i'd consider myself a failure as a parent. i've studied a bit of psychology but basically if your child is not socially adjusted at the age where they have partners, you fucked up in their first years. there's not much you can do. actual psychologists have no actual ways to deal with that, so you as a parent will have even worse chances. they mostly will naturally adjust at around the ages of 28-30. untill then, all you can do is try shit and hope but probably nothing will help anyway.
Ohhhh yeah. I’m sorry but if a child of mine puts his hands on his partner like that, I’m giving him a severe beating. He will learn his fucking lesson, or I’ll do it again and again.
I don't know what I'd do, but I'd ofc try to do something about it, even if it means prison for him I think (I don't have a son so who knows how I'd really feel if it came to that). Of course it also depends on the girl, because if she keeps standing up for him, there's only so much that I can do :/
Frankly fighting him wouldn't be out of the question either, but I'm not a fighter and I'd probably just get my ass kicked too.
I would confront him and challenge him and regardless of his response I would knock his ass Out Some People would say Brian you are violent , No I believe you address Physical aggression with physical aggression This is another reason why I feel that especially females should have personal defense running.. It is not a question of if the enemy is coming it's a question of are you ready when it arrives. Maximum efficiency with minimal effort
Anyone touches a female in anger needs to have a good reason. I have a daughter and she has been raised properly. U dont not mock or belittle anyone no matter sex or race. But if anyone touched her id be going to jail for murder. Facts...
I would try to make the girl leave the guy but I wouldn't call the police on my son or anything. I would be unable to do so, my mother have kicked and abused me (I had a broken teeth who's till not repaired or anything, she also regulary insult me and degrade me) But I still didn't call the police, I can't do so on people of my family.
Being family is no excuse for turning a blind eye to violence
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Well no kids yet.. but I have a brother who is a little bit younger. He slapped his girlfriend in front of me. I took a broom and I whooped him really good. I also adviced his girlfriend to leave him. No one can touch you, beat or slap you. He did anger therapy and now he is ok.
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Also I am well aware of what I said. Seeing him being violent with his girl because she didn't give him a beer.. that just annoyed me and I had to do something to stop him from beating her
I won't, and even of it's a must that I must do something, Before doing anything, I'd ask him what she did to him, and I'd ask her why she's still with him. And the thing I'd most likely do at the end is leave them alone to solve their problems and grow independently.
I would envision a future conversation going something like this... "Grand Pa, Why do you walk with such a bad limp?" "Well, your Grand Pa made a bad decision one time and hit his girlfriend and her family found out..."
It sounds like he is an adult so his Mother does not have much control over him. The biggest thing his Mother could do is if he lives with her she could tell him she is going to kick him out if he does not stop hurting his girlfriend. If he does not live with his Mother the girlfriend needs to get far, far away from him before he hurts her she seriously.
Well I wouldn’t raise my son to do that and if he did I would talk to him about it. Or get him help because maybe there’s something wrong with him. I would just think about if a guy was doing that to my daughter
I'd move her in with me for 1 to see if she fuckin with him to piss him off that bad, and 2, wait for him to try that shit in my house and beat the shit outta him and show her how to do it next time he wants to do it when they are alone.
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My dad would of kicked my ass (back when he could) for doing something like that. My mom would of had me arrested even if she didn’t see the whole incident. In fact you pushed the chivalry bullshit way too far and literally raised me to kiss girls asses which I hated them for.
I would obviously stop him. I didn't raise an abusive son, so if he goes around abusing girls, then he's gonna regret it. No one should ever abuse someone. I would turn in my son, family or not.
I’d definitely have a stern talk with him to figure out why he is beating up his girlfriend. Who knows, she could be neglectful / abusive towards him and that isn’t being seen by outsiders.
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i'd consider myself a failure as a parent. i've studied a bit of psychology but basically if your child is not socially adjusted at the age where they have partners, you fucked up in their first years. there's not much you can do. actual psychologists have no actual ways to deal with that, so you as a parent will have even worse chances. they mostly will naturally adjust at around the ages of 28-30. untill then, all you can do is try shit and hope but probably nothing will help anyway.
Ohhhh yeah. I’m sorry but if a child of mine puts his hands on his partner like that, I’m giving him a severe beating. He will learn his fucking lesson, or I’ll do it again and again.
You will get downvoted for that. I am here to see it.
Oh I’m sure I will. Enjoy the show hon
As always!
That's messed up. Poor girl.
I don't know what I'd do, but I'd ofc try to do something about it, even if it means prison for him I think (I don't have a son so who knows how I'd really feel if it came to that). Of course it also depends on the girl, because if she keeps standing up for him, there's only so much that I can do :/
Frankly fighting him wouldn't be out of the question either, but I'm not a fighter and I'd probably just get my ass kicked too.
I would confront him and challenge him and regardless of his response I would knock his ass Out Some People would say Brian you are violent , No I believe you address Physical aggression with physical aggression This is another reason why I feel that especially females should have personal defense running.. It is not a question of if the enemy is coming it's a question of are you ready when it arrives. Maximum efficiency with minimal effort
depends what age gap he is. if he's young and still under my custody I would fo anything it takes to remind him I did not raise a toxic loser.
but if he's old and out on his own then on his own he is. but he better not think about contacting me if he needs a bail
Anyone touches a female in anger needs to have a good reason. I have a daughter and she has been raised properly. U dont not mock or belittle anyone no matter sex or race. But if anyone touched her id be going to jail for murder. Facts...
I would try to make the girl leave the guy but I wouldn't call the police on my son or anything. I would be unable to do so, my mother have kicked and abused me (I had a broken teeth who's till not repaired or anything, she also regulary insult me and degrade me)
But I still didn't call the police, I can't do so on people of my family.
Being family is no excuse for turning a blind eye to violence
Well no kids yet.. but I have a brother who is a little bit younger. He slapped his girlfriend in front of me. I took a broom and I whooped him really good. I also adviced his girlfriend to leave him. No one can touch you, beat or slap you. He did anger therapy and now he is ok.
Also I am well aware of what I said. Seeing him being violent with his girl because she didn't give him a beer.. that just annoyed me and I had to do something to stop him from beating her
I won't, and even of it's a must that I must do something, Before doing anything, I'd ask him what she did to him, and I'd ask her why she's still with him. And the thing I'd most likely do at the end is leave them alone to solve their problems and grow independently.
I would envision a future conversation going something like this...
"Grand Pa, Why do you walk with such a bad limp?"
"Well, your Grand Pa made a bad decision one time and hit his girlfriend and her family found out..."
It sounds like he is an adult so his Mother does not have much control over him. The biggest thing his Mother could do is if he lives with her she could tell him she is going to kick him out if he does not stop hurting his girlfriend. If he does not live with his Mother the girlfriend needs to get far, far away from him before he hurts her she seriously.
Well I wouldn’t raise my son to do that and if he did I would talk to him about it. Or get him help because maybe there’s something wrong with him. I would just think about if a guy was doing that to my daughter
I'd move her in with me for 1 to see if she fuckin with him to piss him off that bad, and 2, wait for him to try that shit in my house and beat the shit outta him and show her how to do it next time he wants to do it when they are alone.
My dad would of kicked my ass (back when he could) for doing something like that. My mom would of had me arrested even if she didn’t see the whole incident. In fact you pushed the chivalry bullshit way too far and literally raised me to kiss girls asses which I hated them for.
He would be incarcerated faster than he could say his own name.
I would obviously stop him. I didn't raise an abusive son, so if he goes around abusing girls, then he's gonna regret it. No one should ever abuse someone. I would turn in my son, family or not.
I will home arrest him and give him professional help you can't beat someone
I’d definitely have a stern talk with him to figure out why he is beating up his girlfriend. Who knows, she could be neglectful / abusive towards him and that isn’t being seen by outsiders.
But no way would I do absolutely nothing!
If it were my own son and I saw him in the act of abusing his girlfriend, I'd put his goddamn head through the wall.
If I heard but did not see him abuse his girlfriend, I would report him.