A married man wants to leave his family for me. I am scared and don’t know what to do? (Page 2)

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I am 22 and he is 29. I met this man a while ago and we instantly had a connection. It wasn’t romantic at first because we had many mutual friends. But somehow we started hanging out more and I realized that I was in fact interested in him in the beginning but was trying to block those feelings after finding out that he is married (I didn’t really notice the ring at first but rather around the second time we met with mutual friends).  We live in different cities but he calls me every single day and we find it so easy to talk and I feel as if I’ve known him for a long time.  He has been telling me about his problems with his wife, they have been married for nearly 9 year and says that every single day it gets worse and worse and their relationship is deteriorating so he thinks that people live only once and should be with those that you love. He says he will never forget his children and will always be a fatherly figure for them and support his wife and family financially and in whatever other we he can but he wants to “wake up with me and be with me”. This morning he txted me very early and said: I am so confused. I love my children so much and will never leave them because I know she will never let me see them again. I don’t want to be the man that dumps his kids.  This text freaked me out and I feel terrible. I was never the initiator of our relationship, and I knew from the beginning that a married man is a no go zone. I don’t love or have an interest for many men. And it disappoints me that the man that has found a place in my heart is married. I don’t want to break his family. I know our mutual friends will hate me and because we have many- I will probably be hated and I told him that and he said: well we only live once and I want to follow my heart.  Help. I don’t know what to do and am confused and feel terrible and want to drop all this immediately but it is so hard. Has anyone been in this situation?

HeavyRoller · Answer

Good job. Your life will be less complicated and you will keep your friends. Be warned, he'll probably come back. Stand strong and do the right thing for you, not him. It IS the right thing to look elsewhere for love.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

It's nice to hear about people that come to their senses.

sawno · Answer

End it before the damage starts, its better he is protected from one of the worst mistakes he could make that would ruin multiple people's lives including his own.

Anonymous · Answer

You're not a victim here, so don't play that card. You know exactly what you're doing, you know exactly type of situation you're involved in and the full extent of the consequences of your actions. You're a big girl, so appeal to your conscience or your passions to make your CHOICES. There is no room for 'mistakes' here.

Anonymous · Answer

Let's be completely honest you're loving the fact that he's this infatuated with you.
I don't know if you're smart enough to stay away from this guy or not. But let's assume you're not. The good thing is in a few years you're going to hear the same speech again when he finds another woman younger and hotter. Lol

Lauren-green · Answer

You never want to be the person to break up a family.. if there's a chance of them working it out and being a happy family, would you really want to be the one standing in the way of that happening?

ImSparkly · Answer

I hate to be Cap'n Obvious, but If he'd leave her for you, what's to say he won't leave you for someone else?

Avicenna · Answer

This is a situation you don't want to get involved in. You rightly don't feel comfortable with it and any difficulties he has in seeing his kids will greatly affect your relationship.

Red_Arrow · Answer

He said he will never leave his children, so he will never leave his wife. Get out of there and find a guy who can commit to you.

nerms123 · Answer

You should tell him not to leave his kids. What he does is up to him but I don’t think you should wait around for him.

datgirl · Answer

I didn't read the description. Just remember if he wants to leave his wife and family for you he will DEFINITELY leave you for another girl. Don't get mixed up in this kinda stuff. Find a decent single man. You'll be happier. Karma is a bitch.

Kelnius · Answer

Even if it was a good relationship, and it sounds like it was, you don't want to be the girl who took a child's father away...

luvstoned4him · Answer

this dude is lying  he isn't gonna leave her for you they never do , not with divorce, settlements etc involved.  dont believe his lies

Iron_Man · Answer

That's being called a homewrecker don't you feel guilty no matter who's in the right or wrong of all the people he's going to leave his wife for it just so happens to be you. Is that something you can live with for the rest of your life?

DaMack999 · Answer

You're smart women. You left a man with baggage. You don't need drama. You're young travel the world.

sdas138 · Answer

A person who couldn't be loyal to his wife and his very own children is not trustworthy for a relationship amd there's a very high chance that you may go through the same thing his wife will be going through once he loses his interest in you.

Neeceeb7 · Answer

should never ever have let this begin. it doesn't matter the state of ho sdcc marriage. never should date a m as n already in a relationship

MementoMori_ · Answer

Sometimes you just have to cut your losses, swallow hard and move on. This sounds like one of those times.

HOAAH · Answer

Find another, block him... it's just hormones. You will regret it.

MissDawn7961 · Answer

stay away from married men before his wife stalks you , beats you up or kills you

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