Typically, females step out on a committed partner for one or more of the following reasons:
•They feel underappreciated, neglected, or ignored. They feel more like a housekeeper, nanny, or financial provider than a wife or girlfriend. So they seek an external situation that validates them for who they are, rather than the services they perform.
1. They crave intimacy. Women tend to feel valued and connected to a significant other more through non-sexual, emotional interplay (talking, having fun together, being thoughtful, building a home and social life together, etc.) than sexual activity. When they’re not feeling that type of connection from their primary partner, they may seek it elsewhere.
2. They are overwhelmed by the needs of others. Recent research about women who cheat indicates that many women, despite stating that they deeply love their spouse, their home, their work, and their lives, cheat anyway. These women often describe feeling so under-supported and overwhelmed by having to be all things to all people at all times that they seek extramarital sex as a form of life-fulfillment.
3. They are lonely. Women can experience loneliness in a relationship for any number of reasons. Maybe their spouse works long hours or travels for business on a regular basis, or maybe their spouse is emotionally unavailable. Whatever the cause, they feel lonely, and they seek connection through infidelity to fill the void.
4. They expect too much from a primary relationship. Some women have unreasonable expectations about what their primary partner and relationship should provide. They expect their significant other to meet their every need 24/7, 365 days a year, and when that doesn’t happen, they seek attention elsewhere.
5. They are responding to or re-enacting early-life trauma and abuse. Sometimes women who experienced profound early-life (or adult) trauma, especially sexual trauma, will re-enact that trauma as a way of trying to master or control it.
They’re not having enough satisfying sex at home. There is a societal misconception that only men enjoy sex. But plenty of women also enjoy sex, and if they’re not getting it at home, or it’s not enjoyable to them, for whatever reason, they may well seek it elsewhere.
I can definitely tell this was written by a woman. Almost all of the excuses blame the man. Can you imagine a guy doing this. Yea didn't think so. That is why women cheat because they do not take responsibility and they are selfish cunts. They get pregnant. He took advantage of me. Get drunk and have sex. He raped me. Women cheat because it has become acceptable for women to be perpetual children. They find someone with a bigger wallet and blame the man. He didn't take care of me.
Every woman i know was not to blame for their breakups. If i had a dollar for every he hit me and touched the children story i have heard, my assistant would be typing this for me.
I hate when people come up with excuses for why women cheat : "she lacks intimacy in her relationship" , "her husband doesn't pay her enough attention" , "she's just lonely". But when a man cheat? Hell to the no. He is an asshole, he is a scumbag...(
Why is it different tho? Anyone who cheats is a scumbag and has no excuse, if you're not happy in your relationship walk away and stop trying to have it both ways.
Usually it is because she is receiving less affection, love, care from her partner. Doesn't feel like a true loving relationship anymore. She's unhappy but isn't ready to end the relationship yet. And then someone else in her life actually gives her something her bf/husband isn't giving her like affection for example. She starts to be closer to that person and eventually that's when she cheats on her partner.
“Neglect” when you started to feel that your partner is not paying enough attention to you or not spending enough time with you.
I feel like most relationship people problems come down to a lack of solid conversation skills. Humans can't read minds people! And that goes for all genders.
If your sexually unsatisfied let the person know, maybe you can spice up the bedroom with some toys or different positions or role-play.
If you want more romance, let them know. People don't magically become perfect for each other just through sheet coincidence.
If there's something you don't like about your S/Os behavior then just try to have an open and honest convo about it. Sometimes they don't know what they're doing annoys you, just try to keep it away from "I hate it when..." And go more in the direction of "y'know id really like it if you..." While trying to keep it from sounding negative.
Keeping things positive can really help when talking about things you'd like to see them change. And if they don't get to the point where you like them for it, be patient and know change doesn't happen overnight. Be supportive, if they're a decent person they'll try their best to be a little more like the person you want them to be more like, but know this is a two way street and you might have to change as well. Try to keep your ego out of it, no single human on this Earth is perfect, so you have to help each other strive be better people together.
The husband not makingher felt wanted or pretty.
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In my opinion, when a woman cheats, her relationship is over. I'm not saying that is more common or simpler for a man to cheat but as a girl, I think most of us need to be pretty disappointed with a partner to do this.
Women tend to get involved and if they cheat it means they are in love with another man, it's rarely just sex
From what I have heard and seen from most men that experienced it, it was because their wife/girlfriend was with them, butncheated because another guy had what he didn't and that she liked having a provider and thrill.
That may be heavily skewed with all the red pill, MGTOW, incel, hypergamy rhetoric that seems to play into what they said, but a good amount of them fell in line with that rhetoric. "She is never yours. It's just your turn."
Then it's off to the "Cock Carousel".
Personally, I feel that a lot of it comes from parenting, modern day feminism encouraging women to be more independent and that they don't need a man that it made them embrace masculinity and live like men, and fear of committing.
The sick excitement of getting away with something, he thinks he knows soo much but he dont know about this, it gets wild in the mind of one whom finds the most exciting sex is the forbidden cheat.
I've done this twice to two different guys that pulled even begged me into relationships I didn't want to be in. Both relationships lasted about six months and my cheating started within the first month on both occasions.
Welk my bestie is a slut I love her but she is, she has an amazing solid man and she assumes he's cheating all the time because girls throw themselves at him even though he's not so she'll get drunk and go to the bar and after grinding on some guy she'll fuck him in the bathroom of the club then cry about it the next day! She also has a very high sex drive!
I've seen underage brides who were forced to marry older men cheat with younger guys. So maybe eradicate forced marriage and child marriage first. One of my sister's ex colleagues married a 17yo at age 35+ and literally acts hella submissive to her and gives her whatever she wants just in fear that she will leave him for a younger man. This is the only category of men that deserves to be cheated on in my book. Why would he even marry such a young girl who didn't even finish high school despite child marriage being illegal AND knowing that he would never be able to satisfy her the way a younger guy closer to her age is capable of?
Keeping that aside, cheaters are cheaters are cheaters and even people in the happiest relationships will cheat if they don't have the right mindset. Nothing justifies cheating.
Probably for the same reasons that a boy cheats on his girlfriend or wife.
The answer to this (and other questions) are answered in free-ebooks' "Are Women the Stronger Sex". It can be due to the reasons you mentioned as well as not getting love and attention from her partner and so she is easily seduced by someone else - an opportunist who sees that the woman is neglected and takes advantage of her vulnerability.
Selfishness. It's self-serving because she can get what she desires without a thought of what she's doing to the guy. Sleep around as much as you want, I have no qualms about that. Just don't do it whilst in a relationship. It's distasteful to say the least, and no excuse is good enough
Not true devotion/ dedication to the relationship
Being 100% honest here, all these cases are not acceptable reasons,
A- Talk with the partner, that's what relationships are about, talking and communicating
B- Break the relationship off, don't cheat on them, do you think cheating on an abusive partner is a safe choice?
C- Ask the partner if they are okay with them trying it, don't cheat, it isn't ever acceptable to cheat on someone.
If someone tried to support these points, try switching it to guys,
If a guy cheats on a girl for ANY of these reasons, they are seen as 100% unjust and the guy is hated for it, if the girl does it, then people say she had good reason to and that the guy probably caused her to.
Cheating is something you must never do, regardless of your situations.
1) They don't want to adhere to the terms currently set in their relationship.
2) Are lazily not communicating or trying to change some of the terms... perhaps exploring your bi sexuality for instance, is something your partner is cool with.
3) And the very reason we call it cheating... just like a child that cheats in a game, it's for personal gain and it's all about deception.
Personally I think you should just end the terms if you want out first. I add this because many people use the cheating as a way to end the relationship, instead of ending it first and then doing what they want.
Well its not because he is "abusive", that is just an attempt at justifying it. If your being abused and you have the guts to do that but not the guts to leave the guy, something is definitely wrong with you mentally. It just doesn't add up.
What it is is that she is done with the relationship but she doesn't want to abandon the security of it, so she basically uses him as her security blanket then goes out and has the "fun" that comes with being single. Its her being both selfish and a coward. Also the more sexual partners she has had the more likely she is to cheat, statistically speaking, so that is also something to consider, past actions and personal weakness determine whether or not she will cheat.
I'd imagine the most common reason is feeling lonely, in the sense of insufficient intimacy and appreciation. Though of course, issues like not understanding and appreciating what true intimacy is, and seeking emotional intensity instead of relational intimacy. Both men and women often don't very well understand what drives us to do some things.
I have cheated when I was yonger and in the so called "love triangle" but I totally regret it now.
So people are scared to leave because of many reasons:
1. Getting beat
2. Trust/Loyal ain't there
3. Not spending enough time together
4. "Love Triangle"
5. Scared to speak about their feelings
6. Have a child together and don't want to end things
I know from a lot of my friends, it's a lot more simple and kind of sad. It's very often just out of lust for sex with a new/other person again. The sexual lust kinda takes over the care for the husband/bf and only later the regret kicks in. Or not even. A lot of my friends just don't tell about it and act like it never happened.
The bottom line is that something in the relationship isn't living up to the standard they want, it could be sexually, or it could be something completely different.
People will cheat when they FIND the thing or one of the things they DESIRE and haven't been able to find so far.
Abuse doesn't have to mean being beaten or verbal abuse. Neglect could be considered a form of abuse, so if they're being ignored or having their needs left unfulfilled, it's not crazy to imagine them seeking it elsewhere. It may not even start as a desire to cheat, but once they start getting that fulfillment from another person, attachments form, desires start arising, and they're in the thick of it before ya know it.
I am guessing but here's my opinion, not in any specific order:
1. Confuses sex and sexual attention with love
2. Curiousity
3. Impaired judgement e. g. alcohol or drug abuse
4. Taken advantage of and, or persuaded
5. Fetishism, likes being caught
6. Lack of sex from current relationship
7. Lack of desirability from current partner
8. Abusive relationship can be a factor
9. Attachment due to spending too much time with another person rather than partner
Personality trait thing. Some people are just wired to not be faithful and use people. They might be liars and manipulators and you can’t trust a word they say. They never had plans on being faithful, only plans to use and abuse you, and someday break your heart knowing all along they were going to. They just don’t care.
I think feeling undesired will lead to cheating. If the man is spending less time with her and isn’t giving her attention then she will look elsewhere for it.
Well I dont really know. My thought on this is that if you are going to sleep with someone else doesn't matter if your man or woman you need to get out of the first relationship. I dont care your reasons for straying are it's no reason to hurt someone. I guess cheating hits close to home for me. So why do people do that knowing it is going to hurt someone th hey said they love
Unresolved insecurities (father issues, need for male attention, etc.) go to the top of my list, since that's the only defining motivation I can attribute to girl who cheated on me. Perhaps some of it could be insecurity in the relationship, especially if the relationship is in its dying days either way, and cheating is like a "hail mary" attempt to go out guns blazing. But emotionally secure, mature people do not cheat. Cheating is a sign they've got more growing up and self-reflection to do.
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