Is he calling my bluff?

[Anonymous]

I have been dating this guy for about a month now, I really like him, and he said he really likes me. Anyhow the other day, we kinda got into it an argument, I texted him and said that I need time to think, I said this because I wanted to get a reaction out of him, I really didn't need or want time to think. So anyways, we went back and forth, and finally I told him I didn't need time to think, I just needed reassurance (I know I know) bad idea. So anyhow he then flips on me and says I think we do need time to think about things, when 5 mins earlier he didn't. Well its been 2 days now and I haven't heard from him. We have plans for the 10th of Sept. (he is out of town and works 2nd shift until then), do I wait to hear from him, or do I contact him? I think I'm going to wait, just to see how long he will go without contacting me. Any thoughts on why he is doing this? I think he is calling my bluff and I hurt his feelings when I said I needed time, even though he knows I didn't mean it, maybe he's trying to teach me a lesson? Any thoughts out there? Thanks

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Obligations, thanks, but you really did not answer the ?, I know all about being honest etc etc did you read my ? lol.

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I sent him a text apologizing again, and asking him to please just tell me if it is over, He sent me a text back saying " you are suppose to be reflecting right now" I think maybe at this point he is just having fun with my feelings.

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I hate to say it, but I think Shlei3 is right. He's probably done. and no I will not text him again.

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Ok well hears the latest, he ended up texting me again and asked me to come over. I couldn't go, but we made up. I learned my lesson. Thanks everybody for your answers!

[quantumdefender]

ok, you were only dating a month? and you want reassurance? about what?

you sure as hell went about it the wrong way.

at this point he has a right to be totally ticked and being yanked around like a dog on a leash.

and TEXTINg any form of an apology is in POOR taste, any apologies should be heartfelt and made in person. would you like it if someone texted you a wedding proposal? some things you cannot do by email just so you can avoid confrontations!

suck it up, GO SEE HIM, eat some crow, and and kiss some ass, and if he takes you back, DONT EVER play that mind game again, cause he will fully be justified in showing you the exit door!

[mellowmatt]

You don't go and play games with people and not expect them to react accordingly.

Maybe he is teaching you a lesson, I don't know. If he knows you didn't mean it then he is probably just seeing how far you will go to apologize.

But you were the catalyst it seems to his reaction, so you should probably contact him first.

[Asker]

So you don't think I should wait for him to contact me? I did apologize, and I'm no begger, so what to do next? wait for him or give it some time and call? a week or so?

[Shlei3]

If you did that to me I would sarcastically say "I think we do need time to think" and I would leave the relationship. Reason being, you are at an age where games should not be played. You trying to get a rise out of him like that is pretty messed up. So what should you do? Apologize once more, tell him you are sorry for being juvenile and that you would like to give it another go and leave it at that. You may have ruined something for good. Honestly I wouldn't come back to someone if they did that. By apologizing once more you put the ball in his court. If he doesn't send it back than you have your answer. It's over and move on.

[shevvon21]

but he said you should be reflecting right now. does that really mean that it's over. he didn't flat out say it. I think you should send him and text and tell him that "you see he doesn't feel the same anymore. you're not going to contact him anymore. and say bye." that should get his motors running and you will really c if he still wants you or not.

[obligations]

i think first of all you should not be playing games or "test" his feelings. Always be up front, honest, and moral with anyone you come across whether its a coworker, bf, or a friend.

Otherwise its just making things worse. Swallow your pride and just ask him.

[obligations]

I did answer your question...you shouldn't be trying to test him...and see now it made him think...now he probably thinks your all dramatic and more trouble than its worth.

[DixieGirl2406]

Seriously? If I was a dude I would have dumped you when you said you needed time to think. That's the worst "game" a girl could play. Don't ever do that. If you really wanted to see how he really felt, you should have asked him. Girls get the worse rap for doing stupid crap like that.

[JCvarsityFootball]

damn.i would of been pissed off 2 if I'm tryna work things out with sum1 and she says that 2 me.

i would of dumped the hell out of you (no hard feelings), if you did that 2 me. we haven't even begun and you already need reasurance? wth you messed up bad, now he probably thinks you just want time 2 c other guys, find if anythin else is better then him, and that just flips him out.

he mite look at you as a HOE. (again, no hard feelings)

[shevvon21]

i think he's kinda hurt that you would break up with him just for reassurance. now he wants to give you a taste of your own medicine. that probably was a bad idea. I think you hurt his feelings or maybe he's just the revenge type. you should just call him because he's obviously still mad at you for ending it. just call and apologize again.

[shevvon21]

So that means I was right, right? lol

[SALTYPEAKS]

Exactly! But beware if to much time goes by and he doesn't see you, he will get it from some one else. Absence makes the Heart Grow Fond (but not for the missing person). I would hit dude up, but be very aloof, but also honest.

Women will never understand it is very important not to look to desperate with dudes. People want what they can't have. Give that illusion.

[Asker]

Thanks for the answer, when should I hit him up? its only been 2 days???

[Euro-Raver]

I think he realized you've got problems when you said that just to get a reaction out of him. Seriously grow up.

[Lorix3Marie]

dont keep texting him