What would you do if you found yourself in a love triangle?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I was in one and it was hard. My friend had a huge crush on a guy I liked but the guy asked me out and I said yes not thinking. When my friend saw me and him at a school dance she took it well but later I had this conversation with her...
Her: WHY WOULD YOU DO THIS TO ME?
me: Huh?
Her: Why did you go out with ****** (i bleeped names for privacy reasons)
Me: because he asked me
her: but you knew I liked him
Me: Omg
Me: ...
Her: WELL?
Me: I am so sorry I totally forgot! I just really liked ****** and when he asked me I got so excited please forgive me!!!
(Friend 2 joins the chat)
Freind2: What the heck is going on?
Her: ******** stole my date!
Friend2: did he ask you or her
Her: her
Me: **** I am so sorry!!!
Friend2: y'all need to chill! If he asked her you shouldn't get mad!
Me: Ya
Her: I hate you guys!

The next day
Her: look I am really sorry i was mad
Me: its ok thanks for bein ok
friend2: Yay!!!

Now things are fine and we are great friends and I have a boyfriend! But it was hard.

AlienParasite · Accepted Answer

... sing this song? I've never been in a love triangle. It must be uncomfortable. I guess I would try to distance myself as possible, ask to not be pressured and reflect what person I like more before acting. If both people pressure me harshly to make a choice, I'd reject both. The thing is, I'd like to get rid of the triangle as quick as possible, by choosing one or rejecting both.

Bluemax · Accepted Answer

I guess I sorta did when I was a teen.

I really liked this one girl, but she didn't return my feelings. OK. Moving on.

However, she started to date my friend. I'll not deny it was heartbreaking. It was difficult to see them together. Now, lest anyone be thinking, "Why couldn't you just be happy for them?" my response is I was. However, you can be happy for another person yet still be hurting. The fact that I had to maintain contact with her if I wanted to see my friend wasn't easy at all. I would have preferred it never to have happened.

So my response is I will extricate myself if I can. If I can't, like the situation above, then I will hurt and cry myself to sleep on occasion while maintaining a brave front to them.

Arivor · Accepted Answer

Oh, I have been in a love triangle... actually I have no idea how many angles there were. It was the most horrible time in my life... I never knew where I stood with that Girl and it actually took me getting into a terrible car accident that put me in the hospital for over a week to knock some sense into me. I ended up completely cutting her out of my life and I even ended up throwing anything I had that would remind me of her. Yet, I can't forget her... she had this way of making you just want her. Apparently she made a ton of guys feel the same way.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

Disassociate myself from the situation all together..

guesswhoseback · Answer

The third wheel is put to use for when it’s needed and then discarded as a worthless nuisance.

In my experience women love this shit. They get their egos inflated, they get the best of both worlds and all the drama and excitement that goes along with it. Guys do this too but they don’t look to “set it up” the same way women do.

Typically she falls for one guy more than the other. The guy she will end having stronger feelings for is usually the guy who acts less interested. She ends up of exploiting the other guy via friendzone bs. She’s also overconfident that the 3rd wheel guy is going to be oaks with it.

If you are competing with someone else it’s best just to withdrawal from your target. I fell for this bs once in college and got burned very very badly.

My advice for you younger guys out there. If your gut is telling you that you are getting played, you are. Trust your gut and withdrawal.

anexi · Answer

I advocate for open and honest communication and believe in polyamory, so if a person I was interested in has feelings for another person then I would encourage them to explore those feelings as long as they don't put us in a "choose one over the other" sort of situation. For example, if they have an important family gathering, discuss it with both people together about who is invited and why. Turns can be taken for stuff like that. With proper scheduling and consideration for everybody involved, it would not be problematic.

If I have feelings for two people, same deal really. If one cannot accept my poly lifestyle, then they are not for me. Jealousy is natural and acceptable, as long as they are willing to work through it with me instead of trying to control me.

Inexpensivefurniture · Answer

Leave. If I'm ever in a position where someone tells me that they love me and someone else and don't know who to choose, I would tell them to choose the other person. I don't want any doubt in my partner's mind that I'm who they want. If you want someone else, that's fine. But I won't be strung along while you pick one of us. I'll go find someone else whose affection I don't have to beg for

lightbulb27 · Answer

turn it into a love square. calculate the sin of the angle. ooo... that was deep and funny... just kidding...

it's gonna be an f'd up mess generally speaking. I'd get out. but it's the individuals growing and part of that is deep suffering. no way around it... reality is, everyone got issues and one or more may have intimacy issues, commitment issues, addictive issues, who knows the depths... Emotional Weather Forecast: likely a hurricane forming...

serious · Answer

Find myself in one?

Absolutely no chance.

No, I won't and I won't allow that to happen in the first place. I know my purpose and so I won't allow any woman to enter my life by any means ( as far as love is concerned). I am always alert, always cautious and observant and so I will ensure it never happens.

CuriousCantaloupe · Answer

I have. I had two guy friends who were also bffs and they both asked me out. They didn't tell each other about their feelings for me so they both asked me out separately. It was not fun and no girls it is not romantic especially when you really care for them both as a friend. I didn't end up with any one of them bc at the time i had too many things going on and I really consider them as friends only. One is still my friend but the other one was really hurt and we werent as close as we used to.

ChattyGuy43 · Answer

Bail out while you can, your in a lose lose situation, ithappened to me & the girl i wanted to be with found out about the girl I had been seeing and fucking as she was closer to me and she came over to the girl I was fucking house to meet her, she ended up almost hooking up with my girl so I just bailed and left them to it, but it got even more complicated when the other girl found out that I might have knocked up my girl as well.
It all got too messy in the end and I just bailed out away from both of them.
A very fucked up situation, so as I said, bail, save yourself

Anonymous · Answer

I'm in the middle of a love triangle, they don't know each other and it's great but all of us are classmates so it will be hard to hide it, i just want to choose one but it's too hard for me to choose, one is too pretty and the other one is pretty and have a great personality, they are such as water and fire, the both of them love me but i told them to let me think because i don't wanna to lose one of them, i love how the both of them feel proud of me and what i wanna do in my life and my dreams, the both are trying their best to get me and make me fall in love, the both care about me and love reading my drafts and encouraging me to keep writing and want me to publish a novel, I don't know what to do so advise me.
by the way i don't care about shape as much as personality and that's why i'm confused.

postempestas · Answer

Let them fight a little for me, see who deserves me more and then choose. In the other case, I woud just let the other bitch win, if he has to think about choosing someone, he doesn't have to choose me.

katiesmuff · Answer

Very quickly back myself out of the picture! I never would want someone who would have a problem figuring out that he only loved me and wanted to be with me only!

gotc147 · Answer

What I did last year when I was in one: go for it.

She was already in a relationship, only reason I was willing to entertain the idea was because I fell in love with her, meaning really fell in love with her, not puppy love that most people only experience.

Cherokeehp · Answer

Probably pick neither. I’ve been in all sorts of love triangles and squares all a variety of other shapes. But truthfully, it takes a lot for me to like someone. I was a heartbreaker before I met my boyfriend.

Puppystarfish23 · Answer

I was in one once and i fucked up massively but i went for neither of the men in the end because i realised both were massive ass holes and found the love of my life a couple years later and couldn't be more happier with the choice i made.

Mad1na · Answer

Excuse myself out of there if I am not #1 which is the only one then I don't need that. I have enough love for myself to not keep going with a sunk cost.

luvstoned4him · Answer

get out as soon as possible, almost happened to me and thats what I did. Not work the drama, trust me

abby172020 · Answer

i would choose one person but the person who makes you feel the most good and not be in a love triangle because it is not good and just choose one and be serious about it like be sure of who you pick which should be someone you really want to be with and to avoid being in a love triangle you should always choose one person.

wingattebaby16 · Answer

been there, it was hella fun, then the older woman started getting Jealous and now I live with a friend.

My man won't stand up for me... and yet he calls me all the time to tell me he loves me so much.. i have been hanging up on him.. told him he needs to get a back bone and stand up to her for me.

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

I'm not sure what I would do. I mean, I have to like both people for the right reasons first off and second they'd need to be ok with it without jealousy. I'm not sure if those relationships last very long or not. But I guess it's something that needs much more managing than a mono one. I know when I watch cartoons or anime I might ship 3 characters together if I like both of them with the same or main one.

Akachan · Answer

Leave, i can't stand that shit in manga so I'm not going to live it out irl either.

JHNS98 · Answer

I have actual experience in this. Five years ago I had gotten to the point of having a crush on one of my friends, who was not single. Then, earlier this autumn, I observed the development of a relationship between my then-crush and my classmate.

I thought of stopping it before it got too far becaus I just couldn't stand seeing then flirting and what not... But then I finally moved on and it's all good now. I'm still single though...

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

What I should do: get myself out as soon as possible What I actually did do: dig myself in deeper

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Are you in that position now?

Luv2BRealExotic13 · Answer

I left, cussed the guy out, if he would’ve been near me I would’ve fought him or had one of my male friends do it.

glock33sig357 · Answer

Each woman brings something the other might not have and the same for men, not every woman is willing to learn to please her man in the kitchen or the bedroom to name the most obvious ones or be able to connect on an intellectual level. And the other may have those qualities, for me if i know that the two can't handle the knowledge of each other then keep them separated but be honest of what they lack in the relationship.

Mishthefish · Answer

I would go for the person I fell inlove with second > because if you were truly inlove with the first person , you wouldn’t be looking around or falling inlove with another person. Chances are you were never inlove with the first person 🤷🏻‍♀️

lanadelrey25 · Answer

Get out of it. If I was cheated on I might do something... bad.

Sakura-san · Answer

choose the guy that I love and attracted to the most and walk away from the other

TheLittleInnocent · Answer

I would get rid of the third vertex of the triangle. @Brainsbeforebeauty helped me realise the usefulness of dictionnaries. lol jk

Ano_nymuso · Answer

I was in one, and I left like a queen even thought he wanted me. way more than her. But let shorty have him since she's SO IN LOVE with him right lol

TruthBringer · Answer

Never experienced it, but if I did, I'll ditch her instantly and focus on someone who is focused on me. What's the point in chasing someone who doesn't want you?

coachTanthony · Answer

Enjoy it I suppose lol

Gedaria · Answer

They are complicated. But who do you dump, you end staying a three some..

Sarahloves19 · Answer

I will BREAK IT OFF and stop loving that fucker. It's an insult for me that he was loved by a queen but he chose some worthless girl over me.

White_King2000 · Answer

With another guy? dump her With a girl? Try and fuck both of them in a threesome for as long as j can but ultimately dump her.

BCA6010 · Answer

Pop smoke and destroy the bridge. I don't want any part in a love triangle.

Anon_deals · Answer

Enjoy it, both men would be mine. If something is wrong with one in the long run, I'll take the other one and everything would still be fine

hellionthesagereborn · Answer

Extricate myself from it. I don't play those kinds of games.

Missycloak · Answer

1. If the guy likes only me and another girl has a crush on him: date the guy.  2. If the guy doesn't like me that much or likes both: walk away. Not dealing with this...

PetrovaFire92 · Answer

Leave, because I've been in one never got picked. 💔

Don-__-Don · Answer

Hard to say, I don't see myself being in such a thing.

Anonymous · Answer

I was in one with my ex-wife and did not even know it at the time.

Anonymous · Answer

Leave. These things don't end well. I don't want such stress in my life. I'll find someone else eventually hopefully.

humanearth · Answer

The same thing I did the last time. Had orgy with them. Had them move in with me and have both

Nik1hil · Answer

Add an angle bisector so there are 2 love triangle in the scenario..

LaughingCookies · Answer

coming from experience, not a good thing. especially if you're their friend and they end up together and you have to pretend like it doesn't hurt you even though you're dying inside. Young love my ass.

Zeus_66 · Answer

Have a threesome and make the triangle into a tripod.

Guanfei · Answer

Been there, did the wrong choice, lost both girls.

Anonymous · Answer

I would never do that.. That's disgusting I'd break up with them and walk away. There's no excuse for cheating, it's vile and dishonest

kamalravi25 · Answer

If she likes u then never let her go, else let her go.

dwiller943 · Answer

As long as it's 2 guys, I'm fine with it.

iseekpinetrees · Answer

Puck the better person

franklin1989 · Answer

I’ve been in one and it sucks. I never ended up with either one. Basically, I was viewed as a dog or a playboy

Price511 · Answer

Why don't we all just... Fuck each other?

Poppykate · Answer

Lol 😂 Well now you have options!

Tom_Steve · Answer

I would choose the one that in which I have more fun and good time.

killerboots · Answer

MFM: let the other guy have her. I can lose to the next man. MFF: Try to broker a deal

InferiorElegy · Answer

Wake myself up. I can't even get one girl to like me there's no way 2 would ever like me.

pleasestopthis · Answer

Get the heck away from it

Anonymous · Answer

I have before. I ended up in a ployanorous relationship

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