No, you are right to feel that way. Why would he keep on display a picture of an EX that he is no longer with on display?
It would be different if he had some picture of you and him up as well... but since that is the not the case, yeah I think you are justified to be bothered! If it means nothing to him, why won't he move it, at least to another room or place where you do not see it all the time? Exactly. I am not saying he still cares for her, but he obviously likes that picture for some odd reason. And the fact that it bothers you, someone he is dating, yet he will not do anything about it, is stubborn of him.
I would not give him an ultimatum; it will serve no purpose.
Instead tell him you do not feel comfortable coming over there seeing that picture every time you are there, and you will no longer come to his place as long as it's on display. He can come to your house, but you're not coming to his...
See how that plan works, lol. It's not hard to respect your partner, which he does not seem to have for you. I know it's a simple picture, but because it bothers you, he still should try to make you happy, or at least comfortable coming to his place.
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You are being more than reasonable he's the one who's not, he's also the one doing the controlling.
You guys have been together nearly 2 years more than enough time for him to have that pic replaced with you and him.
I don't think giving an ultimatum for something like that is the thing to do, I do think you should talk with him once again about your concern and suggest putting a pic of you two there and remove the other one.
If he totally ignores you then I would tell him you've been understanding too long, tell him when he decides to remove her pic then and only then to give you a call.
I dated a guy like this. He also lived with his parents and in their living room was a framed photo of some family vacation or outing that his ex was a part of. Even though the relationship was long over, that picture was still there. I felt uncomfortable too. I feel it was more his mom who had it up but eventually, maybe 2-3 years later, that photo was gone.
You don't give an ultimatum, you tell him about your feelings. You tell him that you stood by him for 2 years, not her, and that you give of yourself every day and to be greeted by his ex makes you feel like he values her over you. She isn't here, you are. If you aren't enough then perhaps this relationship isn't what he wants and then he can have 2 pictures of an ex hanging on a wall. You also tell him "Why am I not in any picture? Do you not want to remember who I am when I leave the house for the day?" or "If I had a picture of my ex... how would you feel?"
Yeah, I would feel uncomfortable too if my girlfriend had a photo up of her ex and herself, so I understand what you’re feeling. At the same time, it’s his home and it might be up without him really thinking much of it. My suggestion is to talk to him about it if you haven’t already, so you can get your feelings and thoughts out there and then I’m sure he’ll remove it and put it somewhere else.
Also, can I PM you a personal question?
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I think you did the right thing for asking him to take it down. I would have done the same thing. I had my man completely remove his ex from Facebook and he did♥️🥰
I would never disrespect my boyfriend in such a way.
I don’t understand his logic in keeping a picture of her when he has you. That’s pretty disrespectful and suspicious.Right. I get that it's not great, but he has a past. It's as simple as that. If you can't handle ONE photo of something that obviously is more to him than just the girl in it, that's YOUR issue.
sounds like he's crazy. I'd love to have a picture of you hanging on my walls. :P
Uh, that's uncomfortable. Just confront him.
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