Are relationships worth the trouble in 2019?

[coachTanthony]

Are they worth it?

YES

NO

Other (explain)

[NineBreaker]

Generally, no. Thanks to our overly digitized culture, everone is just in a hurry all the time, and it's all about instant gratification. People have no patience anymore, and patience is crucial for a successful relationship. It's also imperative for both parties to have patience for that to work.

What's the point of starting a relationship only to get dumped over trivial BS? I noticed that I have been a lot more careful and weary when it comes to relationships because I'm tired of dealing with flaky women. I wouldn't be surprised if that's a problem that women frequently run into as well, but because I'm a man, I can't make any concrete claims about that.

Oh! And the most annoying part is folks who ghost you instead of growing a pair of gonads, and actually telling you that they're no longer interested.

Of the many potential SO's I've communicated with over the last 4 months, only 1 (yes, you read correctly, ONE) had the decency to tell me she's not interested after talking for 2 weeks. It's just annoying.

It's so bad, that I now expect to be ghosted everytime, and in the rare occasions when I'm explicitly told it's over, I'm so happy that she actually told me, that I forget that she's no longer interested 😂 (and there's nothing wrong with that).

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

What trouble? Relationships are not trouble. If anything having a loving person at your side, who gets you, who listens to you, who hugs you and tell everything i going to be oukey is the solution not the problem. Having a healthy relationship is like a remedy to your soul. Everything seems dark and ever so easily the person you love comes and makes everything better without trying. And you can do the same for them! It's beautiful and it's the best in the world. If all of this is worth any trouble, whatever it is that you mean, yes of course it is!

[thisbutterfly36]

I believe if both parties are mature enough to put down their phones and put in actual work on emotional and intellectual connections then yes! Well worth it! But if we sit behind our phones, dive headstrong into our jobs, ignore that that person exists until after 5pm then no. Basically be a grown up if you want a relationship. Be a kid if you just want to fuck.

*descends soapbox politely... places mic in stand... walks away*

[coachTanthony]

Ha Ha Ha love it! Couldn't agree more!

[Crystal28]

With social media being as big as it is nowadays, it’s really hard to trust people, being as it’s so easy to meet new people, message them, and meet them, despite being in a relationship. I know of way too many relationships that have been wrecked by it so I just choose to focus on myself.

[Cynicaldreamer]

You know it's probably not a good thing if I had to think about this question before replying. Like I really had to think hard before replying to this one!

No, they're really not- at least not if you're single or trying to find someone. The dating pool gets more atrocious with time and future generations.

When I was younger, I was that girl that wanted a boyfriend because "everyone else had one" or it just seemed a part of growing up: get in a relationship.

But now that I'm older, and been through way more heartache and drama with the opposite gender than I care to talk about, I really don't think it is worth the trouble.
Hell, if you're single, STAY SINGLE. It's easier and less stress, at least until the right person comes along!

Look at the people out there just looking for fuck buddies, friends with benefits, and short term relationships. And if that works for you? Good for you! Not going to judge you.

But for those of us not looking for those kind of relationships, or can barely get someone to approach you for a date? It's just irksome more than anything trying to pursue a relationship.

[goodlongman]

Yes, my heart goes out to you. I too was like this and have been through more women than I can remember (not good).

I can’t speak for everyone but for me is true: it is said you take every sex partner and every fantasy to the bedroom with you and this adversely effects your relationships and sexual behavior with the one person you have chosen to be with until you die.

If I could my life over, I would never have sex outside of marriage and never look at pornography.

With that said I had to learn to be the person I wanted to marry. What I mean is; I wanted a good woman who was not into pornography, thus I had had to break my addiction (difficult very difficult) and many other things.

List the things you want in your life partner and then become that person, this will help you attract that kind of person.

I wish you good luck this is a process and will not happen quickly.

[Iwant2kno]

I think everyone has the same goal, to be happy and so if the opportunity is there... why not take advantage? As long as the relationship is healthy and growing, I see no problem with it!

[Pinay_ako]

yes for the right man, yes it is very much worth it

[Ellie-V]

I don’t want a relationship but it’s not because people think it’s super difficult. It’s really not that difficult. There is not a ton of “trouble” to deal with. Divorce rates for the new generation are going down and less people are getting married, but that’s all positive in my opinion. We’re more open minded than ever, we are more focused and we’ll prioritized, and we’ve got plenty of shitty source material to remind us of what not to do.
This is just my opinion though, you don’t have to take my word for it.

[goodlongman]

We were created for relationship, so of course relationships are worth it. What you must ask yourself what type of relationship do you really need (not want):

The best relationship is one where you save yourself for your life partner (no sex). Your life partner is your best friend, for the man the sexiest lady, for a woman the greatest man. This is way we should not get into sexual relations without being committed to the relationship, leading to marriage. Marriage is commitment.

Marriage is unconditional not love. Marriage is not just great sex. When you marry it is for life, no matter what life gives; sickness, health, poverty, wealth, joy or sorrow. No matter what you are committed to each other. There is no excuse for dissolving this union of two people. This takes commitment, you are both committed to make the marriage work at all times in all ages. Looks change, sex changes, but commitment last for a lifetime.

[goodlongman]

Thank you

[Porcelaine]

Relationships will always be the same if two people really love eachother. They will both do what they feel necessary to make another person happy and support them in life. No matter what century, what year. traditions will change, but people will still make connections.

[BeMuse]

I suppose it all depends on the person. Some people are less trouble than others and everyone brings their own mix of stuff into your life. If it’s good then go with it, if it’s not then cut them loose. You don’t need to put work into someone just to be in a relationship.

[sarahbear1750]

Yes they are I seriously don’t understand why today’s society is all about “one night stands” and “random hookups”... all they just do is cause a lot of heartbreak (at least for me anyway)

[lightbulb27]

yes they are. either you will have wonderful experiences together.
Or, you will suffer, and help someone else grow by way of suffering. So yes, it is.

[Phoenix98]

Of course for the right person but you gotta go through a lot of coal before you find that diamond in the rough.

In other words you gotta go through a lot of trouble, pain and misery before you find the one that makes all of that worth trouble, but when you do find that person it makes the whole journey worth it.

[LuvAsh]

I don't want a boyfriend in 2019 so for me no. Its not worth the trouble.

[coachTanthony]

There is always more important things to worry about that is for sure!

[FriedPickles1218]

I think dating is easier than ever before actually.

[coachTanthony]

Easier? how so?

[FriedPickles1218]

Well I hardly leave the house and for some reason I've had 3 short term relationships in the past year. I suppose it varies for everyone.

[coachTanthony]

That doesn't really answer the question.

[Lovethedove]

Healthy ones definitely are if they add to your life

[DECENTSCOTTISHLAD999]

l would say yes l am still looking l will never give up looking 3 girls cheat on me in the past

[coachTanthony]

At least it didn't defeat you.. congrats dude!

[DECENTSCOTTISHLAD999]

Thank you

[Doodabeat]

I believe people in relationships can avoid trouble if every "rule" legitimately suits both partners and neither of them become unpredictable.

[Dark93]

If you define every romantic relationship as trouble then that's what you'll get.
I would be incredibly happy and thankful for a relationship.
Not just romantic, I would love to have friends too.

[LifeAHailStorm]

I cannot get over a woman's romantic past; therefore, I will remain alone.

[coachTanthony]

Should the woman be a virgin just for you?

[LifeAHailStorm]

It has nothing to do with her virginity as much as it does her feelings and who she shared her love with in the past. Especially relationships she formed during her youth.

[coachTanthony]

This is my wheel house man.. I know exactly what you are talking about.. just playing devils advocate here... why does it bother you though? What about it specifically?

[LifeAHailStorm]

The hypothetical situation that exists to where she can reunite with someone she knew from her youth and it be a sweeter outcome

[LifeAHailStorm]

... and I want me and a girl to be each other's first loves. That is important to me. I don't want to give my heart to a woman for the first time if she already shared hers with others.

[coachTanthony]

I remember I dated a girl that I wanted to have a special moment with.. a connection... an adventure of us maybe having sex somewhere where we would never forget. I kept suggesting stuff and she kept telling me she already did that.. she did a lot of stuff and I was like OMG I have missed my chance to create anything new or exciting with this girl because some MF already did it with her. I was so upset. But then I got to thinking about all the other stuff I have done with other women and don't think twice about it. Some reason though I thought she cared more about her experiences then I did mine. I was wrong in the end. That type of thinking will never stop me again from pursuing what I want and neither it should you.

[LifeAHailStorm]

I have had sex, but I have never had an actual girlfriend before. The girl I had sex with was a one-night deal, therefore, we were never together.
I feel like I would be giving a woman liberty to be my first love when I am not hers. Me and a woman can no longer say we spent our youth together. We cannot reflect on the times we were "just kids" because there aren't any moments like that.
Hell, a woman can reunite with someone from her youth, does not have to be a former boyfriend but maybe a best friend, and it can be a sweeter outcome.

[LifeAHailStorm]

... plus she qas able to experience those young romances and I didn't

[coachTanthony]

Women don't see being your first love as a PERK. So neither should you. Anyone worth having in life has most likely been loved by somebody. Most times it just doesn't work out but it's not their fault for trying. So I guess it's up to you to continue to feel this way or not but my advice man.. let it go. You are 24 ... you won't meet too many women that have been through anything that you can't overcome. Trust me on that. Either way good luck to you man!

[Monster_Recluse]

I want kids.

90% of women I can't stand the idea of being a romantic partner. I have a very good idea of what the personality of my 'soul mate' is like.

[Anonymous]

Each year sucks ass. The only thing advancing are phones 📱

[Opinion Owner]

And there’s this

Why do these guys like me on ‘Plenty Of Fish’ after what I wrote about myself? ↗

[Logorithim]

Decent and great ones are