Neither. I don't see those as polar opposites on a spectrum. I see people conflating "affectionate" with "clingy" but I don't see it like that. A girl can be very affectionate and like to cuddle all the time without being clingy in my mind, e. g.
"Clingy" to me is like someone obsessed to the point of constantly being paranoid about where you are, revolves their entire lives around you, snoops around on you behind your back, and can work towards becoming very controlling and possessive.
If I have to choose between those, I'd prefer distant though to clingy.
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Clingy is good, who wants to be with someone who "Needs space" lol
Clingy, because if they’re clingy instead of distant, then that makes it easier for you to not have to question if your other half is being distant because they aren’t interested anymore, and so on, so on.. by the way, I’m dealing with my other half being distant right now and I am the clingy one. When your other half is distant it really sucks and has you question everything, it makes you feel like something is wrong even if there isn’t anything wrong at all, and they want their space or something.
Clingy is better than being distant, but both are negative behaviours
I couldn't be with a guy that was distant. I'd never know where I stood with him. I'd feel emotionally unsafe with a distant guy. He'd be hard to love because I'd never feel close to him
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Distant! I cannot stand clingy people, especially guys; that is a huge turnoff for me.
I like my space, even in a relationship, and like partners to be close, but not around me all the time.I don't mind clingy (within reason)
Both actually! It’s nice to have a other half that is clingy (shows that they actually care about you) & that is also distant and respects your space. Clingy is nice from time to time but not always up your ass, with me I have to be alone to clean or be together and actually cleaning and not fighting about how things are getting done.
I’d love for him to cling to me as long as we give eachother space from 6pm-10pm then im fine spending anytime between 10pm-6pm either texting, sleeping, talking, watching movies together. And of course still doing our own thing like work/hobbies etc. I just need to talk at least 30 mins in the morn and a few hours after 10pm
Clingy indicates I’m their whole life which isn’t healthy. Distant indicates I’m not so interesting or important which isn’t healthy. Gotta have a balance or the relationship isn’t worth while
My boyfriend is honestly a little bit of both. I don't want him clingy because I like to be alone sometimes and I don't want him to distant because I have these emotional problems when I need him even though he might want to be alone but he will still be there for me.
Clingy.
Clingy would be nice though I’d likely be pretty distant so it wouldn’t be easy 😂
If I had to choose, clingy. If you're even gonna consider loving me, you better love the fuck out of me loll.
I'd pick clingy, especially if it is physically clingy like in that picture, but if it was a constant need to text/talk when not together in person, then it would bug me. But when together in person I'd like it if sometimes the girl was stuck to me like glue some days.
Every guy likes to see a cute pair of panties on a girl. If the panties fit well, that's sexy! If too tight, it tends to produce (too much) cameltoe and doesn't look good, and if too large, the panties may fall off and cause embarrassment; either way it's not sexy or healthy.
Same for the level of clinginess (or lack of it) in a relationship.That's a tough one lol, I don't like either
I don't like too much clingy-ness and I don't like too much distanceI like to give my partner time to explore and myself time to do my own things. its fun to come together and share our outings. brings us closer.
healthy distance and connection is necessary for intimate bonding.I'd rather have a little too clingy than a little too distant.
Neither is ideal, but I'd rather have a little clingy than a little distant
Guess for me more clingy not to clingy where in smothered to death.
I love to be able to hold the one I love. Not feel like she is so aloof that we do not connect.
I love to hug and snuggle but do believe we need reflection time.How about some moderation? Why are opposite extremes the only choices ever offered?
Some form of both would be good, I don’t want anyone around me 24/7 that’s over kill but I don’t want someone to never talk to me or want to be with me either.
Neither. Everybody enjoys some attention and genuine interest.
Check your mental issues at the door.Neither are really healthy so yea. I’d honestly choose distant I don’t like feeling attached 24/7 and I need space to breathe.
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