Male friend slept at my place, I didn't tell my boyfriend. Dealbreaker? (Page 2)
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With or without notice, if I had a girlfriend and she were having a guy over at her house, that'd be the end of it. In fact, if she were really close with guy friends, we wouldn't even be together
PREACH! There is a reason why it's a red flag when a woman surrounds herself with "guy" friends. And this only reinforces it
Mam, I don't think it's a deal breaker.
But him being angry is justifiable. According to me he is not angry because your friend had a sleepover at your place. He might be angry because you didn't tell him about your friend being at your house.
Put yourself in his shoes. If he had a girl friend over for the night and didn’t tell you, you’d be a little upset right? Now neither of you are in the wrong, I think you need to talk about boundaries with him
Sounds like you need to set some ground rules about sleep-overs..
I agree, that if he did not sleep with you, there was no reason to mention it..
But put yourself in your boyfriend's shoes.. What if his "friend (woman)" slept overnight with him? How would you feel?
Sorry to say this but isn't it your place. Lol and last I assume you checked you pay your bills and have no bills shares by your boyfriend. Therefore until he contributes to your financial situation and bills. His got no say in who can or can't show up to your place. Tell em his acting like a little girl.
And here, ladies and gentlemen is someone who is not relationship material
I usually try to balance my opinions on these. But i have to say, that was not the best thing to do. You should've informed. The simple analogy is that the opposite thing would have irked you, right?
Now what you can do is apologise and mend things but these things inevitably fester. So let's hope you guys pull through.
I would be PISSED if my boyfriend had another female spend the night with him, doesn't matter if they're long time friends or not. Especially if he didn't tell me about it. He didn't sleep in the same bed as you, did he?
It would have been a shock you hadn't said anything before it happened You have to look at it if the shoe was on the other foot He has a girl he may have had a relationship with How do you respond to that knowledge
Yeah he is, frankly. It’s literally none of his business. You aren’t property and it isn’t his house. If you want to let your friend sleep over, that’s entirely your business and he’s not entitled to know about it.
I'm guessing your hair color is a lovely shade of blue or bright please bk and you're fat.
1. It’s brown, same as it’s always been
2. Reported and blocked. Go fuck yourself.
Totally agree. You're an adult. No one can tell you what you can and can't do in your home.
Legit ask yourself this. How would you feel if the situation was reversed. You'd be upset too
If I were your guy I'd probably punch you in the face and gtfo of there. Either troll question or your just another dumb attention whoring bitch.
Not necessarily a deal breaker, but Id be super pissed off for you letting it happen in the first place. And its only natural for his trust in you to take a hit.
That was super inappropriate, and the fact that you didn't tell him makes it worse and tells me you knew very well that it was inappropriate. I don't blame him for losing his trust in you.
You have to see from your boyfriend perspective and not just your own. Yes, its your apartment and your friend can sleep over which isn't wrong but it can mess with your boyfriend's head that you might did something with your friend.
He ain't overreacting. You should have told him about sleepovers. You should think from his perspective. What would u do if a girl (20f) who is your boyfriend's childhood friend slept in his place and you werent informed?
yep you got a big long convo on its way, or a breakup, only time will tell
He's probably more pissed because you didn't tell him about it. Keeping it from him could potentially lead to trust issues.
Did your friend sleep in your bed with you? That would be objectionable. Was there ever anything between you and said friend? That would be objectionable too. Was there any genital contact? That would be the most objectionable of all.
Best friend for many years or not, you shouldn't have allowed him to sleep over and hope to keep it a secret from your boyfriend.
Lol if the roles were reversed you'd have a problem