To me, it is amazing that the question is still asked. But then, this is GaG. Some rather amazing things happen in this forum. If love does not see culture, why on earth would it see color? If an Irishman can fall in love with a Welsh woman. . . if a Nigerian man can fall in love an African-American woman. . . why on earth would a "White" person have issues falling in love with a "Black" person?
What are we saying? That all dark-skinned Latinos, Caribbeans, African-Americans, Nigerians, British citizens, etc. are members of one culture and all "White" Americans, "white-skinned" British citizens, French people, Australians, Brazilians, Colombians, etc. are members of another culture?
It simply does not make any sense. We know the truth about culture and the lie about race.
If you have a relationship with a person of another culture, you have to navigate those differences, no matter what their skin color is. And if you are simply running away from your own cultural experience then it does not bode well for your future relationships. Be who you are, accept others for who they are and live your life.
Absolutely, people say hate has to be taught and it seems to be the case. I've always been told to see things the way kids look at everything, they don't judge or care so long as they're having fun. For me personally, i'll just like whoever I like and there is nothing specific I require someone to have or be to like them. It's hard to explain, it's like not having a specific type so long as my brain just says ok yeah they're cool.
I do! But unfortunately others don't always share that sentiment.
I get that race is a preference for some people when it comes to dating, but I wish some people wouldn't push their negative views on others, or assume all people fall under the same negative stereotypes of a particular race. Or be so quick to reject someone because of their skin color! Some of the same ones whining about how they can't find someone to date or love is missing out on a good opportunity because they refuse to date someone of a different ethnicity!
I believe that children see no color until their taught to by society or family or television/movies. But as adults, yes we see color and yes we have our preferences but you fall in love with who you fall in love with. You still see color but it doesn’t make a difference. I’m native and I love a Caucasian male and we both work for my tribe. I worry that our relationship will affect his job due to tribal politics. So yes I see his skin tone difference but it doesn’t matter to me but I’m fully aware it will matter to others.
1. What is the definition of color for a blind person that is blind since birth. 2. How does a person that is color blind define a color that he cannot perceive. 3. Love is blind and therefore, has no color for a person that is blind since birth and to a number of people that let themselves be fooled by their feelings. The rude awakening is for much later.
There is no right or wrong in this question because it is a matter of perception.
Yes and no. I personally don't like the term "not seeing color". Too many people use it as an excuse for not confronting their biases. Unless you're BLIND you see color and must be responsible for the innate biases that come with that. I believe that race has no bearing on who one falls in love with... but I must say I've become more aware of certain racial issues facing communities that I am not a part of since I began a relationship with a mixed individual of another racial combination. Love sees no color, but through love one becomes aquainted with a much wider perspective ON color.
Yes! As it should be! You can't date or profess to love someone without also taking on the racial biases that they deal with on the daily. I'm sooooo glad you posted this!!!
You're welcome!! It's something I feel very strong about as a person in a marriage with three distinct racial backgrounds between us!! We've both had a lot to learn!!
Well love and colour is not related at all :) What a lovely picture there :) I am Asian and my partner is westerner. Two different people, different background, different colour, different mother tongue, different in many ways... but still we are together :) Does it really matter?
Love has nothin to do with kindness. I have seen people fall madly in love with folks that are not anywhere near kind. Love has to do with personality and how the conversation flows or how the way you think meshes with theirs.
Any time that you hear or see someone who is against dating outside of their own race, they are simply closeted racists. And its not worth it to date a racist either. Its not a family that's worth marrying into. Someone who thinks less of you due to your race is not worth your time either.
Almost. I'd like to say that's the case but there are still some that do see colour in love.
I personally don't care about the race of who I'm dating, but there are some out there who might still care and that's just their way of seeing it I guess.
Honestly? Yeah. It's inconsequential. That doesn't mean there might not be any culture differences but that doesn't mean that race is such a huge issue.
I wonder if people know that race does NOT exist in biological context. It's a social construct that was given so much importance to ensure that some people remained privileged and selfish.
It's important to have attraction to some extent and personality attraction. Personablity attraction mostly but I will say this I don't have many black girls that I have found attractive but there are a handful that I really considered dating. So for that factor I beileve it's totally possible from personal experience to look past that.
I think love sees color but accepts it as being wonderful. To say it doesn’t see would mean it ignores all the differences that come with dating another race. When you truly love someone, you see all of them and embrace the differences and share all of your life with each other. That’s beautiful
It's not about not seeing color it's all about seeing it but expecting and loving each other because of your differences. One day soon I hope we can celebrate our differences instead of downing each other because of them! We should all take a min and think about that
Most guys I’ve been with others have brought it up somehow. Sometimes they might bring it up and it gets annoying at times and chances are I’m trying to figure out if they have a fetish. At the end of the day it doesn’t matter to me.
Yea I’ve gotten you don’t seem or act black, you aren’t ghetto, pretty much everything in the book. I don’t like when people say I have to be mixed but I’ve gotten that from black and white people. Oh the other one I got was I only date dark skin girls but you’re an exception lol.
Most of the time you fall in love with people you're attracted to. And if you have preferences towards a color, then yes, you're less likely to fall for someone who isn't your type. Of course that's the basic principle, it's always more complicated as love, like any other feeling, doesn't follow reason or logic, and can't be controlled.
OHHHhhhhhh you mean pumpkin as in FAT person. THought you meant the fruit!!! People choose food over a lover because they DO need mental health care. They're hiding under blubber to protect their fragile emotions...
Some people like same race. I have seen so many Asian girls saying that they only go out with Asian man. On the other hand, I see girls like white guys once in a while. I wouldn’t know anyway. White guy told me that Asian girls are easy so they must be banging around. I haven’t seen a girl who like black men though. But I read about it. She was raised in broken family.
Yeah love can happen at anytime, anywhere, and with anyone. As long as they treat each other with respect (includes everyone else), great people, polite to others And great person
I second what Cynical dreamer has said. I see no problems with dating someone from a different origin. However the other people make it a problem. Maybe they love drama.
No. I think love does see color. Just true love doesn't give a damn about the color it sees and just accepts it and keep moving like nothing is a true issue.
I STRONGLY BELIEVE LOVE doesn't SEE COLOR OF SKIN, ITS THINKING THAT SHOULD MATCH AND BOTH SHOULD FEEL COMFORTABLE WITH OTHER IN ANY SITUATION THEY ARE IN AND I HOPE RACISM IS FINISHED SOON FROM OUR PLANET
I always believe you should try a relationship outside your race at least once before you by. If you want it to be the same sex but different race, ok too
I can only speak for myself and I don't place sex anywhere near the top of my priorities. Actually, it would be rock bottom on the list.
I have much more affinities with somebody's mind, intellect, character and personality. Those would be the ones that I prioritize over the looks or sexual performance, just because I personally could not care less about prowess in bed.
@SueShe i see. so im basically writing a book on women psychology. so for that matter, I've some stuff to discuss. so can you follow me? i know there are several books on this stuff but they are not as good, you read them and you are left with even more questions. so i think i will be able to finally answer it and i already have found some best answers as well from my understanding of women. im 21 by the way
@SueShe im sorry for your bad experience but do i look like a bad person to you? i am actually writing a book so i need to ask some stuff related to it. I've read your posts and i think you can help me
@Alex_988_2 While I understand your interest, I don't want to start making exceptions otherwise everyone that comes with some argument will also want one.
Of course love sees no color... prej., stereotyping, judgmental, ignorance, close mindedness... those are the human qualities which do see color, whether right or wrong...
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