I chose "both of us wanted an abortion". When I was 16, I got my girlfirend at the time pregnant. We were generally quite close, and had discussed what our views were on abortion, as well as what we would each want to do should we find ourself having to make that decision.
So, in general, her views were, pro-choice, but she said that personally, she wasn't sure she would be able to have an abortion herself. But she might be... she just didn't know for sure.
My general view was, I'm pro-choice. At the end of the day, it is your choice. I would prefer an abortion because I don't believe it's right to bring a child into the world if you aren't able (or willing) to give them the kind of life every child deserves... But that, if she chose to not have an abortion, I was prepared to 100% be the best father I could be.
So, she got pregnant. Naturally, coming to a decision was an emotional time. For her, it was more of an internal dilemma whereas for me it was more waiting for your fate to be decided. I put zero pressure on her, but she decided it was the right thing to do to have an abortion.
I actually still remember that day really clearly actually. I was more worried about her, than I was feeling any loss due to the abortion itself. She was emotional, obviously, but she was ok. I know it's something she had pangs about sometimes. And we would talk about it. But I can't say that I suffered pangs to the same degree.
So I haven't seen that girl since I was 19, and we did NOT part on good terms. I don't think about her as often as I think about the child I might have had. I actually have thought about that... fairly regularly over the past 18 years. But never with regret.
Honestly, I've been through some rough-living since I was that 16-year-old kid. I've ended up in a lot of od situations and circumstances that my 16 year-old-self could never imagine finding himself facing. My recurring thought whenever things got REALLY bad was:
""Things could be worse. I could have a kid relying on my sorry-ass, on top of what I'm going through. I couldn't deal with that; But I can handle this."
I've always wanted to be a dad. I still would love to be one. But personally, I've never regretted the abortion 18 years ago. Not once. I'm so thankful that I don't have to look into the eyes of an 18-year-old who's life was awful because I couldn't be a proper dad; or give her the childhood she should have had (it's a daughter in my mind for some reason).
Kind of difficult to say.. when I found out I was pregnant, immediately I got happy and then began to get scared. Prior to my pregnancy my man and I had talks about having kids and I’ve always thought I didn’t want any and would abort so when I told him about it he said “We’ll aren’t you gonna kill it? 😒” I started to think about how I would feel if I did and I didn’t want to live with that guilt I would have for doing so. It got to a point where he and I sat down and really discussed what we wanted and we agreed to an abortion so I set up an appointment.. I didn’t want to do it but I also didn’t want to end up a si for parent. On my way to the appointment I started feeling an intense amount of anxiety and guilt and luckily he called me crying and begged me not to get one... which I was glad he did right before I was to end the pregnancy.
I had a ONS with a guy who removed the condom I realize ituntil he came inside me. The next day I went and got the Morning Pill. A couple weeks later I went to the doctor for some symptoms I was having of an STD, yep he gave me Gonorrhea so had to go on High Powered antibiotics two rounds then a month later I found out I was 8 weeks pregnant with taking the Morning After pill and two rounds of Antibiotics in the following weeks we discovered the baby wasn't developing properly so the Father and I n the advice of the Doctor agreed to Terminate. That Abortion was the beginning of the End of us we were friends with benefits but he always wanted I just couldn't give him more. But he saw my Actions as a Reason that his Baby had to be Terminated!!!
I wanted one when I was pregnant at 17 but never got one. My hubby (obviously was just my boyfriend at the time) was so extremely happy about having a baby that I could have never went through with having a abortion.
Don't think my partner ever has, though I don't think he's very into doing it himself I also don't think he'd fight it to hard if a past girlfriend really wanted to. Personally, I'd never pretty much never have an abortion; though if I wasn't financially prepared to handle a child then I would give it up to a family that was. We're pretty sure we want a vasectomy anyway. He doesn't especially want children (though he'd be a great dad) and I'm not medically healthy enough to raise one as I'll have days where it's hard to get out of bed. We're both pretty mentally insecure as well.
I got pregnant with twins. It's possible I'm pregnant again. We can't even afford two for right now, but we are making it through. So, if I happen to be pregnant again, we decided on adoption. Why kill a human being if you can give him/her to someone else who will be far happier? I'd go through the pain instead of killing an Innocent human being who deserves a shot at life. That's just my opinion.
Never been in the position myself but my close friend who's quite young got pregnant and was basically pressured by her now husband and family to have a baby even though she wasn't ready and wanted to abort it. Unfortunately no big miracle happened and she spent her whole pregnancy being really depressed. She gave birth prematurely. The baby is okay but the whole thing made a toll on her health. I can see she's trying to make the best of it, but it's really hard for her.
Nope since that will never happen. I've told my partner many times before we started being serious that if I do get pregnant "by accident", an abortion is out of the question cause I'm not killing my own baby. I have a family who will support me no matter what as well so why would I even go through something as traumatizing as that. Good thing my partner thinks the same way as me about abortions and wants to be a father as much as I want to be a mother :) so abortion is a no no.
Ah, finally a question. Have and have not, The first time - it was invented. The second also. The third, she did have an abortion, because it wasn't my child. I've never risked a woman falling pregnant. It's very easy not to risk it. It only happens when someone wants it to. Possibly both sides (either that, or my future foretelling ability is too good)
Abortion is very, very ILLEGAL in my country. So every time am with a lady am super careful. I use a condom always, and if I feel like the sex wasn't gentle, and that the condom might've torn, I make them take a morning after pill. Prevention is better than cure.
@Primrose21 Yeah I know but I cannot convey exactly how much I do not ever want kids. I don't hate them, I just do not want the responsibility of being a parent.
yes. We had a scare and I wanted to get rid of it and he didn’t really want to but he understood that we can’t have a child right now. Thankfully it was just a scare
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