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Should I break up with my boyfriend for constantly pushing me to be “better”? (Page 2)
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You should be like "are you gonna buy it for me?" that'll shut him up, it may make you seem like a gold digger but you know, the point is to get him to stop being annoying. And when he says you can get a better job, be like "are you gonna fund me? If not let me do my sht".
Talk to him and explain this all to him (if you haven't?). He needs to know and respect your feelings. Assuming you want this relationship otherwise? But this is unacceptable for sure. You need to talk it out (and he needs to change this), or leave yes. You're ultimately going to be unhappy if this continues and will only get worse and worse.
Breaking up with someone because that person wants you to be better? Have you ever considered the fact that he might think what he's doing is a good thing? Some people need an extra push in life. What you see as him not being satisfied with you might be him trying to help you. Instead of asking people about such a big decision, try asking him about it instead. He's the only one who can give you a proper answer. And if you guys really love each other, there shouldn't be a communication barrier.
No, the fact he wants to build you up and have growth in your relationship is a good sign which you are failing to appreciate. You should expect your partner to challenge you, better you, want better for you.
If he doesn't make you happy, now that would be a reason to leave a relationship which has only been going on for 2months.
If you are happy with you then that's all that matters. Fuck what others say or think. You've stated that you have overcome some pretty serious obstacles in your life to become the person you are today. Don't let him become another one by letting what he says sway you in anyway. You love who you are and the man your with should as well. Not who you COULD or SHOULD be. I say dump the creep.
He should love you for you rather than change you. That's a woman's job to try and change a guy not the other way around. If you're not happy with him you should break up with him. But wait are you sure he's really a guy and not a woman and does he know you're really a woman and not a guy where he? has to change you. Maybe he? should look in the mirror to be sure
How fucking hypocritical are the girls here, then are first ones that are with the stupid thing of wanting an ambitious man, but when the man asks for ambition? You created this nonsense. I can not say about your boyfriend, you have only write a few lines, how can I say that you broke a relationship with so few details?
Why can't you just communicate with him the way you're communicating with all us strangers on the internet?
Tell HIM what you just told us.
"I felt better single"... you answered your own question, but, like going on a diet, your emotions don't want to accept the period of discomfort, and seek to explain a way to avoid it.
I think you know your answer. You were feeling positive about before he came along now you're starting to feel negativenot good enough, someone who truly cares about you doesn't make you feel that way.
You’ve only been dating him for 2 months and he already is trying to control your life? Run hun. You should be with someone that loves you for you, not that’s trying to mold you into something he deems worthy? You know?
Whoa there. He is not pushing you to be better. Pushing for better job i understand, but what does having a better car have to do with that?
Now if he actually was pushing you to be better i would tell you "boo-hoo, he wants you to realize all your potential", but i have no idea what he wants. Just talk to him and figure out wtf is he pushing for.
First of all this could all be cleared up by telling him how you feel. Until you do it's not really fair to just break up with him without giving him a chance to understand where you are coming from.
Yeah, I'd say so. What business is it of his which car you drive or what job you do? Especially after dating for only 2 months. He sounds like a complete idiot.
It sounds like he needs to fix you, when you don't need fixing. It really doesn't sound like this relationship has anywhere to go but down.
Yes, you should. His behavior is extremely tiresome and disrespectful. He should focus on improving himself. He seems to treat you as a thing to show off.
You get an advice, you process the information and in some cases you follow it in other cases you don't, and still you're the one who's making the decision about your own life. I don't know why it has to be a bigger deal than it is.
No you right... if it was like text more or I don't know be more positive id get it. But after 2 month dating he offers you a car to buy, thats weird... he can help you but not in that way
You shouldn't have to ask people what to do in your own relationship. If it's making you so uncomfortable that you can't even feel at ease, there's your answer in itself.
You need to be your self in any relationship. If any relationship forces you to change as per their wills then this may not work in time there is to which you can change yourself.