Losing interest never happens out of nowhere, there is always a reason. It might be some red flag, something that she learned about you that she doesn't particularly like but has no right to try to change (or is unchangeable). When these things happen sometimes it's for the best to just end it on good note, explanation is not necessary. That's a whole point of dating, getting to know each other. People often make mistake by trying to change or manipulate someone, but that's wrong because we should like the person and their life the way it is, not their potential or what we hope they will be in the future. If it's no match then fuck it, no ones fault. You should really always just be yourself. If you know you are a good person and know how to respect, commit and prioritize your relationship like an adult, then you don't have to worry about anything. The problem is when a guy doesn't know all this and I have to tell him what to do and what not to do, like raising a kid. No woman wants this. I gave benefit of a doubt to most guys I dated, also gave a few "warning" sings when something was bothering me, and most of them took my "forgiveness" for granted and made me lose interest. They are probably still wondering what went wrong. If a woman tells you that something about your behavior or the way you treat her is bothering her, and you say you will change or that it won't happen again, you better mean it and make sure that it REALLY never happens again.
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Referring back to your divorce rate being mostly initiated by women... is it not the case that men are trying to be the protective guy that should pay for everything and should bring flowers and take us to our doorsteps etc etc etc? Is it not by the gradual lack of interest that you stop these little acts that are 'supposed to catch you any woman you want' and in return we realise that we were being running after the carrot on the stick? ;-) just throwing the question right back at you! Of course on both sides people try to impress... the relationships that last are those that started in a very sincere and 'real' manner right from the start :-)
I know men who have "game" when dating women. The woman always seems interested because he is portraying himself to be interesting. She doesn't lose interest. He knows how to do it.
The trouble with that situation is that the guy has to always have "game" when being with that woman because she is interested in the "game", not the real person. If he doesn't put on his "game" then she will lose interest. That must be a lot of hard work for the guy to always have "game."
It seems to me that women have a lot more options when dating. So if the guy says the littles thing wrong she can easily find someone else.
A very long time ago I belonged to a Philippine dating site. I had so many young and beautiful women who wanted to know my acquaintance. I've never been so picky in my life because I had so many options.
I know exactly what you mean. It always feels like I have to walk on eggshells around females because they get butthurt and offended by every little thing you say. They take everything has sexual harassment, creepy behaviour, or some kind of disrespect. They find a reason to bash men for every little thing that comes out of their mouth (mostly the feminists.) The best thing you can do, is just stay from them all together. Let them all end up alone with no man in their life, cause no REAL man wants them anyway. Just use tinder to fulfill any sexual desires.
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I don’t believe a woman can be perpetually sexually or romantically attracted to somebody but if she is loving and compassionate and honest she will stay faithful for loves sake after the guy loses his sex appeal to her. Like my best friend of 16 years who ghosted me at 26 - I didn’t love her for any reason other than our paths had crossed for so long we now had so many shared events and values in common.
Most of what you've seen or heard is wrong. About keeping them happy, that is true, but you don't do it intentionally FOR or TO her, you do it by being the most awesome man you can possibly be. And you do THAT for YOURSELF. A man on his life mission is actually going someplace and being someone. THAT is what makes a woman happy.
And yes, the burden of performance is on the man. Everything that happens, the success or failure, bears on you. The only way you can keep a woman from growing tired and bored is to simply be so fukkin awesome they can't afford to leave. They are drawn to men with options, with power, with money. If you're weak and lazy, and ineffectual, she'll shut down sexually, cheat bail or any combination. I guarantee it.Our main problem Stephen, is that they don't think like us. When there's a problem in the relationship, or something they don't like, a lot of women are passive aggressive about it and just hint at the problem. Their seeming to leave out of nowhere tends to happen after we've missed the hints.
In the beginning of the relationship, they probably saw a red sign and ghosted without an explanation which is infuriating, or they were talking to several guys at once, found one they liked more, and ghosted because they thought it would be easier then explaining.
Dating sucks.I got to a point of not bothering. It's like if I'm getting bored at a restaurant with a girl, I tell her: "Hey, I'm getting bored of this place. Let's bounce!" Whatever. I figure if I can't just do whatever I want to do and say whatever I want around the girl in the beginning, I might never be able to do that. So I'm okay taking the gamble and scaring her away even on the first date. Oddly the more I did that though, the more successful my dates became.
I feel the same way. I lose my sense of peace with myself. How astonishing is it that women can bring guys to their knees and flatten their egos so easily. I swear they have incredible amounts of power without even realising it sometimes.
Well I don't have a woman and I don't have a partner nor am I a man, but I can say pretty ladies do make me sweaty and I can't act myself around them 😂
i dont need a youtube guide on that... im always myself and for every woman that doesn't like that there is another that does
Learn to just YOLO when dating XD. The thing that hooks most people in dates are the qwirks a person has.
I'm not surprised you feel that way as even though the majority of people are not too smart - you make anyone look like a genious in comparison.
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Never needed guides to help me get or keep a women once you start that rubbish you lock yourself into believing opinions as facts
Nah not really, women don't tend to drop their interest in people without reason.
Date a hot shemale if you think women aren't for you. They have a male brain and will be more relatable.
I feel that way about attracting women in the first place. These self help videos don't take into account that what works for some people will not apply to others. Some might naturally be aloof, and awkward. Others may be the opposite.
tbh i can be shy at times but with a normal confersation im always being myself tbh their just another person if you think it this way it shouldn't be so bad 🤗
I can because I just stop talking to women who can't handle me. Life is too short to waste time on a spoiled princess. There are lots of women who are perfectly open to all the weird stuff I'm into.
You shouldn't feel that way; because if you do, compatibility is lacking or else the relationship is fundamentally unhealthy.
I feel that if I had a girlfriend, there would be many social and romantic standards I would have to meet.
A girlfriend no, that would spell bad news for the relationship. Women other than a partner absolutely.
thats why personality beats looks in women, find someone who you love
Dont copy what others do, be your self and stay your self if dosent click its not meant to be.
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