Love vs Infatuation, what's the difference?

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Lliam · Accepted Answer

Infatuation is mostly physical. You think the person is adorable, desirable, hot. You think they are the most perfect creature ever born. It's one of most wonderful and intense feelings we can experience. It's magical.

Love comes once we know all about the person - their quirks, habits, idiosyncrasies, faults, flaws. You see them as a person, not a perfect object. It's when two people trust each other completely and want each other to be happy and fulfilled.
Love isn't frantic, hot and steamy. One can keep the infatuation alive for that.
Love is for the long haul. It is calm and content. It's real life, not fantasy.

pajamasam · Accepted Answer

A person in love will rise to the occasion when things get tough. When their partner has a meltdown and everything goes wrong, they are ready to pitch in to do all they can to help bring their partner out of the weeds.

A person who is simply infatuated doesn't do that. When things get tough they begin to lose interest. The spell wears off when they realize the relationship will require effort and that their partner isn't always perfect.

Love isn't a trophy for showing off. Its a person who you have made a commitment to. Its a sworn oath to be ready to lift your partner up whenever the need might arise.

AmandaYVR · Accepted Answer

I'm not really sure, but my own definition would be something about how well you know that person, and how close you truly are. If you are admiring from a distance, and they don't know of your feelings, or maybe even that you exist, then that is most definitely not love, because you are not basing it on enough concrete or known information.

But you can love a friend, and they have no idea, and you have shared many things. Your feelings are based on something real. It just may not be reciprocated.

JustAHumanHere · Accepted Answer

Love means you love and adore someone for their flaws, their imperfection and you see all complex parts of them and you accept it. Infatuation is when your inlove with the idea of love or the idea of the person instead of the actual person.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

Love is empathy built around conscience and compassion and familiarity and infatuation is excitement based on sexual or intellectual interest

Madhatter920 · Answer

Infatuation is largely based off of what you imagine the person to be like and it fades the more you get to know them. Love is based off of what you actually know about the person and forms over time as you learn more about them.

DeeToPlay · Answer

Love and infatuation are basically the same thing with love being the calmed down version of infatuation which is usually pretty much out of control with expressions of physical desire towards the other person involved in the tryst. Some scholars in the field don't believe in the institution that encompasses love. Blaming it on the way Western societies and the church have made the decision to keep human beings in a state which is not how this vessel called human being was designed to exist. Monotonous behavior is not a natural thing to being a human which is why the rate of divorce is such a high level. Lol

Andres77 · Answer

Just my opinion...

Infatuation is a feeling that will go away, especially if it's not reciprocated. It usually won't survive hardship or sacrifice.

Love is a choice that endures, even if they don't love you back. Sacrifice is usually included in that package and even in hardship it endures.

Stalkers might think that what they have is love by my definition but I'll add, what's good for the other person is priority.
And just because a stalker might think that THEY are good for the other person, that doesn't count.🤨

DaMack999 · Answer

Infatuation is believing you're in love but you're just horny goat. Running on hormonal thinking and once all is some and gone. You're asking yourself, why did I even date that girl or why did I even sleep with her like omg I don't even like them. Lol that's infatuation. Love has meaningful relationship, you care about he person regardless of sex or not you enjoy being around them. You get butterflies when they say good morning ❤️ luv. Or get Valentine gifts n presents cause they remember you and what matters to you. Not just there to bang n say see you next week. Lol

Jjpayne · Answer

I'd say one is healthy and natural while the other is unrealistic and obsessive. It's nice to love someone but real love requires space and trust. If you are hyper focused on someone, those two things are hard to do. They need to be free to go with their friends just like you are free to go with their own and when they come home, sometimes they just need some alone time after work

flamiE · Answer

If you put them first and think about their well-being then it’s probably love. Love would hep you get through the times when they’d slip up. If they did something wrong and you’re not willing to forgive them or even hear their side of the story, then it’s purely infatuation.

SunnySri · Answer

According to me mam, Infatuation is feeling someone develops after being attracted to one facet of a person and then develop an image of that person, which often is not true.
Love on the other hand is a feeling you develop for person after understanding or knowing the real person.
Some people might also say that Infatuation is the initial stage for love or idolization of someone.

BCRanger10 · Answer

Infatuation is a basic attraction or an attraction to an idea of what something or someone is. Love is the choice to pursue, honor, and cherish the other person at a deeper level.

Some-girl · Answer

Love is putting them first no matter the situation is and knowing it could hurt you but it’s best for you and that person and being able to look past their faults.

Infatuation is where you only care about there physical appearance and become so invested by what they look like and not learn more about what their actually like.

MCheetah · Answer

Infatuation is baby love. Love itself is mature and fully grown and has gone through all the steps to reach that level. Also, I like pink @Anonymous 's answer. (Bad running gag is bad.)

Givemore · Answer

Ally I'll take the top reply thanks x

Love is selfless, infatuation is not.
Self gratification or self sacrifice.
There is no me in love, if there is, your relationship is a lie and it's just infatuation. X

jgibsonian1986 · Answer

Infatuation wants to self satisfy. Love is putting yourself aside to satisfy someone else.

The_Inquisitor · Answer

Infatuation is obsession it disappears, Love is a connection and can last through several decades of not even being there anymore.

EmotionOfFear · Answer

Well, usually I would say love means you love someone unconditionally. You love them for them, even with their flaws. But I suppose someone can be infatuated with someone and accept their flaws, too...

jshm2 · Answer

Love is caring enough to do something positive.  Infatuation is not caring, but willing to do anything.

dpy87 · Answer

You love someone regardless of their flaws. Infatuation is how you want to perceive them when they are not like that in real life.

ohshee · Answer

How real your going to be the words you use when speaking , the things you do and how you lake love

Sevenpointfive · Answer

infatuation comes first usually, then love when you get closer

Wise4myage · Answer

Infatuation is the equivalent of a crush. Love is more complicated and takes time to nurture.

Massageman · Answer

Infatuation is fleeting and superficial, and not really a relationship.  Love is a deep, abiding, sacrificial relationship.

DizzyAster2 · Answer

Love is deep seated longing for someone. Infatuation is a short lived excitement over someone. Infatuation can lead to love if properly cultivated, but they are not the same.

tjbyrd39 · Answer

Love is a chemical imbalance in your brain. Infatuation is a chemical imbalance balance a little lower.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Infatuation feels great, doesn't involve sacrifice and doesn't last long. Love involves constant sacrifices.

Liam_Hayden · Answer

Infatuation is about how you feel. Love is about how you help another.

mrgspoter · Answer

Love's near impossible to explain, infatuation is what everyone says love is

OddBeMe · Answer

theyre both emotions. but id say love is wanting to stay with someone no matter what.

Twalli · Answer

Infatuation dies out, actual love doesn't. They are the same at the very start though.

KungPaoTeriyaki · Answer

The motives behind and the implications of your actions.

Joker_ · Answer

I like @Madhatter920's answer

Nayyr · Answer

I like @joker_'s answer

pizzalovershouse · Answer

Caring instead of just sex

Gedaria · Answer

Not sure but both are great...

morganlove · Answer

If you’re willing to disagree with them, it’s love

Anonymous · Answer

I have absolutely no idea.

dictator97 · Answer

Love demands time, infatuation make time fly away.

Yuuibtony · Answer

Infatuation is lust love is from the heart

Coolmanxl · Answer

Actually no difference

Alfa-jor · Answer

I dont know neither

Anonymous · Answer

Both the same

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