Well, honestly it depends. Maybe am I kind of old fashioned but I'm part of the men that thinks that "dancing" is a form of communication, with others or without, that can express a lot of feelings. Dancing can be motivated by joy, exitement, sadness, seduction, "et caetera desunt". Of course, I'm well aware of the tendency to confuse any kind of dancing with flirting, especially in those popular danceclub we probably all have in our respective towns. But If I am indeed aware of that (and usualy don't go there), so is my partner. Saying "I trust her" would be too vast and foggy so lets say that added to this general "trust" in the fact that she wouldn't do something that harms me, I also trust her social understanding. If it is too obvious that the individual asking for a dance is after some sexual interaction, I frankly believe that she would explain clearly (with words or any other communicational behavior she could take) that she is not after the same kind of social proximity. If the individual, in our example, is smart and subtile enough not to behave like a thirsty cockroach, but act educated enough, then, and even if there's always a hidden desire, I see no matter in discution. There's different kind of dances (not just the "booty pee pee scrubbing" atrocity) and even if thoses are sometimes sensual, depending on the human beings executing it, they can always be platonic. The variable here is the kind of dance and the general mood (as in the couple as in the club), and the psychology of each individual involved. Long story short, it depends. ;)
So I’m undecided. The men I’ve been in ltr with weren’t dancers. But I love this about my parents... my mom loves to dance... fast or slow. So when they were out at the bar in the city my dad was born and grew up in, she could dance with anyone that asked her so long as my dad did not place his hand on her leg under the table. If he did this, she knew to decline. Like I said he grew up there and knew most everyone on that side of the big city. She was from a small farm town and too trusting. So it was their way of him protecting her and her having her fun. She was born in 46 growing up in the 50s/60s so there are plenty of men her age willing to fast dance or slow dance it’s their generation thing. But I really admire how my parents worked it out the way they did.
If you're in a relationship, then a real man won't dance with other woman when he is with you or even look at them and Visa versa. He will make it private and romantic if he loves you like a candle light dinner. A man who parties can't be trusted coz your eyes can be drawn to many other girls or guys present there. Parties can be spent with normal friends too. Your partner is supposed to make you feel special and respect you. Leave the person who takes you to party beacuse that man may just be another jerk who shags out seeing multiple woman or checks out other woman despite you being with him as a partner. If you're below 21 then it's a different story. It's you're not in a relationship or are in a hookup then it's a different story.
For me, would depend on type of dancing. You "can "dance with people without getting all handsy, grabby, rubbing or grinding up on someone. So if it's just innocent no touching, rubbing grinding, I wouldn't see a problem... Have to trust your partner, besides knowing they could and wanting to are two different things.
I’m kind of possessive about club dancing. If I came alone with a man I want just the both of us to dance together. If it was a group of friends it might be different but alone no.
No. "hey lets go out to the club, you can drive me there, you can pay for my drinks, and then I can go and grind my ass on some other guys crotch! IT will be fun!" any woman proposing this to me would be immeditaley kicked out of my home (its incredibly disrespectful).
@Wisdom-Strength-Love Yeah but with good reason. I have to invest 80% of my waking life and almost all of my resources into her. The last thing I'm going to do is let some one else take her for a test drive.
I love to se my hubby dace witg my friends, I like the way he look with another girl, especially them tall like me, and I don't mind them getting intim too, and to se him stepping up his tiptoe to kiss my best girlfriend too, it look so cute and she just love too. And need i to say nothing ever change our relarionship or my friendship with my girlfriends either. You got to give and take a little bit, to be abel to enjoy life.
If we've gone out as a group and he danced with someone else, I don't think I would mind too much as long as he's not grinding on them or groping them obviously. If we've gone out just the two of us, it'd upset me for him to go off and dance with someone else. In both cases, I wouldn't want him to approach someone else (unless they're our friends) for the dance.
The first thing that has to be present in your relationship is trust. Good communication. Mutual respect. The absolute foundation of any successful relationship. If that is the case with a couple, than it will be in good fun. If your relationship is lacking those important factors, you'll be in a scene of Jersey Shore.
I'm not into clubs and any girl I date probably won't be either, but if we were to go, I would not want her to dance with someone else. It has nothing to do with my trust for her. My concern would be her dancing with someone and they try to do something stupid.
NO, cuz someone's going to be touching them sexually during it one way or another. Since it causes sexual things to happen is why I only want them to be with me, because me being a loyal girlfriend to my boyfriend showing loyalty as one allows me to be the one handling their sexual needs where ill help them get released making them end.
No I would not... if I go clubbing it has been with my partner and our best mate (he is practically the third wheel of our relationship XD ) and the three of us love dancing together. But I'd be pissed if my partner danced with a stranger. Our mate can do what he likes, he usally comes back to the house late after weve gone home or once stayed out all night...
If they like, my God most people hopefully aren't that insecure. Yea as long as they go home with me I dont give a damn who they dance with! Even if their not going home with mee still wouldn't, id take her home , kiss her and then go over to Big Mammas house!
Tgere is always restrictions in relationships and this should be one of them. When a guy asks a girl to dance with him at a club it is because he wants to get with her, which is obvious. Do I want ny girlfriend dancing with someone who wants to get with her? No. Completely reasonable. Any time you treat someone that isn't your s. o like they are your s. o, you are cheating on them.
I've danced with other girls, wants to get with them? no. If I wanted that id probably get with them. And look. Dont try to control him or own him, you'll never keep any man, unless he wants another mother. It just never works like that with either sex. Just dont be insecure, if he wanted her he wouldn't be with you, not unless its just a sex thing, which you dont appear like that. Just relax.
I would be under the impression that a night out as a couple is supposed to be just that. One doesn’t make reservations for a anniversary dinner at an exclusive dining location to go and sit at the bar and mingle with the patrons, leaving your partner to dine alone.
Doesn’t have to be a birthday or anniversary to draw expectation lines.
Depends. If the guy is just "dancing for fun" i wouldn't mind a dance or two. If the guy is hitting on ur partner, well NO!!! And trust me you'll know when they're hitting on ur partner. If you don't trust the situation, just don't.
We dance together! I wish a chick would shake her ass on my man, I wouldn’t need to say anything because he would never let that happen. Before covid we were active partiers so were use to it. But I’ve watched him dance with old lady’s at a winery we went to that was cute lol!
dancing for the last 30 years has been something you do, not with a single parnter but with everyone else on the dancefloor so unless you are from the 1930s or have some jealousy issues i just can't see the problem with it
I would not likely be clubbing with anyone. It's not my scene. But if my last dragged me out to one and she started dancing with other guys I would leave without her and she would have to find a ride home by herself.
Sure I would have no issue with this. I love to dance and have fun so if I accept to be allowed to dance with other and I would allow my partner to do the same.
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