What's your biggest regret in a past relationship?

Question

Youryeodongsaeng · Accepted Answer

For not making the first move or saying 'I love you're. I was 12 then, and I really wanted to say it, but my past boyfriends wouldn't probably mean it or say it back. They asked me to be their girlfriend because I was the only female tween in the class. They never told me that I looked beautiful, pretty or cute.

My first boyfriend was 17. He just wanted sex.

My second boyfriend only dated me because I was around his age. He was 15 and inches shorter than me. When there was a new student that I know, transfering to our school, he asked me if she was hot before the girl came to our school. He asked me if it would be ok for him to have me and her at the same time. The girl disagreed and he went out with her and dumped me. Basically, he dumped me for a girl who I hate.

My third boyfriend was my age, even though my birthday is before his. He was a different race than me unlike my two past boyfriends. He was a couple of inches shorter than me. He broke up with me. Obviously, I was his side-chick. He never failed to make me laugh, though...

What I regret most in my past relationships, is that I never should've gotten a lover in the first place. I did had a girlfriend in 2017. She was a year younger than me. Her mother found out about me dating her daughter - saw nudes I sent her after I refused to send them - reported me to the police as a sex offender - and moved away with her two daughters, two sons and husband. I do not know where she's at or how she's doing. Her mother took all of her connections that she had with me away.

MillieBrunette · Accepted Answer

Being completely loyal and devoted to someone who was your absolute world, only for 3 years to be for nothing when they move on in a matter of weeks into a new relationship.

jgokgotit · Accepted Answer

I do not regret anything about my 2nd relationship. It was good when it lasted, there when I needed it, taught me the lessons I needed and ended when it needed to and the breakup process was not drawn out. I feel mostly the same about my first relationship, but I do have one regret. When we first broke up, there was a chance for us to talk peacefully and to be cordial and maybe even friends after. We loved each other a lot and the relationship ended because her stepdad convinced her I was a bad guy. Basically it was him, not her, that ended it. My regret is that, out of sheer pain, I said and did some stupid things. Those things served to prove her stepdad right and we lost ALL contact. The reason I regret this is because my first love was the reason I decided to be something more than just a guy who loved fighting. She taught me what love really was and how to serve others. I just wish we could talk now so she could see the good her influence had on my life, even years later. I tried several times to reach out to her, both for closure and to show her I was not pure evil.

Bluemax · Accepted Answer

I once was in a relationship with someone I wasn't attracted to. Worst relationship mistake of my life. Moreover, she was very much into me. She was very hurt when things inevitably ended. Being affectionate with her became a chore; not something to look forward to at all. I hurt her and I hurt myself. I never did it again.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

How long it took to extract myself from that person, situation. Which I can't just blame on them, I had fault in that too. But better late than never lol

Flower7 · Answer

My biggest regret in one of my relationships is not ending it earlier. I was actually just thinking about this earlier today. With an ex who ended up being a cheater, I wish I would have stayed away from him the first time I got a hint of him being a player. But I ignored some of the signs. That's something I really regret. I wish I would have been able to dodge that bullet by listening to my instincts.

David92506 · Answer

I was in a relationship and she broke it off with me because the new guy was more generous financially than I was. I begged for her to take me back but she wouldn't. But I kept trying. She said I was a desperate fool and she was right.

My regret is that I kept on trying to get back together with her. I regret that I revealed my desperation to her.

Oigit · Answer

Dwelling in the past can and often will obscure ones path forward. You should never dwell in the past and never regret the past. Because you will be bringing yourself to a complete stop. Also never simply move pasty regrets. Because they can lead you to a new way forward, that you would have never find otherwise. So its best to work through a regret, so you can start looking for a path forward.

Bunny212 · Answer

I am in a really difficult situation with my present boyfriend, I don't even know if I should call him that. He is very hot and cold and I allowed it and let it slide in the very beginning despite not liking it and now I feel like he believes he can do anything and get away with it.

blutwolfe · Answer

staying in toxic/unloving relationships because I believed in loyalty and love, you don't realize the relationship is that bad because of rose tinted glasses, once it's over and time passed you realize then, experience is the best teacher sometimes and shows you what you value.

After my past relationships, loyalty and love are pretty much my only requirement for dating but that's finding a unicorn these days, I hear about them but never see them, but I'll hold out I suppose

HalfACharlie123 · Answer

My current relationship, not a past one. But i regret not having sex earlier. I was worried because of some very VERY upsetting sexual experienced beforehand that made sex a little scary for me again, but when we did it.. it was AMAZING. We instantly got closer and i only wish we started sooner. The only downside was she was limping home with me...

Lov2PlezUgurl · Answer

My biggest regret would be that I made meth, every time I made meth my girlfriend would fuck the first guy she saw and I made meth at least once a week why she didn't fuck me is a real good question that I never got an answer to but my shit was good, to good

Slartybartfast · Answer

If I could go back in time to the day I called my first girlfriend on the phone. I would shoot myself in the head
in fact I would empty the clip

my next biggest regret is still being here planing on fixing thatvsoon

In this misandrist society the best gift a new mother can give to her son is an abortion there is no place anymore for men but walking atm and dangerous labor

hikerunbeer · Answer

Ignoring RED FLAGS. Especially the little ones that you feel deep inside. The part of your soul that says i don't belong with this person.

Boundaries are very important in a relationship. I regret not being mature enough to have set some before i entered my last relationship.

Don't ignore your heart.

_SOARER · Answer

My biggest problem in my first relationship was not realizing what I had. And how precious it was.
I should have been more forgiving and more understanding

I walked away over one mistake she made. And now I think about her often. She was an amazing girl...

jestergent · Answer

Usually I have something. I'd say dating someone who could improve themselves. You want someone at their best so you know you are their first choice. Not date and watch them improve and you support then they leave after you helped them. Yep men. Take note.

Anonymous · Answer

Not getting closure and being the one to dump him. He said some horrid things and then ghosted me, so it took me a long time to stop believing them and realising how horrid he was. Never got the chance to tell him how awful he was to me so it has taken a long while to repair the damage he caused

DiscomfortZone · Answer

Well, I was below the age of criminal responsibility and I could have beat the living shit out of the whore. I could have destroyed her body like she tried destroying my lifez and what could she have done? Gone to the police and prove what exactly? I could have fucking killed her and left her to rot like the filth she was and I'll never forgive myself for not doing so.

jhnny1331 · Answer

My wife past away last year and I have several regrets one of them is she was supposed to have both legs amputated at the knee and she asked me to stand her up on her feet and hold her there one last time and I didn't and then About a week late she passed

djmzes · Answer

Simple

KeziL · Answer

Lack of communication made things difficult. Nothing went bad exactly, just we couldn't be real open with each other and that was a problem that stopped the relationship from ever progressing. I'm trying to get better about that.

jkm1864 · Answer

My biggest regret was all the options I had but didn't have the confidence to pursue. Yes as You get older You realize You wasted a lot of opportunities to better Yourself and honestly from a guys viewpoint any relationship is beneficial.

Vmm90 · Answer

It would have to be ignoring red flags. As well as wanting to break up several times because we wanted different things and allowing them to convince me to stay.

kambo_trick3y · Answer

Broke up with my ex right after her godson just died. Not proud of that one.  I don't regret the breakup in and of itself, just the timing. I should've stuck around.

Benjr134 · Answer

My biggest regret was actually not giving someone a second chance. Yes they had hurt me, but we were both young and dumb. I moved away for 2 years and when I came back she was completely different and was ashamed at what she had done. Unfortunately, I was too pompous to give her a second chance.

cheapshotbob · Answer

being a jerk then not going after her after i was the jerk. been living with it for 28 years. its an odd ball thing no one really does as much now but i still do regret it though.

Lliam · Answer

There is one that I regret not having the knowledge, wit or experience to know how to save. We loved each other and I could have saved the relationship if I had known how. But you live and learn.

Jjpayne · Answer

Not being as agressive or confident. Sometimes it pays to not be afraid to try things even though it's risky

Anonymous · Answer

One regret I had to leave her because it was not working out between us I had to make the hard choice.
I was glad she hated me after the breakup but when I explained and apologized after a year she understood.

StephenCF · Answer

Continuing it even when there were red flags over her toxicity, just to desperately continue feeling “loved” 😓💔

19vetteman91 · Answer

At the age of 30 I decided to stop cheating! I can honestly say I haven't nor will I ever cheat again! And yes I still feel bad for those that I cheated on !

nissan_dreaming85 · Answer

Texting someone else and getting caught  I will never do it again and lose that frust in the relationship. It was never that same and ultimately ended. It was not worth the chase.

Anonymous · Answer

Anal with a black man. Now I whistle when I fast.

Liam_Hayden · Answer

No regrets. Each relationship teaches me something, and if the relationship were meant to be it still would be.

Anonymous · Answer

Not a relationship but I was talking to a girl that I liked at first. After a few dates I started to lose a little interest, but I should’ve went on and maybe be together officially

loveslongnails · Answer

I didn't stick around long enough with this one woman who was really sensual and loving, because she wasn't forthcoming about something important. Looking back, I should have.

Jayrock24w · Answer

Nothing because without those mistakes, u can't improve ur life and make the right discision

BeenThereLovedIt · Answer

Staying long after it was obvious I needed to leave.

magiusX26 · Answer

being in them and ever being emotionally invested in another human being. has yet to disappoint royally.

Unit1 · Answer

Nothing, really. I was wrong about opening up to her but that's all there's to it. The outcome wouldn't have been different any other way.

OddBeMe · Answer

I took economic advantage of one chick. Didn’t realize til years later. I recently contacted her and she claims not to remember. But I was able to help her out and felt better.

ragequeen · Answer

Not leaving sooner 😂🙌

Jeyvaughn · Answer

Not hearing what she was reallt saying. When my fiance left I felt blindsided. But in hindsight she definitely made comments to indicate that she wasn't sticking around. I just didn't hear it that way at the time.

TheLastLady · Answer

I kissed a guy during girls night on a date. My ex knew and I got dumped for being a slut

Oric5 · Answer

That I even bothered to start nearly all of them. Left to my devices I believe Id be further along. The love of my life has always been Jesus Christ. Nothing has ever or will ever replace Him in my heart.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Probably my biggest regret was with this one girl 10 years ago. I regret that I asked for her Facebook instead of asking her out on a date.

Torari · Answer

Not being more self centered. I made myself subservient, which lead to a lack of respect, and a lack of sexual interest on her part.

ryancg · Answer

Not wisening up quick enough, before I ended up giving that manipulative girl over a hundreds of bucks and spending even more on gifts and what not.

Rippersavage · Answer

I have no regrets because I learnt so much from those experiences

MannMitAntworten · Answer

My lone regret was getting involved with a certain ex-fiancé of mine. She became awful.

here2helpuALL · Answer

That I didn't end it sooner. Gave her too many chances

bulletbob555 · Answer

I have regrets but its already happened. I tell myself that next time I will do better. That allows me to grow

Jacob_LV · Answer

I changed my personality, I didn't do stuff I liked. I forget about my Me.

mrkdvsn · Answer

Not making an effort to delay sexual activity, and not making more of an effort to really develop a strong relationship with her

Anonymous · Answer

I regret leaving him but it was for the best. Our relationship was doomed from the start, bad timing n all.

Anonymous · Answer

That I met and married my ex wife-literally cost me over a million dollars.

colin77 · Answer

I really don't hav regrets... jus wish I was more wise and mentally stronger

xXMidknightXx · Answer

Ignoring the warning signs for the sake of trying to be virtuous.

JesseCraft · Answer

I haven't been in a relationship yet. So I don't have any

pizzalovershouse · Answer

Sataying in q to lkng with some 1 who was mean to my friends an treated ne bad

simplelikeme · Answer

Trying to help the broken when she wouldn't even help herself. Won't do it again.

NaaaNcyyy · Answer

Lying to myself that it's all fine and that it will work

Anonymous · Answer

My biggest regret is ghosting her. There isn’t a single day I don’t think about her.

mrgspoter · Answer

Well only one that's been propper just wish could go back to the start.

What's your biggest regret in a past relationship?

Most Helpful Opinions

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

What's your biggest regret in a past relationship?

Most Helpful Opinions

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

We're glad to see you liked this post.