Do you consider your spouse in the same league as yourself?

[Wowgirl10q]

In psychology they say how you view yourself is the type of person you will seek out to date. Say I see myself as a six I would date a guy I also thought was a six.

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Thank you...@Frankenstein99 @iskg679 and @PressOn for being such good friends I'd hug you all if I could. And of course thank you @xTom98 for posing in the photo with me

[xTom98]

I personally dont believe in leagues, but I agree with what you said about having a mindset.

Im way too confident to rate myself, Id seem cocky lol.

Also, love the picture 😄

[Wowgirl10q]

Yeah thanks 😉

[Skali9119Liska]

She wants the D she was messaging me weird stuff about you lmao

[DiegoO]

I am actually married, her name is Cortana and I think we are in the same league. 😍

She is perfect ♥️

[Wowgirl10q]

Awww diego

[DiegoO]

😍😍😍😍😍😍

[DiegoO]

Thanks.

[Anonymous]

So if I see myself as an 8, I can date an 8? Thanks sis you made my Day! 😀

[Wowgirl10q]

Thanks I think?

[Wowgirl10q]

They say most people do that I tend to shoot lower so I'm the standout lol

[Frankenstein99]

So you're saying i got a shot Wowgirl.

[Wowgirl10q]

@Frankenstein99 you never know

[Opinion Owner]

Thank you OP for MHO!!

[DM_ME_PUPPERS]

What a god 😍😍😍😍

[DM_ME_PUPPERS]

I’m sorry, I didn’t read your question...😍

[Wowgirl10q]

Lmao

[Wowgirl10q]

He's yours

[Wowgirl10q]

Just collaborated for the photo

[xTom98]

@DM_ME_PUPPERS 😂😂😂
I think its because of the amazing editing @wowgirl10q did.

[Wowgirl10q]

@xTom98 no it's us

[Wowgirl10q]

Look like statues
Not at all sex objects

[xTom98]

We can make a Version 2 to look like Objects then 😄

[Wowgirl10q]

@xTom98 awsome

[DM_ME_PUPPERS]

@xTom98 your stalker down voted me...

[xTom98]

I'll compensate by upvoting 😋

[DM_ME_PUPPERS]

@xTom98 thanks 😊

[CallMeDave]

Overall I would say yes. Physically I think she's more attractive than I am. She also has more education and what most people would probably consider a more prestigious job. In those ways some might consider her a notch or two above me. In terms skills and abilities, there are some things where she's better than I am and others where I'm better than she is. Considering it all, I think we're relatively well matched.

Neither of us look at it that way though. What we care about is that we treat each other well, trust and respect each other, can share life responsibilities because we're both capable of handling them, and overall feel like we're a pretty good match.

[Marethyu]

There are no such things as "leagues" in relationships.
If two people love each other, find peace in each other and are happy together.. Then they're in the same league, dispite of some subjective 1 - 10 system.
Also, that is never your decision anyway. People judge you differently than you do.. Might see things in you, you've never noticed and value parts of you that you count as mistakes.
What does it matter what "score" you'd give yourself if someone else sees you as perfect?

[MedicalAdventure]

I am a 9 and because of the fact that i don’t get content easily I am also single.
When a girl that deserves me will see my great qualities I will be in a very happy relationship
My problem is that at university there are intelligent people (which I like) but not so beautiful (in the context in which I am)
I am really happy when I think about my career as a medical doctor because I am sure I will meet some hot girl that I will also like as persons because we will have a lot in common and things to talk about together

[Frankenstein99]

Hey maybe you can become a plastic surgeon and you can create your girl.

[Makeuphoarder]

Morals & values. We matched. Appearance wise I'm more attractive from what I hear. is was more his heart that matched mine. Respect & loyalty. He was overweight & I was in good shape. Now we are both live very active lifestyles. So even if he was a 7 & I was a 9 , he became a 10 in my eyes.

[PressOn]

Not sure if I do the league thing but at times I look at her and think she is just so gorgeous. And I feel so lucky to be with her. But more important than the she's a # - I'm a # thing, is we share a lot of the same beliefs and work well together

[ATuairiscean]

A bit odd in that sense - If I did/believed in leagues, I would be punching way above my weight - I am about a 5/6 and my girlfriend is an 8/9 but that has been a common trend in my relationships, I go for really good looking girls for some reason. Usually the ones who don't realise how beautiful they are.

[SngBirdy]

I dont have a spouse, so im just gonna talk about my girlfriend.
I think we are in the same league. Mainly because both of our personalities are very similar and thats why we are in love.

But she pointed out she is sometimes insecure of how i look, and she's just "average".
It makes me mad. She is absolutely beautiful and even perfect in my eyes, but i feel she doesn't believe me. I dont want her to feel insecure because of me, it makes me sad

[AriesMale]

There will always be the chaser and the chasee. However the couple at some point becomes a unit and starts dressing the same, acting the same, same lifestyle.

Therefore you end up near the same league. However if you become lazy or don’t keep up with your partner, it’s sad to say but more than likely you will break up.

[lehsoj]

You nailed it. Closer You are when you marry the shorter the distance to become a unit. Don't know about dressing the same though

[pumaOH24]

Yep.. I think we are. I think that's why we've been together as long as we have.

[azzntittiz]

That might be true of the majority, but in the past I have dated a lot of people I do not view as equal to me. I really just tolerated what was available to based on my cultural situation. Jamaica men were never what I thought I deserved.

[Aenetoo]

I think that's probly true. Sure, every guy likes to see pretty girls. But that doesn't mean he'd date one. I think people like people they find compatible. It's not so much about looks. I know. That's cliche. But I think it's true.

[morimeme1]

I'd say I do choose guys in my "league" and have trust issues with guys who are too attractive. But in other areas of life we are in pretty different leagues 😅

[Jemini_Crocket]

I consider most people above me so that's one of the reasons why I'm not even dating xD Just wanted to say that :D

[BigShaq321]

That's not a good way to live. Nobody is above or below you, we're all equals.

[Jemini_Crocket]

Whenever I tried, I was always left rejected. I believe some people just can't have "standards" and have only few options instead of plenty like people of a different league.

[Wowgirl10q]

You just have no confidence in yourself nobody is better then anybody

[iskg679]

I agree with @Wowgirl10q because your picture looks beautiful.

[Wowgirl10q]

@iskg679 good guy🤗

[Jemini_Crocket]

@iskg679 Thank you but I still think most guys that I crush on wouldn't even take a look lol

[Selina_Kyle_]

I am single yet, but I am afraid I won't be in the league for the guy I will fall.

[AbdKilani]

Go to sleep young lady

[xTom98]

if you put your mind on beeing a 10 you're capable of getting one yourself.

[Selina_Kyle_]

@xTom98 u mean I should think of myself as 10 with confidence?
@AbdKilani go prepare your lunch box

[AbdKilani]

I am not a kid anymore 😜😜
And yes, you can get the ten you want as Tom said

[xTom98]

@Selina_Kyle_ yeah, looks definetly won't hinder your adventure lol, just be confident and take what you want

[Selina_Kyle_]

@xTom98 I am not insecure, I may just fall for someone really good, beyond me xD

[Wowgirl10q]

@xTom98 looks guru

[AbdKilani]

Let's see
Well I consider myself 8 but I don't care, I would get 10 or 1
It happens, and happened when I had my first LDR, I can say she was a 9 which is rare, but she was crazy about me.
So all this leauge thing means nothing

[Hurlyburly]

I guess so. All of our relatives (mine and his) always say that we are a great match for eachother, also appearence wise.

[SirRexington]

I'm a 10!

I'm just kidding, I'm like a 4. But the girls I like tend be 7s according to the masses idea of beauty.

[Wowgirl10q]

You like 8-10

[SirRexington]

No! You're lying.

[Wowgirl10q]

I don't lie

[SirRexington]

You said I was an 8-10. That's lying.

[Wowgirl10q]

To me you are

[SirRexington]

Thank you! So much.

[Anonymous]

I don’t have a spouse so I can’t answer that question but I do agree with what you said. No one dates someone they deem inferior to themselves, it’s either the same league or superior (though both superior and inferior don’t tend to last)

[-sunflowersss-]

We are pretty similar and I think we are in the same league.

[andreasderjuengere]

I don't. And I see no need to. Important to me would be to want to be together, and to enjoy it and to make it happen.