No, this wouldn't bother me, but I understand that it bothers you. I'd suggest that you think about how he feels. He's trying really hard to make you happy and truly wants to see you. However his job is just not allowing him the free time that he wants. I wouldn't suggest that you tell him to switch jobs because you haven't been together for a long time. But talk to him about this issue. Perhaps there is another solution?
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It would bother me but on the times when he is off just ask to hang out for a little bit. And if u love him then you'd have to just deal with it or talk to him about trying to find a job with a set schedule and until he finds one he has to stay with the job he has just in case
You are only a couple of months in and you are jumping to negative conclusions too soon. Give it more time and be more patient. You might have to be more spontaneous rather than planning for the next week.
probably would if there were plans, but I'm pretty flexible and I just fill in with something else. I doubt this sits very well with most females...
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This is a good question , I have personal experience of this in my own relationship. It did bother me ( I was the one working the crazy schedule ) and so I changed job. All I can offer is that when you live together it’s easier to cope with until then hopefully you like him enough to invest your patience a little :)
Got to get you boyfriend to accept there are times it's ok to say no, work can't rule your life maybe he can agree with his boss some days or times then he can't schedule work.
I know how you feel, I have a similar situation.
You knew what you were signing up for. His job is a priority for him, even if you become one too. If you are ok with the relationship growing slowly, then stick it out.I dated a cop once; very similar. Lots of mandatory overtime. Just try to stay understanding and flexible... Try and plan dates and such that aren't time-specific.
If you care for him accept it; it won't last forever. And he should know that it's ok to say NO , and don't feel guilty about it.
i dont believe u both won't be able to see each other at least twice a week
work is work but if u really care u will find time for this 1 person that u loveYou should tell him to quit his job because it's stupid and you are the only job he needs
Before I answer the question did he have this job when you met him
So why doesn't he dedicate a time or day that he isn't available to the job?
It's just adult life. All you need to do is make sure you see eachother some weekends (not even all of them, as this will become stifling and boring)
Find a new guy then. Plenty out there.
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