Why women should not be worried about their reproductive clock ticking?

[markayd]

Lets be real here. A woman can always have kids if she wants in life. Women control reproduction. Now its soo hilarious when people say that women should be worried about not being able to ever have kids in life. why would you wait until your child bearing years are over to have kids? If a woman wants kids, she can always have kids before her childbearing years are over. Its not hard to have kids. Single women can have kids. Single men can't. Men have a much higher chance of dying alone without family. They are the ones who will need to beg, and wait for a family as they get get balder, fatter, wrinklier, saggier every year as they get older.

There is no point to "getting married" before having kids either. Because reality is: almost half of all marriages end in divorce. So what usually ends up happening is that the mother usually ends up getting custody of the kids and these kids only get to see dad once a month, which is pretty much next to nothing.

If you want kids, just have your kids.

[iWantToCry]

Your right there's no point in getting "married" and there's no point in modern men investing into their offspring when the government is willing to do it for them

[jimmy2]

Lock it up baby

[cryscrys1]

I don’t know either once I turned 30 I’m told to rush do this and that ! No bitch I’ll do it when ever I want lol I’ll have a kid at 35 so please leave me alone !
I have friends who rushed and rushed to get married have kids now they are up and down the city to find stupid jobs and babysitters and some getting divorced too much stress worries all for WHAT to satisfy stupid lies society rules to do all this before 30 it’s a lie it’s a a SCAM! Don’t fall for it. Do it only when you truly mean it go for the man you like when you truly meant it have a baby when you are easy like ready READY not pop him out and feed him crackers bird food.

[markayd]

if you just close your eyes and marry some random guy by the time you're 34, just so you can have kids, you're just gonna end up divorced in a couple of years. Best thing to do is to have the kids and remain unmarried. What is the point of getting married, just to get divorced in a few years?

[Shizunk]

Men begging? Any decent man who is still single at a certain age starts getting more women interested in them not less. Precisely because of that ticking clock on the side of women you are so eager to dismiss while you are still young and desirable.
Now it sounds like you are giving up in advance, that even accepting that statistic you dont care whether you end up in the half with a stable relationship or the one with a ruined life.
It not actually true that half of the marriages fail while there are still underage children in the picture, that number is lower. But even if it were you shouldn't assume its fine to just have kids whenever, give up on getting a decent father for them and think that not having a father around has no consequences. There is some solid data saying the presence of a father has incredibly positive effect on overall life outcomes of children. And the degree of control you have over whether there will be one or not is pretty damn high.

[markayd]

No woman finds hair loss, erectile dysfunction, wrinkles, weight gain, white hairs, sagginess to be attractive. Wait till your 40s to get married an I guarantee that nobody would want you. Did you know the average age of marriage for a man in the US is 33?
its not 40s

[Shizunk]

Guess what that average is telling you. Both younger and older guys are marrying to end up at that average. How much older and how many? You dont know. I definitely do not intend to wait and I hope to marry in less than two years which would match your statistic exactly.
But because there are fewer men single around 40, many men who are are targeted by women who are in their early thirties and want literally anyone who isn't asshole. I do spend time on dating sites and they do clearly state they want age ranges like 35-45, often even higher. As in, dont even try if you are younger. What role physical attributes of men play at that point, well you be the judge but I doubt it plays a significant role.

[markayd]

I'm planning on having kids at 33-34. I'm gonna get the best sperm to have my kids. I'm not gonna have kids with any man over the age of 40. The younger the man, the better. Its also easier for a young man to get a woman pregnant than an older man.

[markayd]

[ do spend time on dating sites and they do clearly state they want age ranges like 35-45, often even higher. ]

Only older women in their 30s date men who are in their late 30s -40s. By the time most men hit 35, they are already out of their physical prime. Thats the age where noticeable signs of aging shows up. White hairs, bald spots, hair loss, weight gain, dull skin, start showing up. As a young woman, I can find someone who looks wayy better.

[Shizunk]

Getting a young man is fine, but does that mean you are not even going to attempt a stable relationship? Because you are talking about sperm not a partner. That would be extra levels of cynicism...

[markayd]

is there really a point? half of all marriages end in divorce anyways, which is why all you men come on here to complain about losing all your assets to your wife who never worked a day in her life.

[markayd]

i've been on so many failed dates with so many boring average joes with nothing to offer. If there is a guy who is funny, knows how to talk to women, its always an old guy single dad with kids or he has personality issues. Finding a good quality man who is funny, charismatic is so hard nowadays.

[Shizunk]

You won't hear me complain about losing my stuff. I understand both me and my future wife are taking a big risk, money is the means, not the end. But that is beside the point. Who fails and who doesn't is not random chance. Those who take it seriously have a far greater chance to get it right. No guarantees. But a lot more than 50%. Irresponsible combative drunks are who helps drive that statistic to where it is. And even then the fifty is infinitely more than 0. You just gave yourself ten whole years to find one decent guy. My experience says in the long run being funny is the last thing you need in a partner but that admittedly comes down to preference. Anyway I would hope you keep an open enough mind to recognize an opportunity should it ever show up to defy your expectations.

[markayd]

hun, you're soo in lala land. Nobody is gonna get married without romance nowadays. Its not 100 years ago where couples just got married to become financially stable and have kids. People get married for ROMANCE. You can't tell me that I'm gonna marry some boring ass guy i feel no attraction to just so that I can get married. No man is gonna marry a woman who doesn't have romantic feelings for him either. Its about time you wake up

[markayd]

I'm 25 years old and I've never ever had a boyfriend. And on the extremely rare occasion, i do meet someone i feel attraction to, there's always something wrong. he's too old, he's a single dad, he has character issues, he doesn't like me back. the list goes on...

[Shizunk]

My humble understanding of history says people back then were just as emotional as we are and very often accepted relative poverty because they simply liked someone too much. There are even recorded posts similar to today's dating profiles from the middle ages. "I am looking for a wife who is kind and loving, knows how to milk cows and would be willing to accept my little daughter."

I am in no way suggesting romantic feelings are irrelevant. What I was referring to (and now we are realling going into unnecessary detail) is a shift in priorities. Women roughly between 20-25 often mention fun, humour and lifestyle when they write their expectations. 26-30 is roughly where you start to see the shift to willingness to settle, reliability, emotional and finacial stability and kindness.

[markayd]

listen dude, im too young to be dating a single dad. you know that. i deserve better than that. im too young to be dating a 46 yr old, divorced man with too kids. I'm not gonna settle for some guy with character issues because it will just cause nothing but problems down the road.

Women under 24 usually have no intentions of a serious relationship. Most of these women tend to just be "playing the field". Women don't usually get serious until they are 24 and over. Then most women tend to get married in their early 30s

[Shizunk]

Yes, that is basically what I'm saying. No need to marry an old guy now. Probably better to get a young one, though that will be easier if you manage that shortly before thirty already. As long as that is the goal, I'd say good luck.

[markayd]

i honestly don't think i need to find "love" in order to have kids. Just find a rich guy who can be a good dad and has enough money to support me and the kids. Thats what im planning on doing.

[markayd]

im having kids regardless if im able to find a man or not. Its something that MUST be done.

[Quigly]

Face it, you're most likely to die alone anyway. Your partner will likely die at a much younger age than you leaving you alone for the last 20 or more years of your life cause he ate too much bacon grease. If you're lucky, Your kids will likely move off to another city cause they can't find jobs in your cheap retirement area and won't be with you during those years. However, raising your kids without a father will most likely end up with your kids being drug addicts or gang members and you won't want them around for your last years.

This is what America has turned into thanks to many agenda pushing morons that want you to raise a kids without a father.

[Ayanna240]

Most children don't move away from their hometowns. I live in NYC and most of my high school classmates are still here. Even if they live a hundred miles away, you still have someone watching out for you to make sure you are ok. Someone to help pay for your funeral

[Quigly]

@Ayanna240 Those times are coming to an end. I see a lot of elderly people living entirely on their own and depending on neighbors. This isn't the country it use to be.

[Ayanna240]

Most kids check up on their parents all the time either through facetime or zoom or go to visit. It certainly is better than staying an elderly home where you have no family to check up on your or send gifts or say hi. I know a 76 yr old man at my job who doesn't have any kids near where he lives but he has 5 kids who he routinely keeps in touch with through the phone and facetime. Frequently he would be seen on the phone a lot with his daughter in california. They mail him gifts such as luxury glasses, new phones, sweaters. Every year, he flies out to see his extended family.

A part of being mentally healthy is knowing that there are people who care for you and having a social life. Feeling like you are a part of something.

[Quigly]

@Ayanna240 And I know people with kids that want nothing to do with their parents. Very common, especially the way selfish baby boomers neglected the generations behind them. They are getting that neglect right back in their elderly years.

[Ayanna240]

it also has a way to do with the way the parents raised them. if your kid grows up to not give a flying fuck about you, then you probably weren't a very good parent.

[HighValue]

Ha ha, have fun with that. Either having kids with random people and being a single mom that is rejected by all quality men, or you end up with no kids ever. Biology doesn't care about your feelings or lies. You are pathetic.

[markayd]

[Either having kids with random people and being a single mom that is rejected by all quality men, or you end up with no kids ever. ]

who cares about men , if I already have kids? I'd be so happy if i have my kids.

[Biology doesn't care about your feelings or lies. ]

Single women can have kids. Single men can't.

[markayd]

do you realize the older a man gets , the less chance he has to get a young woman of child bearing age? nobody likes old, wrinkly, saggy, balding old men especially young women.

[Quigly]

? single men have kids all the time.

[Ayanna240]

@Quigly single men can't have kids. quit joking.

[Quigly]

@Ayanna240 They do all the time.

[markayd]

@Quigly statistics proves you wrong. Just take a look at the data.

[Quigly]

Lies, Damn Lies and Statistics.

[Ayanna240]

@Quigly

data doesn't lie. only you lie.

[Quigly]

@Ayanna240 How do you think women get pregnant?

[markayd]

@Quigly most women give birth in their lives

[Quigly]

To a Man's child.

[Ayanna240]

@Quigly

Still doesn’t change the fact that single women can have kids. Single men can’t

[Quigly]

@Ayanna240 If For every single woman having a kid, there is a single guy having one too.

[Ayanna240]

@Quigly

No I can have a kid without him ever knowing he had a kid

[Quigly]

@Ayanna240 That's rape Lady, you will go to prison for that.

[doopayo]

That isn’t true. Parents are crucial to kids development. If you’re saying this than you probably definitely have never had divorced parents or had to deal with abusive parents 🤷🏽‍♀️

[markayd]

yea funny thing is, i grew up with an abusive dad and I still ended up growing up to become a sane, respectful, college educated adult. So if you're gonna assume that kids without dads can't grow up to be successful decent adults, think again. Did you know president obama was raised by a single parent?

[doopayo]

I never said they can't be successful. I’m saying their have been many studies showing that kids need both parents in their life’s, you can’t doubt the statistics.

63 percent of suicides nationwide are individuals from single-parent families.

children raised in single-parent households are more likely to drop out of school

Kids who grow up without a mother or father around are forced to live their entire lives wondering why their parent wasn’t their for them? Why their parent didn’t love them?

You can’t just cherry pick success stories, that’s not how the real world works. If you genuinely care about your kids than you should want them to have the best future they could possibly have

[markayd]

if i could make it successful growing up with an abusive father, then it is entirely possible for my kids to grow up successfully without a father. You also need to take into consideration that it also depends on how the single mother raised the kids. If the single mom did a terrible job, that also factors into the result. Not having a father really doesn't mean you're doomed.

President obama grew up with a single mom. He did better than most people in life.

[doopayo]

I never said anything about not growing up with a father. I’m saying it’s crucial for both parents to be in the child’s life so if you’re actively saying you don’t want to have the kid be around their father than you’re genuinely a horrible human being. I could understand if you didn’t want the kid around the father if the father was abusive but all you’re going on a tangent about seems self serving like you don’t care about the kid and all you’re thinking about is how you will benefit from it and that’s grossly messed up.

You’re cherry picking success stories? Many kids from single parent homes still end up with depression. It doesn’t matter how good of a parent you are. It’s the fact that one of their parents is absent that will hurt them the most.

You really shouldn’t ever have kids if you’ve never thought to maybe think of the kids well-being over your own?

[markayd]

Im not cherry picking. My mother raised me the right way so that why I turned out fine even though I grew up with an abusive father. Just because you had an abusive dad or no father, it really doesn't mean you're gonna suicide or can't be successful in life. It also depends on how your single mom raised you or what family you have around you.

If you're saying that its so impossible for kids to grow up successfully with abusive fathers, then why am I doing well in life? If the single mother did a good job, the kid will still have a successful life.

[markayd]

[You really shouldn’t ever have kids if you’ve never thought to maybe think of the kids well-being over your own?]

I know damn well that i will be an amazing mother. so there really would be no chance my kids will turn out badly in life. My kids will attend the best schools, get the best education, surrounded by the smartest well behaved kids, babysat by an amazing grandma. My kids will even have a great uncle that can serve as a great male role model. My kids will have the best mom in the world who knows that they are the biggest prize ever.

Tell me how my kids are gonna suicide or end up being unsuccessful in life?

[casserolie]

we can have children even if our reproduction don't work. the ones up for adoption on petfinder are even easy to care for anyways

[Phoenix98]

People like you are partly why the world is as fucked up as it is now and it's downright sad that you don't realize how retarded and ridiculous the things coming out of your mouth are.

Don't have kids, you are not mature enough far to bitter for it and with your attitude on life aren't fit to raise kids they would only suffer because of your views.

[markayd]

did you know president obama was raised by a single mom?

[Avicenna]

Actually his grandparents raised him more than she did

[Mia-Wallace]

Lmao. Enough GaG for tonight.

And please, don't reproduce. You think like a 5-year-old and will fuck their lives up.

[markayd]

think about all those kids with divorced parents who only see dad once a month

[Mia-Wallace]

Yeah I do. That's why people like you should stay single and childless.

Goodbye.

[markayd]

Marriage means nothing if half of all marriages end in divorce.

[OddBeMe]

There are a myriad of myths prevalent. But there is a correlation of aging and losing amount of eggs chicks have. It’s just hard to measure in each person.

[markayd]

some women can give birth well into their 40s, other women can't give birth over 35. It really depends on your genes

[OddBeMe]

Even later onto 50s…

[markayd]

haha i really wouldn't recommend anyone have kids in their 50s. thats just ridiculous.

[OddBeMe]

Of course but it has happened.

[markayd]

i just don't think its fair for the child. Besides the obvious increased risk of birth issues and future health issues. What kind of childhood is the kid gonna have? I was raised by older parents (both my parents had me at 37). They simply couldn't relate to me or understand me very well because they didn't have any immature , childlike , playful sense of humor. It sounds like nothing but its not something you will understand unless you were born to old parents. And how are these parents gonna pay for college? by the time the kid turns 18, the parents would've been retired for a very long time or even already dead. I just don't think its fair at all to the child.

[OddBeMe]

Yeah, but I don’t think that’s the biggest issue today. It’s people who don’t want to be parents getting preggers and having kids they don’t want. Thus ignoring them, prompting gang activity etc…

[markayd]

that usually only happens in ghetto black neighborhoods that are under poverty. Black people tend to comprise overwhelming majority of the single mother population in the US. And a lot of these black women dont even care for their kids. They just have them because they want extra welfare.

[OddBeMe]

Umm, simple google: 42% are white and 28% are black

[OddBeMe]

Racist bitch.

[markayd]

thats because there are wayy more white people than blacks in the US. But if you take a look at the proportion of white single moms in white communities, its a small portion in a huge white population. If you take a look at the proportion of single moms in black communities , its a HUGE portion in the black population.

I grew up with a lot of blacks. I know A LOT about them.

[markayd]

here's an example:

Lets say there are 1000 single moms in america.
42% of them are white
28% are black

This means 420 of these single moms are white. 280 of them are black. however,

the white population is wayy bigger than the black population.

Right now, the black population is 13.4%. The white population is 76.3%

The proportion of single black mothers is large in comparison to their small percentage black population in america.

The proportion of single white mothers is smaller in comparison to the huge percentage of white population in america.

[OddBeMe]

Yes black community has almost double the crime and single mothers than it’s population percentage. But its either because blacks are genetically inferior or there’s vast racism in society.

[markayd]

believe it or not, black people are not genetically inferior. A lot of black people quite intelligent and capable. Its just they are culturally inferior.

[OddBeMe]

Culturally inferior. How does that work? You right wingers will bend over backwards to not admit racism.

[markayd]

you're just a clueless dumbass who knows nothing but to accuse random people of racism every time you see something you don't know.

if you haven't lived with black people, you won't know their culture. ok? you probably grew up in a cozy nice , upscale neighborhood filled with conservative white folks, where literally no crime exists. You probably never made a black friend until you were 18 years old. And now you want to say that you know what black culture is.

go fuck off. you can't be arrogant about something you know nothing about

[OddBeMe]

You should learn the fallacy of anecdotal evidence vs scientific.

[markayd]

Statistics have already proven what the culture of most of the black population is like. Crime being rampant, wayy too many single moms, they have a culture of being extremely fond of fried foods, fast food, a culture of complete disregard and lack of respect towards education, their schools tend to be underfunded, high school drop out rates are extremely high, teenage pregnancies are also high in these communities, black teenagers die everyday from joining violent gangs, teenage girls go missing and kidnapped then sold into sex slavery, they have a culture of abusive parents, fathers ditch their offspring, marriage is almost non existent.

this is the reality of "black culture" in the US. Sure, there are well educated, professional rich blacks but such folks do not tend to live in such communities rather they tend to live with the whites.

[Ayanna240]

I grew up in miltple ghettos in the most diverse city in the world, NYC. We got people of all kinds here from all over the world.

You're only saying that I'm wrong and a racist because you are too sheltered. You've never stepped out of your cozy , comfortable, nice, upscale neighborhood where there is virtually no crime. You think every other neighborhood is cozy like yours. You've gotten too comfortable hun. I will let you live in multiple ghettos for a few years and you can come back to tell me what your experience is like. Lets see if you will speak soo positively about black communities. You've just never been robbed in your life.

[jgibsonian1986]

Because a kid is just a fancy pet after all









Right?

[BigKevHanma]

There are more single women than men and men can have more children actually we control reproduction after all we do have the ingredients 😂

[markayd]

the sperm bank has the ingredients. women control reproduction, men don't.

[BigKevHanma]

Where does the sperm come from

[BigKevHanma]

I’ll wait😂

[markayd]

Single women can have kids. single men can't. I can have a child from a sperm bank. You wouldn't be able to find a woman who would be willing to have your child. She can abort it whenever she wants.

[BigKevHanma]

Yes but you can only have the child you have men can have several in a year look at ghengis khan.5 percent of the male population are his descendants

[markayd]

no man has several kids a year nowadays. keep on dreaming. you're gonna die alone, not me.

[BigKevHanma]

He literally had thousands of children in his lifetime

[BigKevHanma]

Zion’s chana had 39 wives 94 kids and 33 grandkids women can’t spread their dna like that only men can we control reproduction

[BigKevHanma]

Yes they do polygamy is alive and well

[markayd]

women can easily abort your baby if they want. so women control reproduction

[markayd]

[Yes they do polygamy is alive and well]

polygamy is not alive and well in overwhelming majority of the world.

[BigKevHanma]

You only prevent yourself from reproducing men’s bodies are able to take on multiple partners

[BigKevHanma]

Right now today Winston Blackmore has 27 wives and 150 kids

[BigKevHanma]

You really think people only have one mate 🤣🤣🤣

[markayd]

why don't you take a look at you? you have absolutely no kids.

[BigKevHanma]

Possibly I sleep with so many women it’s hard to know

[markayd]

no sane woman is gonna sleep with you without going on the pill or condoms.

[BigKevHanma]

Lol whatever you say

[Anonymous]

Your views are screwed because children should have both parents. If you have kids they will suffer because of your views.

[markayd]

i grew up with an abusive dad, i turned out fine in life. why can't my kids do the same?

[Opinion Owner]

My mom was abusive and my dad got custody of the kids, my mom will die alone. You seem bitter so you don't seem like you turned out fine, that's why you think kids should have no dad. If your dad was loving you wouldn't feel the way you do and you might want to be loved by a man.

[markayd]

i'd rather have no father than an abusive father.

but my mom did an amazing job in raising me which is why i turned out fine despite having a shitty father. I'm planning on doing the same for my kids

[Opinion Owner]

Yes better no father than abusive, but not better than having a loving father. And you want to be a single mom because you hate men, so you are a feminist and you didn't turn out fine. Your mom didn't teach you how to appreciate people, that's why you hate men and she didn't do a good job about that, admit it.

[markayd]

i don't hate men. I just don't think fathers are really that necessary.

[markayd]

[Your mom didn't teach you how to appreciate people, that's why you hate men and she didn't do a good job about that, admit it.]

if my mom didn't do a good job, then why am i respectful, sane, college educated and hold a good job?

[Opinion Owner]

I just don't why you want to be a single mom?

[markayd]

cuz i can't find love. do u know how hard it is to find someone i feel attraction to? and when i DO feel attraction, something always goes wrong: he's too old, he's a single dad, he has character issues, he doesn't like me back. Im 25 years old NEVER had a boyfriend

[Opinion Owner]

I'm sorry to hear that of someone your age. But how can you be attracted to someone that is too old if you don't like old guys? And if he's a single dad and you like children, what's the problem there? Lot's of people can't find love but it could be your attitude, because you want to be a single mom.

[markayd]

im not physically attracted to old guys. but sometimes on a rare occasion, i just bump into someone who has the personality i am attracted to. I was attracted to him, he was attracted to me. but he was 46 divorced and has 2 kids. I just didn't see any long term future potential with him. By the time im 40, he can't be 61, thinking about signing up for the elderly home in a few years. I have my entire life ahead of me. I can't rot along with him at the nursing home.

[markayd]

My preference for dating really is guys 3-7 years older than me.

[Anonymous]

Uh oh, someone was feeling very butt hurt when she wrote this. Lmao

[markayd]

I’m not butt hurt at all. What is wrong with having kids as a single woman?

[Opinion Owner]

Your "question" was oozing butthurtness. Lol

[markayd]

I think you should be the one who is butt hurt. Single women can have kids , single men can’t. I’m garuanteed a family , you aren’t

[Opinion Owner]

That doesn't bother me at all because I would never be such a giant piece of human garbage that I would want to bring a child into this world without knowing it will have two parents who care about each other. I can't think of a more selfish thing for a parent to do.

It is painfully obvious to anyone who reads a "question" like yours has serious mental and emotional problems. Someone like you should never reproduce anyway, so your question is moot.

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

Yeah cause a woman needs another woman telling her what to do with her body

[Anonymous]

Your kids will be fuck-ups.

[markayd]

i've seen plenty of successful kids raised by single parents. Obama was raised by a single parent.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah yeah. Some might do well, if their parents are intelligent. In general they don't as well statistically because most single mothers are dysfunctional idiots, and that's how they got there.

You have a "fuck it whatever happens happens" mentality, an inability to properly plan ahead. You see that half of marriages end in divorce and you assume that you'll be in that half, not the other half that don't, because you know you're dysfunctional when it comes to relationships with men.

[markayd]

half of all US marriages end in divorce, so how many kids is that? I'm willing to bet you the number is in the millions. Millions of kids growing up with single mothers and only seeing dad once a month. its not that much different from being raised by a single mom.

[Opinion Owner]

What the fuck does that have to do with what I just said?

America is fucked.

[Anonymous]

Bitter much?

[markayd]

what is wrong with a single woman wanting kids?