Was I wrong to show up unannounced at my girlfriend's house?

[hikerunbeer]

One night I was at a niece's birthday party. I noticed my girlfriend had gone MIA with texting. I thought nothing of it so I went for a night run after the party. I got a strange feeling on the way home so I decided to drop by her house. I found her co-worker walking her to her house. i pulled up right as they kissed each other. She always said it was wrong that I dropped by that night. That it was creepy and since then was afraid I would show up randomly. Like WTF? Seriously? We were dating each other but were not boyfriend and girlfriend at the time. We had broken up but were still hanging out as usual. I still felt betrayed. Am I wrong to have felt that way? Wrong to have shown up?

[ineedatan]

No, definitely not wrong of you to have shown up and want to drop by if you were concern and had a suspicion as to why she went "MIA". Obviously now it seems to be known she was hiding something, which was why the excuses of it being "creepy" for dropping by was a reason she used on you.

Seems like the two of you had the established definition that "dating" meant that the two of you were free to see others prior to making things "official" with the two of you. If that was the case then I'm sorry bud, seems like her co-worker charmed her more - seeing that you mentioned you two had broken up.

[hikerunbeer]

The previous arrangement had been dating each other exclusively. I guess after the break-up that agreement went out the window.

Needless to say, we never discussed the arrangement after the break-up. That was my fault.

The "creepy" thing was totally an excuse though.

[PonyCarGirl98]

No, you weren't wrong to feel how you felt or show up.. she was cheating on you.. I'm sorry she did that to you, I understand your feeling of betrayal... and I really can't believe that you still talk to her & "hang out" after that. You should bump up your standards about who you keep in your life and around you. Or are you that desperate to have someone in bed with you even if they have 0 morals.

[PonyCarGirl98]

Sorry, I think I misunderstood the last part... to her, she probably understood that breaking up meant seeing other people. Guess she was moving on...

Anyway, no, you still were fine in showing up unannounced. You were concerned about her.

[extremelybored]

Honestly dude since you never made her your girlfriend yes. Casual dating is no ties involved so she wasn't doing anything wrong in this scenario, what you should have done is made her your girlfriend if you felt strongly about being together. However your best option at this point is to either make it exclusive with her or keep casually dating her and other women on the side.

[magiusX26]

you were not wrong. she is just upset you seen how much (little) she really cares for you.

[Cherokeehp]

First of all, it was definitely very creepy of you to show up. Second, she was not your girlfriend.

[Anonymous]

You were not wrong