Boyfriend donating to girl streamer?

[Anonymous]

my boyfriend of 6 years who I have a child with has been staying up super late and playing WoW on his pc all day and night. I found out myself that he has been often in groups with this one girl streamer, he also donated to her in her livestreams and is in her private discord group. Would you be concerned? I confronted him (because all money he uses is also earned by me, I am the sole breadwinner he doesn't work) and he said sorry and that he wasn't gonna do it anymore... It just doesn't sit right with me. She also said once that often streamers will hide their boyfriends. And he jokingly said: are you hiding something from us? I want my bits back *cry emoticon.
Bits are the currency on stream.
I mean imagine if it was your girlfriend or boyfriend doing this.

[simonqq]

Well he shouldn't donate money that you earned. He should probably look for a job. To watch a streamer is fine but he seems obsessed with her which is not good. Even if let's say he was single with no kid the likelihood of having a relationship with her is close to zero.

Wow is a fun game but when you have a family you need to have priorities. You can still game but simply not as much as you did when younger. That's just the way life is and he has to accept that.

[Asker]

thats what I dream of, that he would not only know that but also do it... A man who prioritizes his family. I miss that and I hope he changes which he says he will.

[simonqq]

For some that takes a long time to realize. I used to play all day every day but luckily for me I simply grew tired of it. I also rarely play alone and just play with friends because that's when it's actually fun.

For me I rather play or watch streams than watch TV so that's how I spend those free hours.

He needs to show the will to change through action and not words. Like lowering the amount of time spent daily on the computer. Take care of chores and looking for jobs and then if there is time he can play in the evening.

I think you can only tell him that he needs to change but that you can't push him to it he has to do it himself. If he doesn't then you'll have to think about what you want to do.

[Asker]

thanks Simon, I agree and thats great advice. I want to see actions not just nice words. I like gaming myself, so dont see anything wrong with that. But like you said, when it consumes all his time, he doesn't spend much with his family, and then he shows too much interest in this girl streamer... its just not fair and hurts me a lot. If he loves me he will care enough to change.

[simonqq]

Just a side note, he might actually be addicted so it can be difficult to change. I used to be addicted as well and would feel anxious if I was away from home and didn't get to be at my computer before the weekend ended.

I don't know how I stopped being addicted but I imagine it's completely different than if you are addicted as an adult.

I don't have good advice when it comes to this because addiction is a difficult beast. I hope he can overcome this for you and your child.

[hicardosperfbs]

I like what Simon said here as for me I stopped being addicted by putting all that time into my new found work meaning I went from the one addiction to the other but id rather work too much then game too much

[Ramon84]

just because he's your baby daddy, it doesn't give him the right to spend your money on other women.. its just wrong on so many levels, if my partner caught me do that, she would put my head on spike to make an example of me.. and i would deserve it..

he is shameless!

[Rine_Nin]

Usually people donate on stream for two reason : attention seekers or actually like the content and want that streamer to go on..
He for sure doesn't have a chance with her because girl streamers tend to date other streamers for fame boost.
But it would disturb me if he takes too much interest even tho its just fanboying 💁‍♀️ id be more pissed off about my money and kick his ass to work

[Asker]

thats how I feel about it. Its just too much interest for my liking. And him saying sorry about it when I cnofronted him makes it clear he realizes it aswell.

[Rine_Nin]

See if he tries again and please make him work come on

[simonqq]

Yeah I'd be pissed for spending my money for something like that. If he wants to donate then it should be his money.

I 100% agree with everything Rine_Nin said.

[CubsterShura]

If it was my boyfriend I'd break all his gaming devices and sever the internet connection on spot.

[Ramon84]

holy crap! lol

[Not_yours77]

I’m tired of people in relationships investing so much time, energy, or even $ to other potential future endeavors! This has happened to me so much and it’s truly ridiculous! If you are in a committed relationship with someone you invest IN THEM! Otherwise what’s the point? I swear, if I try to hangout or communicate with my s/o his face is in a game or phone! And yet I can see he’s investing so much time toward other women, and I DO tell him it’s NOT OK. Hell cooperate for a while and then right back to it on some other social platform! TikTok, FB, insta, iPhone game chat rooms, likes and comments on pictures, liking inappropriate videos to keep them In his algorithm he says, like that makes it OK? Also, another excuse was “oh that’s was while I was at work” what else does he think is ok because it was “at work”? Uhhhhhhhg!

[I_Am_Sazerac]

I'm not claiming to know what he's doing. Merely stating possibilities. I've donated to streamers before and it meant nothing, just meant I enjoy their content and it was a little extra thank you for the entertainment then went about my day.

But yeah if he has no job he shouldn't be donating your money.

[ArnoldClark]

I think I'd have my concerns. I'd also be having words about him not working and spending your money! No one deserves a freeloader.

[boredguy01]

I think the real question is why are you dating an unemployed loser who plays WoW all day

[hicardosperfbs]

Lmao u hating on a person u dont even know on a random app thats sad dude not like u would be any better and Ye its sad what he's doing but come on man

[Anonymous]

What?
Just tell him, that you will stop giving him money, and if he does it again.

He can do that only with his money...

In case you think, that he can leave you because of her. Then he is stupid, as streamers only there for money...

Why he is not working anyway, just get his lazy ass to work...

[blkgold33]

Yeah you have a kid money need go to the kid not no random girl better call him out on before it gets worse

[Meatunnel69]

Im sorry but you are in your thirties and are with a man that doesn't work and plays video games care to explain?

[Asker]

He is 6 years younger than me and I look very youthful. We met while we were studying but he didn't pursue that further. I had just graduated uni and didn't really know yet what to do but then found something I was good at. So I started earning money that way which quickly turned into quite a lot of money. Because we were comfortable, and I didn't even have to work so much, he had less drive to pursue something.

[Meatunnel69]

Damn well you sound good your boyfriend is a moocher shame on him

[MannMitAntworten]

Sounds odd to me. Perhaps sell his gaming equipment and get him to get a job to pay you back.

[green1supremacy]

Drop his ass. Woman in bed and he on the computer. He in love, with the idea of you, but not actually you. Sorry babe.

[hicardosperfbs]

Its kinda sad what he's doing ngl but he can prob get out of it who knows maybe there is something thats going on with him

[visitthemexico]

are you single?