My boyfriend never posts me on his social media. Does this mean anything? What should I do?

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When we first started dating my boyfriend posted one picture of me saying “perfect.” However, after 1.5 years he never posts any pictures of us. He posts pictures of him and his other friends even females, but not me. Each time I ask him why he just changes the topic. My assumption is that he doesn’t want people to know that we are dating so that he can go around flirting and complimenting other girls. I don’t know what to do or how to approach it. Some advise would be great!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I don't always want to be bragging about any girlfriend I might have. And often, when it's this mushy stuff, it means the relationship is kinda doomed. Two months later this "best boyfriend in the world" or "I'll be with you forever, baby cakes!" means in a week, they'll be exes, and they'll get public and NASTY.

Some guys are just really private.

Maybe he doesn't want to brag for you to break up with him... who knows? Maybe he's just really private. It doesn't make it cheating. It could be almost anything.

He doesn't want certain people to know because they'd try to ruin it. He doesn't want everyone to know because if there IS a breakup, he has to open that wound and talk about the breakup 100 times.
He could just be really private about relationship stuff. He could be wanting to cheat, or flirt with every woman out there and be a hound dog. But it could be so many other reasons past that.

Does he have you mentioned as the relationship status? He obviously has at least one picture of you two together. If it's still up, then he isn't exactly trying to hide everything from the public (even if he doesn't that doesn't mean he wants to cheat (or is cheating).

But not posting about you two, even changing the subject, that doesn't mean he's guilty of anything. Maybe he thinks you're making an issue of it (are you pestering him about it?) when it's a non issue to him and he doesn't care, but doesn't want to start a blow up by answering, even innocently.

Bwyze · Accepted Answer

Hey fix yourself up... go shopping... get something you really think will make you look different...(hella sexy)... something he's never seen you in before... take pictures... have fun with him... later on... you should say to him... you should put our picture on your site...

Amy_Theo · Accepted Answer

There are two possible reasons that I've got for his behaviour.
1. As you said, he's keeping his options open and available.
2. It's a personal preference. I for one would never post a picture of my s/o (unless say we were married or clearly committed to each other). That's just too much of a bother for me personally. There's the whole having to delete the pictures if and when we break up, etc. Not to mention, I find it really uncomfortable in a way when I see pictures of friends getting mushy with their partners. My head's just screaming "UNNECESSARY!'

R_ūshī · Accepted Answer

I don't know him so I can only advise you as a private person.

I have NEVER posted or set my bf's photo as my public story. I don't even comment on his pics and I didn't even put his name in my bio or any of that stupid shit. Out of the many reasons why I choose to be that way, the main one is because I don't like letting people know about my private things. In no way does it mean that I don't love him or that I don't care about him.

Being public doesn't mean much to me.

SarahsSummer · Accepted Answer

You can't base your net worth by social media posts. You always have the choice to post and tag him in your photos but try to focus on the important things in the relationship. His real actions towards you, your interactions when together. In the grand scheme of things, social media posts are not a true representation of reality.

AmandaYVR · Answer

Wow, I don't know what to say about this. But yes, I think your suspicions are right, he doesn't want to advertise that he's with you. Not good. Sorry.

rkon4117 · Answer

I just had the same issue with my SO. She told me it was due to her wanting to keep our personal life personal, and that she is just uncomfortable with things like that and PDA. I doubted her and after a bit of a conversation she backed it up by deleting the men off her account just to show her reasons were just those! Some people may just not be into The whole publicity that comes from splashing your relationship online due to ex’s and people who don’t have the best intentions.

DorkVader · Answer

Trust your gut. If you don't trust him, don't stick around for the heartache

LoU_Hades · Answer

Your assumption is right. I mean some people don't care about social media and are neglecting their accounts. But if he is active and didn't add you, there is a reason behind it.

Redbee · Answer

It doesn't matter until all his friends and family members know about you. That's important

idkhfjdkdkskkd · Answer

he may be scared of you guys breaking up and then him having to delete it thus signally to anyone who follows him that y’all broke up and he’s wanna keep that private

broncobryan · Answer

He probably doesn't see a need to post his personal life on social media.

LordSnuggles · Answer

Why would you automatically assume that and not thst he's just not into putting his relationships on social media which is more reasonable and logical.

TrustOfWorthington · Answer

Thats good. As long as he tells people he has a girlfriend, meaning and being you, that is all fine

MannMitAntworten · Answer

The beauty of not having social media! GaG aside... :p

Nikhil5711 · Answer

He simply don't want his friend to know about you any more

BCA6010 · Answer

I haven't updated my social media in 3 years. It's because I don't care about getting other people's attention in regards to my personal life. Social media is NOT important. Don't make it so.

MusicMayhem · Answer

It's just social media get over it. Maybe he has an actual life. Maybe he doesn't want to make other single people feel shit by posting lovey dovey bs all over his fb.

TotesNotABot · Answer

What social media are we talking about? Loads of people stopped using Facebook as actual social media years ago and just use it to collect news and funny nonsense.

reznovd · Answer

No your boyfriend probably doesn't remember or respects your privacy

BrotherFrost · Answer

Calm the fuck down. I don't post private pictures either.

Semasu · Answer

does he not have taken in his bio?

Babygirl_S · Answer

He is embarrassed of you for some reason.

smartrider · Answer

Breackup prank. And be prepared for the real thing

outside_Toronto · Answer

Means he's doing it right

My boyfriend never posts me on his social media. Does this mean anything? What should I do?

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