Most Helpful Girls
When it comes to settling down/starting a family yes I’d agree with that for a good portion of men.
I know that’s the pressure of requirements they have but life is what happens when you’re waiting for the milestones... careers and money is something so hard to measure that when is enough enough to move onto those next steps?
I’m infertile, if I waited for my husband to be financially ready without my help I’d probably have missed my window. Fertility declined steeply with age, couples need to find a balance between being ready financially/career wise and still being able to physically have children
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I think what Steve is true. Women have their plans and expectations but men need to put their financial act together. If a man gets married when he is not prepared financially and emotionally, that can bring friction into the relationship because women can deliver their expectations but rarely do they support the husband. So it’s more convenient and fun to enjoy a relationship without binding each other until they are ready. Just support each other to get where both want to get, that’s where you will measure the strength and the love in the relationship too.
Most Helpful Guys
Maybe, but not every man is going to want a family, regardless of their financial situation. Not every man will believe that having a family, a partner, spouse, offspring or a relationship, etc. is going to bring them any or guarantee them any actual "fulfillment", "happiness" or "wholesomeness". I believe that even if I was wealthy as fuck and I'd still feel and have the same feelings of futility and emptiness that I've always felt about this world and reality. And I know that even by having a partner, spouse, family, offspring etc. SOLVES NOTHING, DOES NOTHING TO RESOLVE NOR FIX HOW I FEEL ABOUT ALL OF IT.
As for clocks, that's in regards to time limit, we're all on a time limit here one way or another, and then our time will inevitably be up one way or another, no matter what.
No, but evaluating the practicality of long term decisions is real. Obviously you’re not going to marry a girl who bites off more than she can chew. If she’s impulsive and wants to get married and have five kids and wants to start her own bakery and own a big house, and and and and…. But she doesn’t have the wherewithal to make it happen and it will all fall on your shoulders then there is trouble down the road. If she has more realistic goals that seem manageable then you can put off becoming Scrooge McDuck until later in life and include her in your life now and work towards your goals as life progresses. Obviously you want to be able to help each other with things that matter. You just have to keep your feet on the ground when you do that.
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