How do you let your partner know that you want your relationship to become a sexual relationship?

[Anonymous]

Some people have an expectation of having sex on a first date, and to them, this question may seem silly. . . but I don't think that is most of us. Some people will not have sex until their wedding night and they will think this question is over the top, but again, that is not most of us.

You are dating and at some point, you want your relationship to include sex, so what do you do to make that happen? Talk to your partner? Get "vigorous" when making out? Wait for them to say that they are ready? What makes it happen?

Before we get to that point, we have a discussion about when and if we become sexual

When I'm ready, I tell my partner that I am ready and eager for sex.

I wait for my partner to let me know that they are ready

I indicate my readiness by becoming more active and more passionate when "making out" (aka "vigorous!)

I grab my partner by the hand and lead them to the bedroom

There isn't any talk or sending signals - it just happens!

Sex? What is sex?

[Shadowlegend39]

This should always include a conversation before any action is taking. I say that because it not only demonstrates respect for your partner or potential lover to ask how they feel about having a sexual relationship with you but it also gives you both the opportunity to discuss your feelings or thoughts about sex and what it would mean to both of you if you entered into a sexual relationship. I know that can seem hard because sometimes it's difficult to discuss this topic but it's better to a) ask for consent, b) talk about what it means whether that is something serious like a monogamous relationship or if it doesn't mean anything much at all if you have sex, and c) talk about what you want from the sexual experience, talk about your desires or likes and make that connection with your partner. Just start a conversation and see where it goes from there.

[Cammy137]

I wouldn't be in a relationship if I hadn't already had sex with the person