Are relationships worth the trouble in 2019?

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NineBreaker · Accepted Answer

Generally, no. Thanks to our overly digitized culture, everone is just in a hurry all the time, and it's all about instant gratification. People have no patience anymore, and patience is crucial for a successful relationship. It's also imperative for both parties to have patience for that to work.

What's the point of starting a relationship only to get dumped over trivial BS? I noticed that I have been a lot more careful and weary when it comes to relationships because I'm tired of dealing with flaky women. I wouldn't be surprised if that's a problem that women frequently run into as well, but because I'm a man, I can't make any concrete claims about that.

Oh! And the most annoying part is folks who ghost you instead of growing a pair of gonads, and actually telling you that they're no longer interested.

Of the many potential SO's I've communicated with over the last 4 months, only 1 (yes, you read correctly, ONE) had the decency to tell me she's not interested after talking for 2 weeks. It's just annoying.

It's so bad, that I now expect to be ghosted everytime, and in the rare occasions when I'm explicitly told it's over, I'm so happy that she actually told me, that I forget that she's no longer interested 😂 (and there's nothing wrong with that).

ThisIsMyOpinion · Accepted Answer

What trouble? Relationships are not trouble. If anything having a loving person at your side, who gets you, who listens to you, who hugs you and tell everything i going to be oukey is the solution not the problem. Having a healthy relationship is like a remedy to your soul. Everything seems dark and ever so easily the person you love comes and makes everything better without trying. And you can do the same for them! It's beautiful and it's the best in the world. If all of this is worth any trouble, whatever it is that you mean, yes of course it is!

thisbutterfly36 · Accepted Answer

I believe if both parties are mature enough to put down their phones and put in actual work on emotional and intellectual connections then yes! Well worth it! But if we sit behind our phones, dive headstrong into our jobs, ignore that that person exists until after 5pm then no. Basically be a grown up if you want a relationship. Be a kid if you just want to fuck.

*descends soapbox politely... places mic in stand... walks away*

Crystal28 · Accepted Answer

With social media being as big as it is nowadays, it’s really hard to trust people, being as it’s so easy to meet new people, message them, and meet them, despite being in a relationship. I know of way too many relationships that have been wrecked by it so I just choose to focus on myself.

Cynicaldreamer · Answer

You know it's probably not a good thing if I had to think about this question before replying. Like I really had to think hard before replying to this one!

No, they're really not- at least not if you're single or trying to find someone. The dating pool gets more atrocious with time and future generations.

When I was younger, I was that girl that wanted a boyfriend because "everyone else had one" or it just seemed a part of growing up: get in a relationship.

But now that I'm older, and been through way more heartache and drama with the opposite gender than I care to talk about, I really don't think it is worth the trouble.
Hell, if you're single, STAY SINGLE. It's easier and less stress, at least until the right person comes along!

Look at the people out there just looking for fuck buddies, friends with benefits, and short term relationships. And if that works for you? Good for you! Not going to judge you.

But for those of us not looking for those kind of relationships, or can barely get someone to approach you for a date? It's just irksome more than anything trying to pursue a relationship.

Iwant2kno · Answer

I think everyone has the same goal, to be happy and so if the opportunity is there... why not take advantage? As long as the relationship is healthy and growing, I see no problem with it!

Pinay_ako · Answer

yes for the right man, yes it is very much worth it

Ellie-V · Answer

I don’t want a relationship but it’s not because people think it’s super difficult. It’s really not that difficult. There is not a ton of “trouble” to deal with. Divorce rates for the new generation are going down and less people are getting married, but that’s all positive in my opinion. We’re more open minded than ever, we are more focused and we’ll prioritized, and we’ve got plenty of shitty source material to remind us of what not to do.
This is just my opinion though, you don’t have to take my word for it.

goodlongman · Answer

We were created for relationship, so of course relationships are worth it. What you must ask yourself what type of relationship do you really need (not want):

The best relationship is one where you save yourself for your life partner (no sex). Your life partner is your best friend, for the man the sexiest lady, for a woman the greatest man. This is way we should not get into sexual relations without being committed to the relationship, leading to marriage. Marriage is commitment.

Marriage is unconditional not love. Marriage is not just great sex. When you marry it is for life, no matter what life gives; sickness, health, poverty, wealth, joy or sorrow. No matter what you are committed to each other. There is no excuse for dissolving this union of two people. This takes commitment, you are both committed to make the marriage work at all times in all ages. Looks change, sex changes, but commitment last for a lifetime.

Porcelaine · Answer

Relationships will always be the same if two people really love eachother. They will both do what they feel necessary to make another person happy and support them in life. No matter what century, what year. traditions will change, but people will still make connections.

BeMuse · Answer

I suppose it all depends on the person. Some people are less trouble than others and everyone brings their own mix of stuff into your life. If it’s good then go with it, if it’s not then cut them loose. You don’t need to put work into someone just to be in a relationship.

sarahbear1750 · Answer

Yes they are I seriously don’t understand why today’s society is all about “one night stands” and “random hookups”... all they just do is cause a lot of heartbreak (at least for me anyway)

lightbulb27 · Answer

yes they are. either you will have wonderful experiences together.  Or, you will suffer, and help someone else grow by way of suffering. So yes, it is.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Of course for the right person but you gotta go through a lot of coal before you find that diamond in the rough.

In other words you gotta go through a lot of trouble, pain and misery before you find the one that makes all of that worth trouble, but when you do find that person it makes the whole journey worth it.

LuvAsh · Answer

I don't want a boyfriend in 2019 so for me no. Its not worth the trouble.

FriedPickles1218 · Answer

I think dating is easier than ever before actually.

Lovethedove · Answer

Healthy ones definitely are if they add to your life

DECENTSCOTTISHLAD999 · Answer

l would say yes l am still looking l will never give up looking 3 girls cheat on me in the past

Doodabeat · Answer

I believe people in relationships can avoid trouble if every "rule" legitimately suits both partners and neither of them become unpredictable.

Dark93 · Answer

If you define every romantic relationship as trouble then that's what you'll get. I would be incredibly happy and thankful for a relationship. Not just romantic, I would love to have friends too.

LifeAHailStorm · Answer

I cannot get over a woman's romantic past; therefore, I will remain alone.

Monster_Recluse · Answer

I want kids. 90% of women I can't stand the idea of being a romantic partner. I have a very good idea of what the personality of my 'soul mate' is like.

Anonymous · Answer

Each year sucks ass. The only thing advancing are phones 📱

Logorithim · Answer

Decent and great ones are

Lance1965 · Answer

I think they are. They are just harder to maintain than ever before but it still beats being single.

Gedaria · Answer

Oh yes. Even if they go wrong it's been great while it lasted. Great memories too...

lolalita23 · Answer

When you feel that is the right one, and you have no doubts he’s the ine the yes, is more than worth it.

sockandshoes · Answer

a relationship shouldn't be a “trouble” if u see it like one stay out of one.

Anonymous · Answer

Fuuuck no the juice just ain't worth the squeeze with todays females

lovedejj_xo · Answer

Nope focused on myself for now

StingRayxoxo · Answer

The right one is/will be.

Coastalchic · Answer

Yes, with the right person.

PrincessGrail · Answer

I’m happy in mine.

Pinky_what_why · Answer

Tbh yes it is worth it

Americanteengirl · Answer

I wonder why more women said no

brittslitt · Answer

Mmm what kinda trouble?

Anonymous · Answer

So more men want relationships than women nowadays. Funny.

constantine15 · Answer

Don't have to worry since I won't be in one

name_is_eric · Answer

Of course, depends who you are dating of course.

daisydukeso · Answer

A good relationship shouldn't be too much trouble

Anonymous · Answer

No, all they want is a white guy. It's gold supposedly. In particular latinas

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Yeah. Hard work but worth it

OvershareGamer · Answer

No but men do not have a choice.

GreenGold1992 · Answer

What does the current year have to do with it?

Prof_Don · Answer

Yes they are

_Harley_Quinn_ · Answer

That's stinkin thinkin

Liam_Hayden · Answer

Good ones are.

ChiPaPa · Answer

I think so.

Iron_Man · Answer

No they are not

SocialCow1000 · Answer

I think so but it's super hard nowadays.

MisterSir · Answer

NO..

foodtv · Answer

Most definitely

Anonymous · Answer

You cannot trust anyone so no

IamLisaSmith · Answer

Maybe in 2020.

Anonymous · Answer

Not for men

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