Why are people normalizing open relationships?

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So apparently Jada & Will had an open relationship so it was "completely okay" for Jada to take advantage of August, have sex with him, and throw it in Will's face. Very interesting.

Like if you want to be in an open relationship, why not be single? 🙄#wasteoftime

Why are people normalizing open relationships?

hellionthesagereborn · Accepted Answer

Because their goal is the destruction of society (even if they don't realize it). What creates a society is several things, one of which is male overproduction of goods (we through out history were more capable of producing more, this originaly meant farming and building so we literally built civilization and produced the food to maintain it because we could make more then we consumed (this holds true today, if we look at taxes women consume more in taxes then they put in, men on the other hand put more into the system then they take out, specifically men pay based upon one study done 200x more in taxes then women do. 80% of domestic spending in the US (and 70% globally) is done by women yet women only account for about 30% of earnings i. e. they spend their money and the mans money too hence male over production).

The second is marriage. Now the reason why this matters is because a man will not overproduce on his own, he has absolutely no reason to do so (and statistics show this as single women or women who never marry significantly out earn single men and men who have never married however married men out earn all other groups by a substantial margin). By him being married he now has some one who he needs to provide for, the woman, and in return she provides him exclusive reproductive rights to her womb. What this does is give the man a reason to work as hard as he does, to provide for her and the offspring, to protect both of them, and it also ties him to the society and the future since prior to that whether the society burned or not had no real impact on him as he was more then capable of surviving on his own but now with a child he has a vested interest in making sure that society survived and flourished for the benefit of his offspring.

Now what does this have to do with open relationships? Well everything. With "open relationships" what they are doing is saying to focus their efforts onto sex, onto decadence, onto self. This takes away from what the child has. That is a child is put into a less stable enviroment which negatively impacts them. It takes away from the mans need to provide and protect because now he no longer has exclusive rights to her, it removes incentives on her to provide her reproductive potential to him because obviously you cannot do that with a "open relationship". This causes the complete collapse of the family unit, again the linchpin for all of society to stand on. He has no real connection to the future because the focus isn't on producing for society and family its on personal pleasure, he has no connection to her because their is no exclusive reproductive rights, so it all falls apart.

This is why socialist push the destruction of the family unit, why they pushed for "free love" and casual sex, why every socialist group from feminists to BLM all oppose the nuclear family because its the only way to collapse a civilization and then, their goal is to rebuild the society as they think it should be built (to the detriment of all people themselves included (but zealots don't realize this and end up being the first to be taken out by the new regime).

This is why this is normalized, it destroys society, it takes parents out of the home and puts the raising of children into the care of the state allowing them to indoctrinate them (hence the push for women to work. Work has never been glamorous, long work weeks doing meanial tasks is never fun yet that is precisely what our system suggests it is. This meant that children were raised by the state (in the case of the US our educational system) rather then parents so the state was instilling the values rather then the parents and thus they could homogenize the ideological beliefs of a generation (and as we can see now they were largely sucessful in this).

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Welcome to the era of trash where people throw out morals and ethics out the window and love doesn’t exist, what a time to be alive trying to seek true love. Pft yea right.

19magic · Accepted Answer

I don't know about this situation but open relationships aren't a free for all kind of thing, in a normal relationship you'd talk about who's going to be added if anyone. The couple will also be very secure in their relationship before embarking on this next step. It might also fill a need like I've talked to this couple before who were in an open relationship and they explained to me that she can't stand anal, and so once a week/every other week he gets his fill, he still loves her very much, she knows where he is, as in building, is not doing it behind her back and it's not like he is doing for anything else. It can also be a sense of adventure having a third partner to mix things up a little. A lot of people seem to view open relationships as a way for people to cheat when it's not normally like that, like guy comited and girl whores around vise Versa, it's normally for a very solid relationship, hell a lot of times there's watching on both sides of their partner being with another

Personally I don't think I could be in a open relationship quite like that, I have however had fantasies of being in a swinger situation mayhap in my forties, but again I would have to have been with him for years and trust him with every fibre of my being before doing something like that together.

ragequeen · Accepted Answer

Open relationships are for insecure lovers. They love each other but are both afraid to be cheated on. The solution? Seem more desirable to your partner and agree to both be free to sleep around. Those relationships are very short-lived though, because if you really care about each other, jealousy will take over rather quickly. To me, open relationships are strange. Either be friends with benefits (no emotional connection but sexual connection), a one night stand or true lovers. There is no in between in my opinion. True love and companionship is full and complete devotion to another person. Anything else cannot be considered a real romantic relationship.

HollyK21 · Answer

Honestly, if that’s what works for them then that is what we should respect. The situation between her and August was never meant to be publicized, he forced her hand when he decided to spill the beans. That red table talk would never have happened otherwise. What’s being normalized is respecting what works for couples within their relationships. Who are we to judge them over a situation that was never for us to know? Open relationships aren’t your thing? Cool. It’s not for millions of others, including myself. But that should be the end of it. There are much bigger issues happening in this world.

MountAverage · Answer

Because it's the right thing to do. Some people prefer traditional, monogamous relationships, other people prefer open ones (of which there are countless varieties, every relationship is unique!). Both are entirely legitimate conceptsand people should be free to choose whatever suits them best, without having to be shamed and judged for no reason other than that they are breaking traditions.
To answer your question of why not be single instead of in an open relationship - because and open relationship IS a relationship. With love, companionship, mutual plans, living your life together, and being committed (yes, commitment is more than just about sex). I've been in an open relationship before, my current one is not but it might be some time in the future. I also know plenty of people who are or have been in open relationships before, so I can tell you these things from lots of experience:
1) Open relationships are no less or more committed than non-open ones.
2) Every open relationship is different, just like every non-open relationship is different. People have a lot of assumptions and think an open relationship is one specific thing. You do not know what exactly is "open" in a given relationship.
3) Open relationships are NOT the same thing as polyamorous relationships. The latter are relationships where there's more than two partners - like a relationship between three or four people, in whatever constellation. While this is something I'd personally not want, it's also totally fine if it works for other people! Open relationships on the other hand are between two partners, the only difference is that they give each other some kind of freedom in regards to sexual and/or romantic encounters. What exactly those freedoms are, varies from open relationship to open relationship (see nr. 2).
4) An open relationship is NOT an "excuse to cheat". Here's the thing - you can still cheat in an open relationship. Cheating is doing something against what you and your partner agreed on in regards to your sexual and romantic life. Every relationship has its own set of "rules".
5) Open relationships require A LOT of communication. Every relationship does, but open ones even more so. Because you have to talk about these rules very openly and specifically. So, a functioning open relationship is probably on average the healthiest one, because it includes a lot of open communication. Traditional relationships more often than not fail at this crucial point - people just don't communicate properly with their partners.

People need to stop acting like monogamous relationships are the one and only way to go. Because the reality of things is that the vast majority of relationships don't last. People don't communicate, they're frustrated, they cheat. Alternative relationship concepts could save a lot of people's relationships. But the only thing that matters is that people should be free to choose whatever works best for them and their partner. And all of these concepts are legitimate. That's why normalizing open relationships is absolutely the right thing to do.

crmoore · Answer

As someone who is pretty strictly monogamous, I don't see an issue with open relationships. I don't consider them to be the same thing as being single except with a different label. Though I do respect your opinion.

There are a few different types of open relationships. The first being that you are in a more traditional relationship with one person, but are allowed to have sexual or romantic flings with others, these flings never really amounting to a proper relationship by themselves, some of these people not actually even wanting to have a second proper relationship because they only desire that with the one they're properly with. The second type is one without having romantic or sexual flings, and instead having several peoper relationships.

As you can see, in the first type, it's not like being single because you actually have that strong, traditional relationship with someone. And in the second type, you have several strong, traditional relationships. Neither of these reflect being single as being single doesn't have strong relationships, being single just has a bunch of flings and fuck buddies. Now, that's not to say there aren't people who are in "open relationships" which are practically single, but what I'm saying is there are some, if not plenty, of legitimate open relationships that in my opinion shouldn't be diluted into being regarded as an embellishment of being single.

Anonymous · Answer

Because today's standards are slipping into the gutter. In many aspects. Celebrities change partners often so sheep that can't think for themselves - the same sheep who emulate clothing, etc. - follow suit.
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But I'm an attractive young woman with a successful job, good personality, etc. in my 30s. I've no interest in guys my age bracket. Older only. Most guys my age, particularly if they didn't grow up in structured households (e. g. military, country lifestyle, religious, etc.), are more like boys in adult bodies than actual grown ups. They lack responsibility in that as long as it's easy then they're fine but when the going gets tough they run away faster than a field mouse. Makes them unappealingly unreliable.

But that leads to cheating & open relationships are just another word for cheating. Only the doormat spouse / girlfriend / boyfriend tries to soften reality/the blow by making it seem like it's agreeable (an "open relationship") to them too. Makes them utterly pathetic.

Lynx122 · Answer

This is the world we live in now, committing to someone has become a foolish thing to do. Most women are promiscuous, even if a guy wants a relationship it's usually not worth it. Women decide how the dating world looks they have the power of choice who they want to bang and men just adapt to it.

Women wanted to fuck around and now it has happened, congrats. Men have acepted that every woman has like 50 other guys in her phone ready to jump in. They've accepted it's just their turn and no woman is really committed to them so they just take the fun they can get and move on.

Anonymous · Answer

I dunno to me a relationship is more than just sex, and sex can be shared as long as you are both all about it. Sexual exclusivity is an interesting concept but being disgusted by open relationships is rooted in religious dogma. Let consenting adults be consenting adults... I hate how people say "why don't you just be single then?" Because a relationship is more than just sex, and the fact that monogamous people can't comprehend that at all is really annoying, and makes me feel like they are really unevolved, thinking a relationship is ownership over ones genitals is just wrong. I am in a great monogamous relationship but I can definitely understand open ones and I was in one for 7 years...

It is being normalized because we are becoming more understanding, more open, we are more sexually expressive, it's not considered dirty or wrong so much any more (religion did that too), and people have more freedom over their lives, women are working too so they don't need to be financially supported, having less kids so they have more time to take for themselves.

NamerOfStars · Answer

I think that most of them want the benefits of being in a relationship with the benefits of being able to sleep around. They think that because they can handle it intellectually, they can handle it emotionally, only to find out that humans don't work that way. That we can be more than upright chimpanzees doesn't mean that we're not animals. I, for one, say that people should be able to set the terms of the relationships they have, but you have to reap what you sow.

I also think it's unfortunate that so much media attention is being thrown on this matter; this is something they should be left alone to resolve themselves. I guess that's the price of fame, but I wouldn't want my relationship problems flung into the public eye.

G3tAClue · Answer

I’m not against open relationships but I live in the PNW where open relationships are popular and many folks I know have tried open relationships and all they have to say is that is too much work. I believe I have also seen many couples try and give up because it’s too much work and not for them. I guess it might work if you have high energy levels and sexy drive, but why in he first place?

If you wanna fuck everything that moves, don’t enter a relationship first. I don’t know many people who are still together after that.

MCheetah · Answer

Because Millennials (and millennial-minded older people, like these two) are often garbage, narcissistic, and extremely entitled people. I know this isn't a very diplomatic, "open-minded" answer, but I seriously hate polyamory.

In my opinion, it's just cheating for immature selfish people who can't admit they aren't right for relationships, or grow up. And no, it isn't just "people just living their own lives however they want" when they involve others in it, and generally f*ck up the dating world for people actually looking for love and companionship, who have to deal with this trash on top of the needle-in-a-haystack of finding the right 'one'.

Reaperbot666 · Answer

now that cheating and divorce rates in western culture. are often documented more these days. doing so could account for some of that factors. as to why the rates seem to be on the rise and more common.

however the rise of the internet, social media, online dating and portable phones. could also add to some of rise of rates with cheating and divorce.

since it is considerable easier to find someone new for a fling now. however also easier to be tracked and monitored.

because of this some people might opt for an open relationship instead. to have a small slice of happiness. rather then just being alone and miserable.

PonyCarGirl98 · Answer

I really don't understand it. It seems like a really transactional thing. Like, having the 'relationship' for means of 'financial security', keeping that person on the hook for whatever reason, etc., while seeking out other people to "meet their needs" that aren't being fulfilled..

I don't think that behavior should be normalized. We shouldn't look at celebrity couples and think anything they do is really normal. They aren't relatable at all to us - yes they breathe and bleed like we do, but that's it... they live a completely different life than us. I believe a lot of couples in the celebrity cult do what these two are doing.

Barbaric · Answer

Where do people get the idea that they have an open relationship from? I think that's just an assumption people are making. If they had an open relationship why would Jada having sex with August be an issue?

Also, do people really think that she "took advantage" of August? Really? You think all of that bullshit about her "wanting to heal him" and to "heal herself" and how her jumping on his dick was a "journey" is anything more than her trying to justify having sex with him just because she wanted to?

BlueScorpio · Answer

Cause they're not commitment minded and want to keep one leg out/exit door open so if they find someone else they want to get involved with they can use the "we're in a open relationship" argument. It's basically two people wasting each others time and agreeing to cheat on each other.. which is stupid. If your're not ready for a relationship/marriage, then just stay single. It kills me when people get upset about their s. o sleeping with someone else but agreed to this kind of foolishness, you have no one to be upset with but yourself for bringing that into your relationship.

Derekk · Answer

Sounds like you're a bit threatened and insecure about the fact that people will accept lifestyles that you're psychologically unable to accept for yourself. You're afraid of people doing things that you can't, because you know that if people can tolerate the downside of it, everyone will prefer it. Here's something to chew on: the men and women in my life who have been most sexually possessive have been the most primitive, shallow, naive, and backwards people I've met. If you value sex to the point that your relationship is built around it and it defines your relationship, you should rethink the value of your pussy or penis.

_SOARER · Answer

This is terrible tbh
Open relationships are a terrible idea.
They should be shunned and shamed. It's the only way to make it culturally unacceptable
One partners isn't going to be ok with it. Any self respecting person woudlnt be ok with it.

It's mostly women nowadays suggesting that shit 😂 only Simps would put up with it.

btbc92 · Answer

Once people started normalizing premarital sex, twisting the Bible, have dealt with religious abuse, etc, everything went out the door. It will just get worse.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Open relationships are dumb af. I've always liked August and Will but i dont feel sorry for any of the 3. August knew she was married regardless of if she temporarily broke up with her husband. Like tf kinda shit... they all were in the wrong and i pity none.

errorgoodnameunfound · Answer

Not a huge fan of cheating, but if they agreed beforehand to an open relationship, Jada technically has the upper hand and if Will knew it was an open relationship and that she cheated, he in turn should have done the same, in order to even it out. If not, well, it was an open one, meaning both at anytime can have interest in others, so both benefited from it, even if one took perhaps a bit much advantage of it. But the key is that commitment is not as mandatory so none of them would feel too much pressure to constantly make one another happy. Regardless, I think Will Smith and the rest of us should perhaps consider what he once was and what he stood for supposedly. It's a confusing situation, but all drama could have been avoided, had he kept his own words as important.

TheSimonymous · Answer

I don't know to be honest, but poly-relationships seem to become more popular nowadays. It's mainly because of hypergamy and because the people don't choose their partner based on the fact whether they want to spend the rest of their life with him/her anymore...

TruthBringer · Answer

Welcome to the sexually liberated west intoxicated by the feminazis who are "empowering" women. People normalizing open relationships is the byproduct of failed family units and proper guidance. The more I see shit like what happened to Will Smith, the more I understand the conservative eastern world.

modelUN242 · Answer

Because our culture is degenerate, soon having drunken orgies in public will be normalized 😂. People want to have their cake and eat it too but in reality, open marriages are destructive physically and mentally. You become void of meaning and you don’t see any reason to live anymore.

In_Trance · Answer

In earlier societies, humans were ploygamous. Why it changed to monogamous as we evolved is anyone's guess. I'm not gonna claim to be an expert on the subject, but from what I've seen so far, monogamy was instilled on the instance of the church. A segregation tactic; a control tactic. If you look at the animal kingdom, we're the only species that has embraced monogamy. All others have survived and continue to do so without it. It is a mad made concept. It is widely accepted as "normal" now, however it wasn't always this way.

ChaoticHatred · Answer

I say let people be themselves. If they find open relationships to be fair and fine then let them. I'm assuming they find it okay because both parties consent and can have the free will and judgement to go along with it, and it proves to the other person that they won't leave them and trust them enough with literally anyone. It's a trust bond. Although personally, it's a trust bond I don't want lol. I prefer 1 on 1 relationships, because why fuck other people and get freaky with them, when all you need is one person to do all your freaky stuff with, and other fun adventures with?

Daniel3035 · Answer

Nobodies "normalising" anything here because this is normal. Look at the animal kingdom do animals just mate with one female and that's it nope they go around with multiple females sometimes daily. Why? Because that is normal you can have sex with other people even if in another relationship if she consents despite being with someone that's their problem you can't say this new person has no role in their relationship and then go backwards and say that you're having sex with her you're invading the relationship it's just hypocritical.

firaskr · Answer

Why do you call it a relationship if it is like this. I mean it like this (it is a pencil so you write with it but you chose to kill people with it and now you want to change the definition of a pencil ) I think we are listening to the wrong people and following the wrong people.

Sophie_2301 · Answer

I agree. I think there are quite a lot of toxic things that are becoming normalised and accepted in relationships nowadays. Like open relationships, cheating, porn. None of this stuff sounds like a loving committed relationship to me.

Anonymous · Answer

Its part of the agenda. They want us to normalize stuff like open relationships, promiscuitive behaviour, trans, etc...

Please have morals and stay close to God and protect yourself. I know this may sound stupid but be safe, there are so many bad influenced out there who enjoy destroying you.
stay teuw to yourself and believe in God and the good.

MotorcycleMan · Answer

Sounds like what Jada and Will have is just messed up. The advantages of an open relationship is that both have the freedom to be free and explore, but you still have your partner who there is more commitment to. If you look at divorce rates, you can see that humans are not inherently monogamous, so I don't understand why we try to be, but it's definitely not for everyone.

KeziL · Answer

open relationships are just a way to degrade yourself in hopes of talking your partner into staying with you even though they don't really want you anymore. A desperate attempt to keep them when they're already gone. Not good.

AzureGirl · Answer

Open relationships work for some, though not all. Such things need a lot more communication and trust than a closed relationship. I hadn’t read anything about the Will/Jada situation until a small dig right now and apparently they were having a break in their marriage. So it wasn’t an open relationship.

As far as open relationships being normalized, they’ve always been around in one capacity or another. It’s nothing really new.

richardsnarky · Answer

No, have no idea. Maybe I don’t know enough about this topic, but I do know that I am a very monogamous person and that it would never work with me. However, I not going to judge those in that sort of arrangement. Different things work for different relationships.

Dchrls78104 · Answer

Folly, wickedness, total irresponsibility, lack of judgement. I agree with your stance on open relationships; they are immoral, self-defeating, and tantamount to cheating.

Broken_doll · Answer

It is a waste of time. I imagine if you're constantly looking for new lovers, you will eventually find someone you like better.
I think people in these relationships just don't like to be alone or have infidelity problems to begin with.

1Anon · Answer

It is normal for some people though and there’s nothing wrong with it. If it works for the couple and they’re open and honest about it with the people they’re doing whatever with and they’re okay with it then there should be no problems or discrimination.

Astarlessnightsky · Answer

Open relationship can be normal if everyone is on the same page from the beginning.  What happens in people's bedroom is up to them unless they break the law.

sheikalana · Answer

It wasn't completely fine you could see on Will's face how hurt he still is so don't say it was completely fine. Also I wouldn't consider this an open relationship I remember them saying multiple times we were done with each other and we never thought we would get back together. As per what I understood they split for a while, Jada fucked August, Will knew about it and then they got back together, that's not an open relationship.

jestergent · Answer

Open relationships are maybe.. interesting to someone who wants someone there always. Like a security. I don't understand it myself.

If they want that and are open about it that's fine. I've rejected the few opportunities and maybe they find people into it. I won't stop them if thats what they seek. Just stay open and upfront about it else get the judge 🔨

COMMODOREII · Answer

I agree with you on this. I wouldn't want an open relationship.

AdithyaR · Answer

Being single and being in an open relationship is different in certain ways.
If that's what a couple wants to do, let them. Whatever keeps their clock ticking.
It's none of business what other couples choose to do with their relationship, as long as it's what they want or they're happy it doesn't matter to me. Actually doesn't matter to me anyways.

esotericstory · Answer

People aren't mature enough for commitment but they need emotional connections like children. its crazy.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes I agree. I would NEVER be in an open relationship. Despicable... Find someone that makes you happy, and be loyal to them.

Liam_Hayden · Answer

It is really just part of the push to indoctrinate society to all sorts of degeneracy, which will inevitably lead to a collapse of the nation - exactly what the Marxists want.

Can_I_Get_a_Do-Over · Answer

If the people in an open relationship are okay with it, why does it matter to you? Historically, cheating is “normal” behavior, and it looks like it’s going to continue to be normal. If you are mature and self-assured, there’s no reason to be jealous. It’s too needy.
—> You can’t keep someone who doesn’t want to be kept.
Be the best partner you can be and then let the relationship happen or not.
—> If someone rejects you, let them go. They are not part of your destiny.

Guanfei · Answer

Because we live in an era where people want to do whatever they want, without any limit. Doesn't matter what it costs, doesn't matter if it's legal, or if it hurts someone. Even being in couple with someone won't stop them.

makriks · Answer

I think it's the new trend, if you looked at the statistics of betrayals in relationship. You will be shocked - that's why people are trying to show that it's okay to do something interesting while you in relationship.

As for myself, I am against open-relationship

startingfitness · Answer

Because , despite more education, people today are dumber than at any point in history. At least in terms of social and emotional intelligence.

katiesmuff · Answer

I personally don't care one way or the other what others do, but would say I would not be interested in an open relationship.

Fuentes · Answer

Open Relationships are for weirdos and i think this has more to do with the Smith Family exposing Shane Dawson someone elses money maker so whoever threaten them they just exposed themselves and made money off it and Will is pretending it was ok

Paul09 · Answer

It's not "normal" (sheeps). But you can do what you want with your life. I don't see anything wrong if both agree on it. Love isn't for everyone either. Hey if you find a person you "love" for life, power to you. But there's a reason divorce Rate is high. You can't make everyone think the same way because you were breed to think that way lol

Marilynjuana · Answer

You have to realise that you don't know what actually happened. Matters with public figures are always sugarcoated because people who have nothing better to do and get bothered by other people's lives.

Smoke-n-Growls · Answer

Everyone's idea of good romance is different.

For some people, monogamy is the only way. For others, polyamory works. For more still, something in the middle works.

It all depends on what works for you and your partner (s).

Futron · Answer

To be honest, as long as theyre dating each other and leaving me out of it, im cool with it. If they can't be monogamous, its better for them to stick together than them being forced to be mono and end up cheating or miserable.

Mossberg500 · Answer

Degeneracy is the "new norm" in clown Zio world. Why? To breed immorality, and to demoralize men. But the joke is on them. Anyone who would participate was never a man, not in the masculine sense anyway.

genericname85 · Answer

cause people don't like being held accountable for being cheaters.

JimboGB · Answer

Part of me admires the fact they are keeping their family together- I just feel they are going about it the totally wrong way.

MrTaboo · Answer

Its normalizing cheating

Tonita91996 · Answer

Well it really isn't anybody's business and you dont know what be going on behind closed doors. I dont think anybody has room to talk about people. Because you probably been in toxic relationships before and didn't know what to do. Will probably cheated on her so many times that you dont know about people only pay attention when a woman does wrong just saying.

leftis25 · Answer

Because girls want to name it a relationship soo they won't look like a hoes

Ellie-V · Answer

It’s a choice that people make. Whether it fails or succeeds should not be our concern and we shouldn’t discourage them for going after something different from the norm.

Hannah591 · Answer

Why not?  Being in open relationships isn't hurting you or anyone else that isn't a part of them.  As long as all parties are consenting and comfortable with it, I say leave them to it.

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