Bodycount and honesty?

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what do you think... my girlfriend of the past year has told me that her bodycount is 4, including me... today she told me that it was over 30... but she is always trying to provoke me. I never know what to believe. but... here are some "clues" I picked up over the past year: 1. she has so many guys that desire her, including text messages asking her to sleep with them 2. she does not seem inexperienced at all. 3. she claims she is not into sex, but behaves the opposite with me 4. she was married when I met her but I did not know it until after six months of a fully developed relationship between us, and she left her husband for me. 5. I know that she slept with a guy before me that was a random summer fling (while she was married). 6. she treats me kinda bad, blames me and tries to invert my reality, I feel abused - but, if I try to end it she seduces me back in - she seems obsessed with having sex with me. 7. she claims she loves me and has left behind all the normal responsibilities of life to spend time with me, but we mostly argue and just have sex constantly 8. I don't feel she is honest with me and my intuition makes me think that she is cheating - everything that is suspicions is met with flimsy and weak answers / excuses. 9. she some has some crazy "sex appeal" - everyone everywhere cannot keep their eyes off her, guys are constantly asking her out, owners of clothing brands put an illustration of her on their clothing lines... every guy she talks to just melts at her words... I swear man, its like she has some kinda spell over men.

I don't know what to believe - should I be amazed that she is with me, should I believe her enough to hope for a serious relationship, should I trust her... the sex is way beyond anything I have ever experienced and I know my own body count, and it is embarrassingly high... I am not sure how this girl got ahold of me like this, its been over a year now, and I want to believe her, but... but, come on, it seems obvious. opinions?

Oliverlogan263 · Accepted Answer

Here are my thoughts based on what you've shared:

1. It seems unlikely your girlfriend is being fully honest with you. The inconsistencies in her story about her number of sexual partners, as well as the other "clues" you mentioned, suggest she may not be trustworthy.

2. Lying about something like body count indicates a lack of honesty and openness that is unhealthy in a relationship. It shows a pattern that is unlikely to change.

3. The fact that she hid being married from you for 6 months is a huge red flag and shows a propensity for deceit.

4. The way she treats you - blaming you, inverting reality, making you feel abused - is concerning and not indicative of a healthy, caring relationship.

5. Despite the great sex, it seems the underlying issues of trust, honesty and respect are not there. Without those foundations, the relationship will likely continue to be unstable and unsatisfying.

6. You deserve a partner who is open, honest and trustworthy. You deserve to be in a relationship where you feel secure, respected and cared for.

7. Continuing in this relationship likely won't change the underlying issues. Your intuition that something is off is probably correct.

In summary, while the chemistry may be there, it seems the trust, honesty and respect that form the basis of a stable relationship are missing here. I'd recommend seriously considering whether this dynamic will truly make you happy long-term, and if not, seeking a partner who can meet your emotional needs as well as your physical ones.

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

Sounds like a lot of bullshit to deal with. Long-term... you'll be dealing with this shit until her looks fade.

Then you'll be looking at this sex monster that has a gunt now, looking back at all the bullshit you put up with to keep her as yours... is it worth it? Think into the future... was it really worth it?

If you value it that much, then yeah. But how much time, money, and these bullshit shit tests will you have gone through just for that day where you sit back looking at your fat old lady snoring her ass off and farting in her sleep, and you think to yourself how lucky you are?

There is more to life than just fucking and dealing with women's bullshit. That's all I'm saying. If you don't understand me now, you will in 30 years.

mandyfire98 · Accepted Answer

She's gaslighting you and emotionally abusing you. You need to leave the relationship.

Her bodycount is the least of your worries.

It's definitely more than four. Beyond a shadow of a doubt.

We tell you it's one number so you don't get insecure about it. If we told uou the truth most men would let it eat at them. They'd obsess over it instead of just enjoying the relationship.

inhua · Answer

you don't need to know the exact number of her body count. you just need to get her out of your life. she left her husband for you should already be a red flag in itself

that being said, her body count at least 50 if you really want to know

Blinko35 · Answer

Hate to tell u bud but she one of those females that knows she a dime and uses it to her advantage and she probably throws it at u when she gets ya really frustrated. If she does those things u more than likely just good dick for her.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

TL;DR, whatever number a woman gives you re body count, multiply it by 3 (at least).

msc545 · Answer

She is lying to you.

Anonymous · Answer

She is telling you the truth with over 30. Most women rack up cock before they hit 30

exitseven · Answer

Use her up and then move on.

Reem12345reem · Answer

7 🙈

jahaims · Answer

She's trash bud

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