Am I being selfish and a bad person?

[middleagedcrisis]

I am new here. I am a 40+ widower and I have a son who is also an adult. He had a girlfriend for a bit and my son isn't around now. He lives in a different city now. I was friends with his girlfriend on Facebook and we have recetly started interacting a lot. She is a nice 19 year old girl and things are now getting weird between us.
1. We went for a few movies as friends.
2. I took her for shopping and bought her mid priced clothes and accessories.
3. I am giving her driving lessons.
4. We frequently hug.

She doesn't mind my age.

I clearly asked her about her relaitonship with my son and she said it wasn't sexual.

Am I a bad person?

[SueShe]

The thing here is how does your son view the entire situation?

Is he even aware of what is happening behind his back? I presume he is not at all informed that his girlfriend is a little too close with you.

How do you think he will react when he finds out how the situation develops in his absence and the way it is taking?

Right now, everything is still innocent but I am not sure that it will stay like that for long. Sooner or later, you will probably make the step not to make and be a little more intimate and that is when you will definitely be a bad person in my opinion.

Severing this relation while it is still time is the best thing you can do unless of course, it is consensual and that your son approves of it.

[ChefPapiChulo]

This is how you get mho. You just share opinions on questions with very few answers

[middleagedcrisis]

My son dumped her already. In his words she is a " money seeking whore".
I told my son I am friends with his ex girlfriend and we go out sometimes. He has advised me to stay far from her. The reason my son dumped her is because he is a student and can't afford her.

for me she is a lovely 19year old girl who needs love, pampering and care.

Things get uncomfortable when she sends me pics in bikini. We had a passionate kiss once in my car.

[TacosRAwesome]

If you want to further your relationship with this girl check with your son how serious it was.

[Browneye57]

Completely bad. GTFO man. Besides, she's way too fukkin young too.

Sure, you're all infatuated, who wouldn't be? The body of a 20yo? I'd fuck her brains out. But just look down the road a bit... when she's your age you'll be an OLD man. WAY old. It's all a bit disgusting. Not even to mention that she was your son's girl!!!

[InfobotsMom]

She's using you for the free gifts by the sounds of it. You're not a bad person, just lonely and naive.

[middleagedcrisis]

Oh thanks for not using bad words for a 40+ single dad. I am just not greedy. I may be naive.

[boggboss]

If you was to do anything with her yes you would be

[middleagedcrisis]

I kissed her once. Does that count?

[boggboss]

Yes that counts you need to stop man I can understand you may be lonely but doing stuff with your sons old partner is wrong

[middleagedcrisis]

why desnt she stop it. She is the one sending me bikini pics everyday

[boggboss]

Because she don't care

[boggboss]

That she is so forward to send you pics to ensure you spend money on her shows what your son says is true

[Dchrls78104]

To be honest, you risk embarrassing your son and yourself, if you get too close to this girl. It would be wisest and safest for you to assume that she could never live you that way and leave her alone.

[Adrian2306]

man... bro... dude... if your intentions are friendly then you are not bad person, still i can 5% understand but dude... dont do this, stay clear

[Exorcist_Rampage]

Not a bad person. She's of a legal age so the government won't care.

[pumpdavid]

You're not okay... can I ask you for something