Boyfriend stopped working out?

[Anonymous]

So I know this question might be a bit odd but I just want to know how I can help my boyfriend start working out again! He’s told me he’s comfortable in the relationship now so he “doesn’t feel the need to” anymore and I just don’t want him to come home and play video games everyday! I love him so much and he’s the reason I even started going to the gym when we first started talking but I’m just not sure how I can help him :/ I offered to come to the gym with him but he thinks it wouldn’t really help much so I’m not sure, any suggestions?

[Cynicaldreamer]

In order words, now that he's in a relationship, he's comfortable being a fat, lazyass because he doesn't feel the need to impress you anymore-

You need to confront him on it if it makes you unhappy. Tell him how important it is to you and how you want a partner that will exercise with you.
Even offer to compromise: if he goes to exercise with you, you'll play video games with him!

He better be careful: the better shape you get in, the more other guys will start to notice you- and I know he won't like that, lol.

This is exactly why when I date again, I'm finding a gym gymrat like myself: that why we can workout and motivate each other.

[thenewme19]

Wow that would be so annoying and I would get frustrated by that. You need to just be really honest and tell him that you are really attracted to fitness and strong men and that you are worried that if she doesn't work out, you won't be sexually attracted to him.
I think honesty is the only thing you can do here. If he's too lazy to care then you have to decide if you are willing to love him anyway.

[Anonymous]

you can't be relying on him to make you happy. It seems you are upset that he is just playing video games and not working out with you.
Don't get upset. Try to get a solution. try to find a friend, girlfriend or guy friend whatever... and go to the gym with them. That'll make you happier and less naggy on your boyfriend.

[AynonOMouse]

Whatever you do, don't blame it on video games or he won't be able to work out out of principle and will say you won't let him pursue his hobby.

Since his main motivation was to attract you, bribe him by doing his sexual fantasies as long as he stays in shape how you like.

Also, it is much easier to stay consistent with working out if you own the exercise equipment at home instead of having to go somewhere.

You could also find a sporty physical activity that you both would enjoy doing together.

[MrOracle]

This is why it's important to figure out who and what a man IS before you get with him - because sooner or later, that's who you're going to be with. A guy who does something to "get girls" isn't going to keep doing that once he has one - he will turn back into his real self.

Either accept him as he is, or break up with him. You aren't going to change him.

[chrisbigman]

Talk to him and let him know that you want him to stay healthy. He doesn't need to be a gym freak, but he should at least do the minimum to stay healthy, whether it's to run for 30 minutes or to walk fast for an hour. If he refuses to do that, then tell him you don't want him to die young and he will do that if he doesn't work out. If he STILL won't work out (for certain by this point, he doesn't seem to care), then that may indicate you need to make a decision - if that's something you want to consider. I'm not going to control what you or he does. I'm just indicating that if you care about his health (which you seem to) and you want him in the gym, you need to realize where he stands on it. If he doesn't care, neither should you. If he cares, then so should you. He doesn't seem to care. If that is a deal-breaker for you, then you should let him know ASAP so that neither of you are wasting each other's time.

[Anonymous]

Let him know how important it is to you (that you care, not in the confrontational way like these other people are suggesting lol). You are still making the effort for him, and you'd like to do it together with him. You could both motivate each other. It's also something you can do together and spend that time together. And, also ask him how he feels? Meaning I know when I first started working out, and then had to stop, I really missed it because I felt a huge difference with how I felt everyday.

[Anonymous]

Why does he want to be a bitch? Does he think that will HELP? (Lol) ward predators with rock hard abs away from his girl? Sounds like you're dating a simple man that doesn't have too much going on in the brain department?

[Aizou]

Well if he only went to the gym to impress you, or people in general, he went for the wrong reasons in the first place. Perhaps you could talk to him about it, explain to him what you think about it, and talk about your concerns regarding the future.

[DDpsy]

This is kind sad from two angles.
The guy started working out for the wrong unsustainable reasons.
The chick started going out with him for the wrong unsustainable reasons.

[cluelesgrace]

go on like a hike with him or something because you don't want to make it seem like he HAS to go to the gym, you know what I mean?

[Asker]

Yes exactly! The last thing I want is for him to feel like that

[MemeMaester]

@MrOracle is so correct, he did it to look good and now he doesn't need to so he's back to being a lazy prick. He never really cared about being fit and healthy, just about looking good.

[Anonymous]

Tell him how hot aquaman is!