older that THIS is the reason his parents aren’t together.

[Staximus]

Talk it over with your husband and see how he wants to deal with his dumb sister. It sounds like she is really shady and thinks life is a soap opera. Not really a person you guys need in your life, family or not. This kind of behavior causes people to ruin their own and other's lives and makes them do bad things.

[Asker]

It’s such a messed up situation. Also you are completely right she has tried to ruin our life many times, and I don’t know why I still feel bad about saying anything. She is a terrible person, and my husbands entire family knows what she’s doing except her husband and nobody cares. She even has a friend that works with her and goes along with the whole thing and it probably makes him feel like it’s okay that she’s so far away, but really they are both stabbing him in the back.

[Staximus]

What I meant at the end of my answer is bad people doing bad things to good people can make good people do bad things out of revenge. One bad apple spoils the whole bunch. Separate the bad apple from the good apples.

[Anonymous]

I don't think she's technically your sister in law. He's just your brother in law and she's his wife.
She would have to be your husband's sister to be your sister in law.
Anyway, I might just leave him an anonymous message of some kind. Of course she'll deny it so it's a difficult situation. It's more up to his brother, your husband to have his back.

[Asker]

It is my husbands sister

[Opinion Owner]

Oh okay, so she is your sister in law and he's your husband's brother in law.
She sounds like a fucking hoe.
I guess he will learn the hard way with that one. It's a terrible mess.
Marriage is bad if you can't compete with her fuck buddies or cheating addiction.
The future is looking sad

[Asker]

You know what’s even worse I just found out he was cheating on me with his sister a few days ago so yeah she is a disgusting I left my husband after he beat me, because I confronted his sister about what she was doing to her husband in front of everyone after I had a few drinks in me. Well when we got home he tells me he wants a divorce (After he beats me LOL) and how he was cheating on me the whole time, and it was right in front of my face. I also knew that his sister abused him as a child, but he downplayed it.. No other females are around for it to be in my face. I asked him what your sister? And he laughed. Worse part is I have a child with this monster, and now I’m wondering is her new baby even her husbands or is it mine! 🤮

[BonnieBoo]

I wouldn’t say anything. I wouldn’t want to be the person who destroyed their marriage. She’ll find out herself one day. I wouldn’t say anything.

[Asker]

Honestly she has already tried to ruin my marriage by sending her friends after my husband when she found out I was pregnant. So if that’s what’s suppose to hold me back it’s not. What I’m more afraid of is his family thinking that exact way, and that’s the only thing holding me back.

[Asker]

She destroyed her marriage, and mine because she’s been sleeping with my husband too her own brother and I wouldn’t have found that out if I didn’t say anything so glad I did!

[Rainbowdash_999]

If you have evidence with a date. Who’s cheating on who? It’s usually best to stay out of that.

[Asker]

Well apparently it wasn’t just random guys out of town she was messing around with her own brother too what’s more sick is he was trying to get me to move in right next door to her- guess I know why now. So glad I did say something or I would have never found out she has been sleeping with my husband too!

[spartan55]

I would sing like a bird. Fuck cheaters, they are lowlifes.

[Asker]

I agree I hate cheaters too, and this whole situation makes me sick. I’m just scared I’m going to ruin the relationship I have with my husband, and his family if I do. If anything I want to tell him anonymously, but I’m just not sure how to go about it.

[spartan55]

Send a text from a throwaway number there are plenty of ways. Google it.

[Asker]

I did one better I humiliated her in front of the whole family wasn’t actually my goal I was just drinking and just being around that whore pisses me off since she gave me nothing but hell since she found out I was pregnant. My husband beat the fuck out of me on the way home for it but it was worth it because then he was angry enough at me to slip enough of the truth out that I see now why she hated me for no reason because she was sleeping with her own damn brother. This whole situation is so sick!

[spartan55]

Sleeping with her own brother? Huh?

[Asker]

I believe the person I’m divorcing was cheating on me with his own sister the one who’s cheating on her husband.

[spartan55]

I'm totally confused.

[Wise4myage]

Can you find a way to tell him anonymously?

[Asker]

At this point I think that’s the only way I would go about it without my husbands entire family hating me, because they all know too, and no one says anything!! This has been going on for over a year!!

[Wise4myage]

Sounds good.😊