He's been acting weird ever since I called him out about him being too emotionally attached to his best friend (an ex)?

[Anonymous]

So I called my now ex boyfriend out on something that bothered me. Considering I felt like he disregarded my feelings at times while going out of his way to tend to his best friends ( who doesn't even live in the same state as us) and some of it was literally for a vary similar situation we were both going through.

I told him he seemed too emotionally attached to her and asked why was he in a relationship, if he couldn't give 100%. like being there in every other way except emotionally for me. (all of his emotional support is going to her). Hed talk about her and I'd be ok with it, he would even tell her about me and us, sometimes a little much more than I'd like.

Either way after we had the conversation he brought it up two weeks later, trying to claim I was jealous. When really I was pointing out an observation considering it involved him brushing my feelings off but expecting me to be there for him, even though he's only open with his friend.

He said he thought about how I felt, then in the second convo he said he stayed up thinking about what I said specifically about him and his friend and that it bothered him. He even admitted to being emotionally attached to her finally, which confirms exactly what I was saying. He said other people have said similar things as me about their friendship but his guy friends don't see anything wrong.

[Nawlins34]

1.) So I called my now ex boyfriend out on something that bothered me. Considering I felt like he disregarded my feelings at times while going out of his way to tend to his best friends ( who doesn't even live in the same state as us) and some of it was literally for a vary similar situation we were both going through.

I told him he seemed too emotionally attached to her and asked why was he in a relationship, if he couldn't give 100%. like being there in every other way except emotionally for me. (all of his emotional support is going to her). - Good assessment, I'm glad you saw it for what it was and left.

2.) He'd talk about her and I'd be ok with it, he would even tell her about me and us, sometimes a little much more than I'd like. - This was the mistake, through your inaction, you approved of the behavior. You didn't set the boundary that it wouldn't be tolerated. Not that I think it would've mattered, he'd choose her over you initially, but I'm making the point that if you don't set boundaries, you invite problems, intended or not.

3.) Either way after we had the conversation he brought it up two weeks later, trying to claim I was jealous. - This is an emotional reaction from him being asked to choose on the lowkey. It also demonstrates that he's so far in that he can't see it.

4.) When really I was pointing out an observation considering it involved him brushing my feelings off but expecting me to be there for him, even though he's only open with his friend. - He's proving you right.

5.) He said he thought about how I felt, then in the second convo he said he stayed up thinking about what I said specifically about him and his friend and that it bothered him. He even admitted to being emotionally attached to her finally, which confirms exactly what I was saying. - Glad to see he's maturing, but don't go back to this guy. Or you remove the lesson he learned.

6.) He said other people have said similar things as me about their friendship but his guy friends don't see anything wrong. - Because their eyes are closed.

What are you asking exactly?

[Asker]

as commented below, I realized I was mostly looking for confirmation more than anything. I thought I was setting boundaries and I'm still working and getting better at it so I'm glad you pointed that out. Thank you for your insight, lesson learned.

[Nawlins34]

No worries, we learn as we go. Be safe and good luck.

[socksguy]

Not sure your question, but yes it seems your intuition was spot on and you should not feel guilty about it. Good for you on getting out of your relationship with him,.

[Asker]

I guess it really wasn't a question. I think subconsciously I was looking for more of a confirmation that I was right. Considering he's been trying to work on things and take into consideration how I feel and what's been going on