Why does it feel like I am just a sex object to my boyfriend?

[Jayjay26]

Whenever I’m not in the mood and I tell him that he gets all mad at me and starts getting depressed. We had a talk about this before, well it was him telling me that me not wanting sex makes him feel like I don’t love him anymore, which isn’t the case. So I felt bad and I’m a giving person so I said I’ll try to give him more sex. But sex is feeling like a chore now. It’s not fun at all and he goes way too hard for my liking. But this is where I’m getting at for my question. I try to tell him that my chest area is sore please don’t touch them and he said he doesn’t care. He also did this with sex positions that go way too deep for me because his thing is on the bigger side and sometimes it’s too much but he doesn’t listen. I just feel like I’m a sex object to him. He only cuddles for sex and nothing else. I’m tired of giving up my body to please him when I am not happy. Plus an added note: he also said, when he tried to have a conversation with me, that he doesn’t understand why I wouldn’t want apex when there are plenty of girls who would want big white dick. See now I just feel horrible and insecure. I am starting to hate myself because I feel like I’m not a person he loved anymore. I feel like he only loves me when I’m naked in front of him.

[VIVANT]

It’s one thing to DECIDE Try to have sex More often as a nice gesture. There is nothing nice about letting him doing whatever the hell he wants. You should treat yourself AT LEAST as well as you treat him if not better. Once someone doesn’t respect your boundaries cut them off.

It wasn’t an accident. Saying I don’t care isn’t an accident. If he doesn’t care why are you going out of your way For him?

it is good and strong to _choose_ to be caring to those who deserve it. This is not what is happening.. this is as if you feel you have no choice. That’s emotional blackmail. It isn’t you being caring at all. It’s him manipulating you into doing whatever he wants as if it has anything to do with compassion.

get out.

and I’m not trying to come down on you I’m trying to be very clear. There is NOTHING good in this relationship for you and he sounds like a potential rapists. LEAVE HIM. You can do 💯 better. I mean it.

You absolutely can. you can get a guy who is wayyyyyy a nice him. While being single is better this this d*ck head. You can still get a good guy. He’s not will never he and probably necer was. I’m like literally suck reading this. I haven’t felt like punching anyone today till now. Not you, him.

Take Care. 💜💜

[Jayjay26]

You are right, I always tend to treat people better than myself... if I left him it would be hard because we both moved in together recently and he would have no were to go because he moved all the way to Florida for me...

[VIVANT]

You know what he had a choice to worry about your well being he didn’t.. That is his problem. Really. I’m someone who really likes to think the brat of people second chances all that.. but he’s WAY over the line here way over.

[btbc92]

Because of the approach women for sex. And you willingly gave up your rights for sex to be his girlfriend. He is not entitled to sex. But you give it to him anyway. That's why premarital sex is a sin. Do you think he cares? Nope. Even guys who do care will not understand the difference because you don't show them the difference. All you do is give. This is flat out rape. This is why women have to put their foot down. You give and give, and they take and take.

[chriscdi]

well seems like you are for him, i think you are going out with the wrong person, if he cared, he wouldve cared about your feelings too, this makes him look like a selfish turd, i know you love him but im not sure he does back, i think you know what you might have yo do here, "he doesn't care" thats fucked up, maybe next time you deny and he gets all depressed and shit and he feels like you dont love him anymore, you throw the same medicine right back at him, you dont care

[Nature_Enthusiast]

I believe he is using you for sex, and to be honest I would put my foot down. Be assertive and express that you are an emotional human too. Either he treats you better or break up the relationship. It doesn't matter how long you have been with him, his treating you seems rude and unappreciative of what else you can offer emotionally to him.

[Zarapeachy]

Honey, if you do not feel comfortable and everything is draining, leave him and his self absorbed ass. If other girls will like his “big white dick” you don’t need to be like those other girls. Respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that hampers your growth as an individual... and then. Tell him where to shove his dick...

[potatoiswhoiam]

He doesn't give a shit about you. Move on before it gets worse because he really doesn't care if he's hurting you or not. Why it feels like you're a sex object to him is because he really treats you like one and most likely thinks of you like one. Dump him, you deserve better treatment

[VanityFair748]

you feel like this cause you actually are a sex object to him. Dump his ass, he obviously doesn't love you and doesn't give a shit about you and your feelings.

[Konabeana]

Firstly, I’m really sorry you are going through that. Nobody should feel like an object to anyone. He is making you unhappy and I think it would be best if you left him. He isn’t going to change and props to you for recognizing that early before it turned into sexual assault. Find another place to live at if you are living with him. If he asks questions, you do not need to give him any answers. Shame on him.

[Anonymous]

Sweetie, you need to leave. He is clearly using you for sex. A lot of white men secretly have fantasies about having sex with black girls and I think this is just a wave for him, and once he’s had enough he’s going to leave you high and dry. You seem like a very sweet girl. You know there’s plenty of men out there that will listen and respect your wishes. Good luck.

[RandD4Ever]

since you already talked to him about it and he's still not listening dump him that's all you can do

[OddBeMe]

He’s immature. I get that way too and then remember how to turn my wife on.

[Cryptic-Game]

Many men just don't see women as more than sex objects.

[Gedaria]

He is still playing you. What you do is up to you.

[Anonymous]

You need to have a little chat with that guy.

[Anonymous]

because he’s a jerk and it’s true

[Jmmmfi4]

Well that's why most guys keep girls around