How are we supposed to know when shy men like us?
When I used tu date, I liked shy guys. But their coy "reserved" attitudes annoy me. I'm impatient and like people being direct. That way I won't be labeled a conceited slut for assuming that he likes me, if he hasn't otherwise stated it directly.
I asked them out before because I thought they liked me! Nope, I got "oh, I was just being nice". "No, I'm not attracted to you". "I am not interested." You get the point.
Men, this applies to y'all too, how the hell do you know if a woman likes you? This is why I gotta give props to men when it comes to dating. You don't know if she likes you and how she'll take your approach.
I used to be super shy, and I figured what I did applied to shy men too lol
I've been on both sides, and I gotta give props to the ones who approach aka men. Yes, it's scary, HOWEVER, if you don't risk anything, you don't win anything. If a relationship doesn'tarise because you're too shy to ask them out, that's your fault. If a relationship doesn't arise because the person rejected you, it's neither of your fault. But at least you don't have that uncertainty "oh, I should have asked him/her out!"
Online lists everywhere say that if he:
-makes more eye contact with you than others
-you catch him staring and then he looks away
-is more comfortable texting you but is reserved in social situations
-gets nervous when you're around
Etc etc. The list is similar to how you know when a girl likes you by the way.
Had plenty of guys like that, asked them out. Was shot down every single time. Most men I asked out were shy. And it was frustrating, like damn. I know I'm not pretty, but I didn't know I was THAT undesirable lol
No, I'm not interested in dating, especially not little shy guys since they're never interested in me anyways, but how are you supposed to know when they're interested? And men, how can you tell if a woman likes you?
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You probably already know this, but take care to regard only those online lists that have some polish, and aren't just a random person posting his/her experience as a universal fact.
There is no absolute, universal formula of men's and women's flirtatious behavior. There are just symptoms of attraction, and when you see a cluster of them, you can reasonably suspect that the person in question is attracted to you.
Some symptoms of women attracted to men *I've seen* include:
-moving her hair in various ways (usually any way that serves no obvious purpose.
-adjusting her clothing.
-physical contact (but this is less true for shy women).
-overcompensating for attraction by acting too indifferent to his presence.
-looking at the ground immediately when she notices him seeing her.
^These absolutely do not mean a girl will go out with you if she displays them. You have no idea how many times I have been rejected by girls who displayed all these signs.
As for men's behavior, I can only go by what I did back when I was very shy:
-look away when eye contact is made.
-act nonchalant when she's around to the point that it's probably noticeable.
-nervous, jittery hand movements, and especially "protective" body language (linking hands at the waist, crossing arms).
-pretty much any symptom of being nervous can apply here.
^A lot of symptoms are similar between the sexes.
Really, though, don't spend time wondering over whether or not a man or woman is attracted to you. If you're a man, get to know her and ask her out (or just ask her out). If you're a woman, you can ask men out too, but if you're absolutely terrified of doing that, just be more aggressive in getting the answer out of him. Just think the next time you see him: "If I don't find out now, am I just going to be wondering if he likes me until I see him again?" Realizing that I would be getting something out of the way has spurred me into asking out women when I would have been afraid to otherwise.1THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE