Perfect question.
I am being realistic and talking about God at the same time.
I met women in my past life that ( we ) thought would be perfect for each other, 100% match BUT yes But she was for me. God put us together so I could help her with her next phase of life. Some how we both got it and moved in. This was no quick relationship it had lasted 4 years. My second experience was with a woman we thought we was going to be married. A friend introduced me to a Christian woman because I was depressed and she Hated men after what her ex husband put her through. The relationship started off very bad because she had no trust nor faith in men. I was from a divorce where my ex-wife cheated on me 5 times and we had three kids.
Well, the woman that hated men had a 13 year old daughter that she taught to not trust men. Any way, we was put together by our shared friends and heavily monitored. She started trusting me because her daughter liked talking to me about life. So we started dating. 6 months into dating and actually fall ( in love ). The purpose why I was in her life came to light. You can go to heaven with hate in your heart. She was diagnosed with ovarian cancer and I took care of her until she died. She died being in love and not hating. I went through all of the emotions. Anger, depression, etc but at the end of the day reality kicks in after the fact and you have two choices, accept or don't accept it.
Sometimes God will use your strengths. So it might seem like the "right person wrong ". You have to look at the big picture.
Great question. I use to believe that but for the last 10 years I have totally been proven that everything happens for a reason. I actually was being shown this my entire life, it just took me this long to figure it out as proof to myself. God was just rolling his eyes saying "finally ya get it dumbass" lol...
Every person with their qualities, quirks, quacks, and promises all played a major role in helping me become the person I a today. It was a learning process. It took a great deal of trial and error. I dated a lot had some amazing people I shared my life with some short some long term. I had always wondered why it always hurt to lose someone and why that experience needed to happen until TODAY. half a century later and I have fallen in love and totally smitten by someone who actually feels the same and has no problem expressing that to me. TRUE LOVE we know we are THE ONE made for each other and we needed our paths to go through everything it needed exactly for our paths to cross at this very moment.
This is my opinion... i am a firm believer in things happen in our lives for reasons and that sometimes we know the reasons and sometimes it takes us time to see the reason why someone was placed there and then sometimes we never know the reason... i can tell you in my life so far i know without any doubt why many people where put in my path and most where there for lessons that i needed for my future survival... so basically my answer is right person wrong time and it didn't work out or looks like its not going to work out, then that person was just a stepping stone to something bigger.. like a higher plan for your future... if its meant to be then who knows that person might resurface in your future when the timing is better, what's that saying if its meant to be it will be. I myself am in a right person wrong time situation... he was a right person wrong time who turned out 30 years later to be a right person right time now... without him i dont know if i would have gotten thur my husband's death. But i do also know that when we were growing up during that time he wasn't ready for someone like me. I hope this brings you some insight!
exactly !
Yes. I have always told people especially before I turned 18, that I am not ready to be dating or is interested in that until 18. They didn't want to at least be friends or anything. They left and fooled around. Now they regret their choices. I mourned then, but now I'm not caring what they do. The right person knows how to treat you and others better. I believe in God's timing and not in our timing. Most people shouldn't even be with certain people or they lack good judgment. That has nothing to do with time.
Opinion
66Opinion
Absolutely, just like you can have the wrong person at the right time (feeling horny, feeling lonely) and settle hard for a while, nights or weeks, until the timing is right with someone else.
I mean, hell, you're 22, that's young, but old enough that the type of men you go for has changed some since you were 18.
At those times, they were the right person at the right time. Now though... maybe not so much.
Absolutely it can happen. The circumstances of life do get in the way. There are so many examples of why it might not be the right timing.
Also, I can imagine quite a few scenarios where a person meets another person that they really, really like/love, but they weren't looking for a serious relationship at that time (due to age, work, education, all sorts of other obligations. Or even just undersstandably wanting to play the field for a while. It can be a very difficult situation for someone to settle down with the first person, or one of the first people they get into a relationship with. They may always wonder... "What else was out there?" even though they never find someone who they are better matched with.)
@AmandaYVR I was friends with this really nice girl when I was in high school. (I had actually met her in 6th grade.). She probably would have gone out with me if I asked. But I wanted to play the field myself. I guess I was too shallow, too. Oh well.
I think so yes - I think God was showing me through signs when I prayed I would not get a guy until I was ready for one
I've learned that it takes time to get to know someone. Whether it's the right or wrong time. I have standards. Those standards have to be met in order for me to consider having a serious relationship.
I will say that we all have flaws and it's up to a person to accept them or move on.
It also depends on the situation your in when you meet someone at the wrong time.
Sometimes meeting someone at the wrong time builds a stronger relationship. If your just building a friendship first with no extra activity.
I say this because if they are willing to stick around at the wrong time. I believe things will work out better than meeting someone at the right time. I been there done that in many situations and I learned the hard way in some situations.
The guy I just started dating, used to be my coworker. We've discussed dating before but decided against it because at the time we worked together. We decided to remain good friends though. He turned in his two weeks notice last month, told me that he always liked me, and he asked out on a date a few days after he quit. We've been seeing each other since then. At the time when we decided against dating, I remember thinking he was the right person but wrong time. Now, I feel if it's truly the right person but wrong time, those feelings will never go away.
Yes, but I also believe if you really feel they’re right for you and want to marry them, you’ll make that happen. It can be the wrong time but the wrong time also means lack of effort.
Generally I feel like people use this, but what they mean is “I want to date others to reallyy see if you’re as ‘right’ for me as you seem”. Aka they’re not fully invested. I would never start a serious relationship with someone unless I see a future. A lot of people are the same in this, but sometimes they’re just not ready for the future.
Yea that was true past 2 year ago I was looking for some one on social media at that time a girl come in my life or we are in relationship a long distance relationship after that when I was started meet regularly I was found that she was not mature due to her stupidity I had breakup now.. after six months later X was stated talking with me as a just a friend or just a week later the girl was also close me now I have to take both I can't say no to my girlfriend or can't propose the another girl 😣
I'm not sure. I've heard the "i would go out with you but i'm already kind of seeing someone". a lot. First what is kind of seeing someone? Either you are or you aren't. But either i have the worst timing in the world. Or this is a bullshit line women use because they don't have the guts to tell you the truth. " i find you repulsive and i'm not interested" lol.
Despite this, yes i do believe bad timing exists. But if someone was truly that interested they would look you up if and when their current relationship ended now wouldn't they.
No, it's a legitimate reason. Unless they're lying.
@Jamie05rhs did you read the end of my post? I acknowledged it happens.
I did. Sorry if I was being redundant.
@Jamie05rhs nah you're fine man.
I've had this happen. He fell very fast in love and said he could never love anyone else ever but I had lots of studies and finals to study for and he was in a very different stage in life a few years older than me. He wasn't okay with being patient really. When we met again a few months later he had already moved on. Wrong time but also wrong person probably.
I think if someone is right you don't meet at the wrong time and if you do you become friends, and then at a time when everything's in the right place it just happens and you're together because if someone is so right for you I think its difficult to drift apart entirely because you gotta be in each others lives, you'll work something out even if at the time its just friendship. Just my two cents from my experience so far in life.
Well, there are two possible answers to this question. If it's the wrong time and you reject them, then, at the end of the day, that means they were the wrong person. But if it's the wrong time but you wait for them, then that means they are ultimately the right person. But Option 2 requires some sort of mutual agreement.
@anniisa Yeah, but the point is getting to know them while you wait. So you can figure out if they're wrong before you even start dating them. You can avoid a lot of things. (Still, I'm personally fine with going ahead and dating someone even if you're not ready yet. It's just a slower process. Heck, I'm not even ready myself but I'm still down to date. What can it hurt?)
@anniisa I'm aware.
Absolutely. As an example there are a lot of people with good qualities who I'd want to befriend but were/are immature and we didn't get along till later after they matured. Same way with myself. There are a lot of people who would wanna be my friend when I'm perhaps a more mature and fulfilled person. The right person can come into your life at the wrong time but if they came at a different time it'd be better.
When you are young, or at a different stages in life, sure.
Like when you are yet to forge your own path because you are still in high school/college and reliant on parental support and approval.
I think dating isn't even worth it until you become independent and capable of cutting off your relatives, if necessary.
I hope that the phrase "right person wrong time" is true. I have recently heard that phrase from a friend of mine. She is in a worst relationship but she don't even want to live him and has been trapped in his love. She thinks that if she leave him she will be called as a slut so trying to save the relationship which doesn't have any future. We are friends after the relationship began and she had said twice to thrice that we should have met before they they were together so that the scenario could have different. She always said you are the right person met at wrong time.
I can't link with what you just said, can you elaborate for me?
Yes there is. Consider you're about to leave the country for education something. Few months before you're going to leave, you meet someone, hit it off in the first meeting, both of you like talking to each other, meet a dozen of times or more. And then you gotta leave everything behind. So yes that does happen and does very much exist.
To a certain extent, I do believe there is such thing as right person, wrong time, but as time goes on, you might come to realise that the person was never right, it may seem right for the moment but things would never have worked out. Just as you say, if it had been the right person, then it'll all work out in the end. So I'd say there's a change of perspective along the way.
I don't know. I guess it depends on how badly the both of you want to make it work. People who say "right person, just the wrong time" are too lazy to pursue it. If they really wanted it, it wouldn't be the wrong time.
What makes it the right or wrong time? You!
You choose what to do with the timing. If this was the right person, and you didn't go for it, you made it the wrong time. It's your choice to jump or not.
This is a question of what you are willing to sacrifice if you got it wrong, and what do you believe to be the right or wrong person? You may not be able to control the timing, however, you can always choose.
In these times and situations yes most defenetly i tought i met someone close to the one turns out it was a person only interested in booty calling or for partying etc you get the jist also not that above is defenetly what i wasn't looking for it was a nice ride but but not for me
Many people are the right one. Many choose not to be with the right person and go off with the wrong person, known that they are the wrong person but it’s exciting and fun Right? Later they complain when it don’t work out. Seems familiar huh? Then they leave saying that that wrong person ain’t shit. Remember YOU picked them and kicked the good one to the curb😳later on NOW your ready for the good guy. At this point the WALL has smashed you in the face and now you have 3 kids but 3 different baby daddies and severely obese. Now you want the good guy to except you as you are and to pay full price for something you have way for free to chad and Tyrone? not going to happen, just saying🤷🏽♂️
I believe in right persoon wrong time u know u 2 are really good for each other and haveing An amazing time but u can't be together because of personal stuff u have to deal with An by that time u might not be together and dont speak but if u cross paths in the filter and click again to get in a relationship
The right person is only right for you when both of you are in the same stage of life. You can find the woman/man of your dreams but if he doesn't want to commit, and you do, he isn't right for you.
I believe that if you meet a person at the wrong time then he's not the right one. Everything will fall into place in due time and you wouldn't have to force anything.
If it's the wrong time it's the wrong person. it would be careless to assume the right person always comes. Many come hiding their bad intentions. I've seen a lot of things. Bad and good. . . Also, you must be objective, you could be the wrong person in their wrong time.
yes, I feel there is a Right Person, Wrong Time scenario out there.
Things in Life get in the way and some where down the road, Life and Karma agree on stuff and then that person is the Right Person at the Right Time.
I think that if someone came across the right person, they would make time for them and find some way to fit the person into their life no matter what other things they had going on.
Honestly it's a matter of personal opinion, if it were the right person but you weren't ready or weren't willing to date them it technically means they're the wrong person. But again, as others have stated, if you waited for the person or waited for each other it's not that it was the wrong time, it's that it took time for you to decide that it was time to pursue a relationship.
Yes... I am afraid that this sentence is true.
About a year ago I was for a job in Switzerland. Going out with a friend of mine in the evening I met a girl. It was like love at first sight - I tell you guys! She told me that she had feelings for me as well. This scared me... I did not get the job instead I got a job offer 750 kilometers away from her... I already experienced a long distance relationship and the struggle was too big to handle.
That's why I had to break it off with this wonderful woman. It still stings in my heart when I think about her.
At the moment we have little contact and text from time to time. But she found someone else and is now happy in this relationship.. I guess so... this saddens me
I acted like a real dick just to push her away. I still believe that she would be the one. And to be frank, I still have the hope that our ways will cross again. She changed my life and I am such a douchebag for letting her go...
Im applying to go study abroad. Eventually I'll be gone. I met a girl not long ago and she liked me just as I liked her but because of my situation she decided to save the heartbreak that's coming and stop before going too deep.
Essentially right person wrong time
My opinion is more in line with @standingUP opinion.
If life has taught me anything is that there isn't a right person wrong time there is the right person and the wrong person. If he or she is the right person and the time isn't right then if they were truly the right person then when the right time comes around you'll find one another again or get together. That's how it was for my parents.
Sure I met a woman that I might have perused a relationship with once but we were separated in time she was probably in her 70's. If I could have met her at a much younger age I might have gotten involved with her.
I don't believe in it. Maybe you find some awesome person in your life, but your life is not just equal to when you found that person. People evolve, and is normal. Or, even worse, sometimes they just don't want to actually do it. It's maybe pessimistic of my part, but love cannot be just made of time or place. Sometimes, it's just don't work and it's OK.
If it's the wrong time you usually never find out if it's the right person or not. But it's certainly a lost opportunity to find out.
Yes. Sometimes you're born too late for someone and sometimes you don't give the right person a chance because your head is full of stereotypes.
If they come at the wrong time, then they are the wrong person. I'm also a firm believer that people who try to force their relationships to work are assholes though.
i'm not sure all the events are celestially related to destiny... kinda like a fuggin game of UNO... you can plan and count your chickens, but all you can do... is play the card you CAN play at the time
Yes I believe that! It's happen a few times and I feel pissed off when it does.. but I got to keep believing that if its meant to be, it will be!
She was the right person but definitely the wrong time... bout caught a charge!!! Oh shut up I'm just playing if she's the right one there will never be a wrong time... unless.. you know
Yes of course you can meet the right person at the wrong time I've been in this situation more then once in my life and I've regretted not chucking the situation in favor of the right person
Yes and no. I think the timing can be bad for sure, but the right person also might wait and stick around also if the interest is strong enough and genuine.
I do not subscribe to the notion that there is a "one". Whilst married, I met several women I could have loved, had I been free. So the "wrong time" is certainly true.
What is interesting is how being in a partnership seems to drag other women out of the woodwork.
I used to think that maybe... yet with time I've realized the right person will be at the right time.
Nope.. we meet the person for a reason we dont even know until when and how will it work and u have to get to know each other. and what both of you willing to sacrfice, you'll know whats right and wrong it takes time to get to know people.. and waiting for a right u just miss life a lot of chances or opportunities to meet people that maybe not right for u but u learn from it that helps u build up as a person that when the right comes your also the ready and right
I believe so. And yet everything happens for a reason.
Only when the person prioritizes other things over their relationship. A job, a divorce, etc, it means nothing if you prioritize the relationship. But you shouldn’t for yourself to do it tho.
There is, if the right person approaches when you need space from some reason for example. After a breakup or when in grief, but the person doesn't know that.
Regretfully yes,
Like when you meet someone that's so good for you but your current situation makes it hard to be successful, that's who ugly it can be..
That's *how ugly it can be
I do not believe in a right person and I believe that Everytime you are not willing to settle down is a bad time... There definitely are wrong people though.
I believe that we can meet the right person at the wrong time
Sure, someone could be a good fit for you but you meet at a time where the two people can't be together.
I think so, the girl I dated recently. Things were going amazing and then when things started to slip away, I started to think the same thing "I met you at the wrong time"
Yea, it has happened to me over and over again. Sometimes I'm with someone I think I love then someone else approaches you but you can't cuz you're with, but when she leaves
I don’t think so
We meet people in life for a reason
I believe so but that's where my stubborn streak kicks in because I refuse to give up if I can see a future with them.
I hope so but it's hard to say whether that be the case
Yes and no. Someone could be right for you but if the time is wrong they aren't right, you know?
Yeah, I say something very quickly at home to stop their talk in couple of seconds after I loose patience...
But my bad luck, after that work I have to hear their talk for couple of minutes...
Everything happens for a reason and some people come into your life as a life lesson not to stay
If they are the right person they will always somehow make it back to you
I think it's possible but it's entirely dependent on the situation and person
Im also a believer of that just met the love of my life just not the right time right now
Im waiting till it can be the right time unfortunately for me its gonna be a while
You can also add your opinion below!
Girl's Behavior 
Guy's Behavior 
Flirting 
Dating 
Relationships 
Fashion & Beauty 
Health & Fitness 
Marriage & Weddings 
Shopping & Gifts 
Technology & Internet 
Break Up & Divorce 
Education & Career 
Entertainment & Arts 
Family & Friends 
Food & Beverage 
Hobbies & Leisure 
Other 
Religion & Spirituality 
Society & Politics 
Sports 
Travel 
Trending & News 
Most Helpful Opinions